I frequently wonder how Sp who have been working this industry for many years go about being honest about their sexual history in a relationship. Don’t get me wrong… I have nothing but the highest respect for all of these beautiful ladies and they have worked miracles on me for many years. But let’s face it… many of these ladies have been with 3-5-8 hundred or even thousands of men. Again… no judgement, but how do they go about explaining to someone In a new relationship that this has been their life? Or do they leave it out? Just wondering and would love some insight on this…. Just as lounge chit chat.
How do SP integrate back into society?
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You are making the assumption that these ladies want a traditional relationship with a man, likely followed by children (Although many have a child or children born before they entered the industry).
Not only has that been on decline in society in general, it is even less prevalent among sex workers.
If she wants that, she might well marry a regular customer. Read the damn reviews. Half the guys here are in love with their ATFs and would likely marry them without a bit of concern about how many guys they fucked (since they already know that).
But a large percentage of providers are lesbians. Potential lesbian partners don’t seem to hold compensated sex with men against them. A hell of a lot of the active sex workers have current girlfriends.
And there is in society an increasing number of people who will be lifetime singles. That is a major source of irritation to Conservatives worldwide. But it doesn‘t change the fact that it is so.
When you look at the money a lady can earn doing this, they would likely be the dominant financial partner in a potential new relationship with someone of a similar age. That puts them in a position to not have to answer questions about the past, or to avoid someone who insists on answers.
Not only has that been on decline in society in general, it is even less prevalent among sex workers.
If she wants that, she might well marry a regular customer. Read the damn reviews. Half the guys here are in love with their ATFs and would likely marry them without a bit of concern about how many guys they fucked (since they already know that).
But a large percentage of providers are lesbians. Potential lesbian partners don’t seem to hold compensated sex with men against them. A hell of a lot of the active sex workers have current girlfriends.
And there is in society an increasing number of people who will be lifetime singles. That is a major source of irritation to Conservatives worldwide. But it doesn‘t change the fact that it is so.
When you look at the money a lady can earn doing this, they would likely be the dominant financial partner in a potential new relationship with someone of a similar age. That puts them in a position to not have to answer questions about the past, or to avoid someone who insists on answers.
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One of 10 who are straight is a maybe.
Which most have kids already, have partners, and most can't hold the relationship together. I seen it at work regular lesbian women but other one made more money and searched out a younger lesbian. The honeymoon over between 7 - 10 years.
Some are saying Conservatives caused this problem with divorce laws and feminism. Some are saying feminism is a crazy stated of mind. In the end people have no patience, logic, common sense.
So true, when people say they found themselves, I laugh.
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They move across the city or province or country ( small village)[ Even FWB and SB ladies]. Once they want to retire from the SP world. Tell a lie about their back ground and move on as if nothing happened.
They move across the city or province or country ( small village)[ Even FWB and SB ladies]. Once they want to retire from the SP world. Tell a lie about their back ground and move on as if nothing happened.
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Yes, and I know a couple of ladies who were at the end of their sex workers careers who took a quick bartending class And got a bartending job.
A lot of really stupid people look at the term Mixologist and think it is an actual learned skill requiring years of work.
An attractive lady can pick this up in a few hours and say they have bartending for years when looking for service sector jobs or explaining the past to a potential suitor. No one asks them to many questions and they can play the old song “Brandy you are a fine girl” sailor song to claim they were virginal and waiting for the right guy bartending.
It also has the advantage that old guys look for sex workers at bars. So if the email stopped dinging on their escort ad when they hit forty, they will get offers from bar customers to keep the cash flowing, if the suitor doesn’t come through.
The O.P. has to have been kidding in his post. Sex workers are like cats. They land on their feet no matter what.
You are assuming that they aren't integrated into society
Damnnnn I didn’t know I needed to integrate back to society after working this job 
My plan after this job? Probably to finally use the degree I earned and never put to use lol
My plan after this job? Probably to finally use the degree I earned and never put to use lol
I thought the same thing. Somehow SW's are not integrated into society?Damnnnn I didn’t know I needed to integrate back to society after working this job
My plan after this job? Probably to finally use the degree I earned and never put to use lol
I am not hiding it right now, I will probably do the same as I do now.
And I am already part of this society, I don't have to integrate it.
The closer I get to forty, the better my meetings are.
I think the biggest change in my business will be around my 50s. In any case, I know it will change eventually. I studied hard to build a second career, so I have options, I can do both part-time if that’s what I want or need, or switch over completely.
Dont sell yourself short. You might be putting it to use already. Like psychology or economics. Or drama.
Honestly, it’s better for both sides not to even mention it. I once dated a former SP. I had no idea until she told me one night… I was totally cool about it, but she seemed surprised that I wasn’t upset. I said, well since we’re being honest… Lol - as soon as she found out about MY hobbying, the shit hit the fan! 
Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! lol. As I said, nothing good can come of it… better to just leave it in the past.
Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! lol. As I said, nothing good can come of it… better to just leave it in the past.
This is me. Except I had my own business before escorting. Which I can retire from or keep part time whenever I am ready.
As long as the phone rings, I will work and I know plenty of escorts that work into their 60s or later. I figure I will be offering gummer hummers as a niche service. LOL.
I sometimes think I'll do this forever, sometimes I don't. If I do, it's because I want it and it's perfect! But it's likely my business will have changed when in my 60s, I am sure I will adapt nicely.
The movie 3:10 to Yuma (1957) has this scene in the bar so this does happen. The guy recognizes her and makes an offer.
Mixologist is a memory game, which I couldn't do it. But some people have great memories at 40.
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Yes, to do the ladies that posted, If your clients still call and you are not advertising it will happen.
I worked a with a few women who were promiscuous, they have a roster of men that they worked with or dated along their divorce life - sort of FWB with diner - now retired (50+) and they get that phone call once in a while from dozen of men. I am not judging, they did offer me to be in their roster list but I said no thanks. I don't want that type of energy.
Also the hotter the women are after 50+ sure they can continue doing this as an SP or not but still have fun. But this only happens with a minority not all SP's.
If you want proof here it is:
The documentary Meet the Fokkens (also known by its Dutch title, Ouwehoeren) is a 2011 Dutch film that follows the lives of identical twin sisters, Martine and Louise Fokkens, who are prostitutes in Amsterdam's red-light district. The film explores their experiences, relationships, and perspectives on their long careers as sex workers, highlighting both the positive and negative aspects of their lives
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I worked a with a few women who were promiscuous, they have a roster of men that they worked with or dated along their divorce life - sort of FWB with diner - now retired (50+) and they get that phone call once in a while from dozen of men. I am not judging, they did offer me to be in their roster list but I said no thanks. I don't want that type of energy.
Also the hotter the women are after 50+ sure they can continue doing this as an SP or not but still have fun. But this only happens with a minority not all SP's.
If you want proof here it is:
The documentary Meet the Fokkens (also known by its Dutch title, Ouwehoeren) is a 2011 Dutch film that follows the lives of identical twin sisters, Martine and Louise Fokkens, who are prostitutes in Amsterdam's red-light district. The film explores their experiences, relationships, and perspectives on their long careers as sex workers, highlighting both the positive and negative aspects of their lives
Meet the Fokkens
Sisters doing it for themselves in Amsterdam's Red Light District. Louise and Martine Fokkens are identical twins. For over fifty years they were working as prostitutes. They freed themselves from the control of their pimps, ran their own brothel, and set up the first informal trade union for...
www.themoviedb.org
I said those two were forty. I didn’t say every sex worke needs to hang up the thong at forty. If you still have a great customer base, good for you. Try not to take everything personally. One of my favorites is past forty and still going strong. She looks as good or better than a decade ago. But let‘s face it, most of the highly reviewed ladies in their 20s and 30s on the board won’t be doing this work in their 40’s. Most sex workers ride off into the sunset long before then. But I don’t think they need to reintegrate into society when doing so. Still, learning to be a Mixologist if they don’t have other scholarly pursuits ain’t a bad route.
OP, you do realize sex workers have normal lives like everyone else. They go shopping, on vacations, have friends and family , read books, go to restaurants, have hobbies, go for hikes, play sports, attend events, hit the gym, but most importantly HAVE RELATIONSHIPS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE!
These women have lives just like everyone else. Some are married or have significant others already. Some have children and have built loving homes.. Not every guy is held up on the fact if their lady is a sex worker. Especially in this day and age where there’s so many realms and ways to be a part of the adult industry. I am almost certain, most men know a woman that’s sex worker and don’t even know it. It’s about discretion. If she wants to be public about her work and tell the world, that is her call and good on her. You either take it or leave it. When or if she wants to be in a relationship, that’s a conversation for her and her partner. Some guys will have issue, some won’t. But her occupation does not make her less than anyone else. She a person just like everyone else. Plus like people have pointed out, what do you tell a lady your interested in when the conversation comes up? Do you mention every single provider/worker you have seen? C’mon now think about it.
Honesty, I believe your question OP. came from a good place and curiosity, but if you really respect these women, don’t worry about that. Be a good client. Enjoy your time seeing them and be happy for whatever she does outside of work. But don’t pry or make assumptions. Don’t worry about what’s going on in their personal life, but know they have personal lives. If they let you in that part of their world, cool. If they don’t, treat it like you treat your doctor. You know he/she has a life outside of their visiting hours - respect them and mind your business!
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These women have lives just like everyone else. Some are married or have significant others already. Some have children and have built loving homes.. Not every guy is held up on the fact if their lady is a sex worker. Especially in this day and age where there’s so many realms and ways to be a part of the adult industry. I am almost certain, most men know a woman that’s sex worker and don’t even know it. It’s about discretion. If she wants to be public about her work and tell the world, that is her call and good on her. You either take it or leave it. When or if she wants to be in a relationship, that’s a conversation for her and her partner. Some guys will have issue, some won’t. But her occupation does not make her less than anyone else. She a person just like everyone else. Plus like people have pointed out, what do you tell a lady your interested in when the conversation comes up? Do you mention every single provider/worker you have seen? C’mon now think about it.
Honesty, I believe your question OP. came from a good place and curiosity, but if you really respect these women, don’t worry about that. Be a good client. Enjoy your time seeing them and be happy for whatever she does outside of work. But don’t pry or make assumptions. Don’t worry about what’s going on in their personal life, but know they have personal lives. If they let you in that part of their world, cool. If they don’t, treat it like you treat your doctor. You know he/she has a life outside of their visiting hours - respect them and mind your business!
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