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I prowled terb for about 2 years before embarking on my hobbying career. Since then - 4 years of hobbying I've had the pleasure and mispleasure of seeing mostly Indy's no links provided no order: Iris (twice), Emm, Rubis, Jenn (massage), notorious Jenn McQueen (twice), MiaCox, Jessica Rabbit Amber, duo Sam and Emilia, ,Jesse Turner, Nadiaa, passion by Steph, Ginger of Niagara, Kellie Arseneau, Alanna Johnson, Leslie (spinner), Jezebel Valentine, Tiramisu at bonbons.
I was as to quit for a year. The. Found myself on a tear of 7 sp's in the past 9 months, 4 since June. I'm so addicted right now I don't know what to do.
Just roll with it or get some help.
Any advice terbites?
 
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Just don't call up sp's anymore. Remove terb from your favorites on the computer. As well as any other related links. Find something else to do.

Seriously this is not supposed to be obsessive. I hobby when I feel like than can go 6 months and not think about it. Its about control of your libido. Decide who is going to be in charge of your mind. The rational or the impulsive.
 
I hear you brother... At my peak of 'addiction', I'd say I was spending upwards of $600/night... sometimes visiting multiple SPs a night because I wasn't quite satisfied with one. I haven't seen or paid for sex for almost 2 years now. You have to really want to quit sincerely. Obviously the sexual urges will always be there and it isn't something you can turn off like a light switch. However, you can control where you get your fixes. I have completely gone the meeting women the regular way, dating and hooking up with them for sex. Trust me.. its all available :) Sure you cannot get it anytime and whenever you want, but I've had to turn down many women who I could get sex from for free ;P Also it surely helps if you found some other hobby to keep you busy or somewhere your money can go into, that way you aren't thinking of getting your next SP fix always and you're in a bind where you don't have the free flow of money to spend blindly. :) I don't know what point in your life you are financially but you could save up for something important, perhaps buy a house or something where your money will have to be invested in it.

Other than that, go cold turkey. I hear you won't have such sexual urges if you refrain from having sex or masterbating for weeks xD Your brain adapts. Over the years, I realized paying SPs for sex made me socially inept, aside from hurting my bank account also. Sex didn't excite me anymore. I was more thrilled to just meeting new women and blowing loads of cash on them. Now that I'm back on the dating and courting women scene, it is actually more exciting trying to slowly work my way into their pants. xD Don't forget, there are tons of women who want no strings attached sex only.. lots of swingers around too. You just have to be patient and work your magic on them slowly. good luck
 
It's an insidious "sport"... We all think we can just quit, but it really isn't that easy. I've tried a few times, but always came back. I certainly hobby less than I used to, perhaps seeing a lady every two weeks or so, but I have trouble doing less.

In my case, my desire to reduce or stop was a financial one. I am essentially retired now and realized I was chewing into savings to pay for the ladies... not good.

I agree though, I think it's probably mostly a case of just having the balls to simply stop... and stay the fuck off Terb. Too much temptation!

Good luck!
 
stevooo said:
I prowled terb for about 2 years before embarking on my hobbying career. Since then - 4 years of hobbying I've had the pleasure and mispleasure of seeing mostly Indy's no links provided no order: Iris (twice), Emm, Rubis, Jenn (massage), notorious Jenn McQueen (twice), MiaCox, Jessica Rabbit Amber, duo Sam and Emilia, ,Jesse Turner, Nadiaa, passion by Steph, Ginger of Niagara, Kellie Arseneau, Alanna Johnson, Leslie (spinner), Jezebel Valentine, Tiramisu at bonbons.
I was as to quit for a year. The. Found myself on a tear of 7 sp's in the past 9 months, 4 since June. I'm so addicted right now I don't know what to do.
Just roll with it or get some help.
Any advice terbites?
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With all respect 7 sp's in 9 months isn't really a "tear", even 4 in June isnt really a "tear". So don't beat yourself up.

My approach would be to be super clear on the reasons I want to quit, and Id keep in mind the negative experiences Ive had in the hobby and focus on them - write this shit down, that helps commit- and not on the pleasure and gratification Ive enjoyed from my good experiences.
 
yolosohobby said:
With all respect 7 sp's in 9 months isn't really a "tear", even 4 in June isnt really a "tear". So don't beat yourself up.

My approach would be to be super clear on the reasons I want to quit, and Id keep in mind the negative experiences Ive had in the hobby and focus on them - write this shit down, that helps commit- and not on the pleasure and gratification Ive enjoyed from my good experiences.
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i agree- less than one a month isn't a bad balance
 
you gotta ask yourself..is the thrill still there?
or are you just hobbying for the sake of hobbying?, If you feel you need to "feed the need" then i'd say yeah you got a problem...but I agree with YOLO.........7 in 9 months isn't a tear....7 in a month ,,,,maybe a problem....7 in a week..yeah that's a problem...
When I first started I was obsessed with sampling the whole buffet available.. but now..I play when I want..
I think finances will dictate when you quit...or atleast it should!
 
yolosohobby said:
With all respect 7 sp's in 9 months isn't really a "tear", even 4 in June isnt really a "tear". So don't beat yourself up.
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This for sure. If that's a tear, there are members on here who, based on frequency alone, should be considered pathological obsessive-compulsives LOL! Including me! :frusty:
 
I'm the opposite end of spectrum. I can only afford to hobby a few times a year. I'd love to do it more. But time and money always get in the way. Also..... as u age your sex drive will become less. as u approach fifty you'll fell like once in a while is enough.
But if I ever decided to quit (that'll never happen) I'd never stop visiting terb. The lounge and the exchange of ideas r truly special. Their r some really smart and open minded people among us and I'd never want to give up that wealth of ideas and information.
 
highpark said:
I'm the opposite end of spectrum. I can only afford to hobby a few times a year. I'd love to do it more. But time and money always get in the way. Also..... as u age your sex drive will become less. as u approach fifty you'll fell like once in a while is enough.
But if I ever decided to quit (that'll never happen) I'd never stop visiting terb. The lounge and the exchange of ideas r truly special. Their r some really smart and open minded people among us and I'd never want to give up that wealth of ideas and information.
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the older i get, the more i want to fuck; the more i fuck, the more i enjoy fucking; the more i enjoy fucking, the better i feel ! i truly hope my sex drive doesn't diminish as i grow older and i plan to fight that urge to my deathbed where i die with my finger (or better) tickling my hot hot hit nurses happy button. sex is like a measure of vitality & vigour to me.

i think to quit hobbying one would need to get into activities that are a better substitute, for both the time and the emotional/ physical benefits. maybe go gung ho into a charity?
 
yolosohobby said:
the older i get, the more i want to fuck; the more i fuck, the more i enjoy fucking; the more i enjoy fucking, the better i feel !
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Why does this remind me of the "beans beans with every meal!" rhyme?

(not to belittle the sentiment. 'tis a luverly one, it is!)
 
Its been said but I will say it again.

Delete your TERB account etc email ...

Get a new hobby, perhaps a sport or something of interest.

Stick to it... after a few weeks the habit of looking at ads etc and the temptation will be gone.
 
stevooo said:
I prowled terb for about 2 years before embarking on my hobbying career. Since then - 4 years of hobbying I've had the pleasure and mispleasure of seeing mostly Indy's no links provided no order: Iris (twice), Emm, Rubis, Jenn (massage), notorious Jenn McQueen (twice), MiaCox, Jessica Rabbit Amber, duo Sam and Emilia, ,Jesse Turner, Nadiaa, passion by Steph, Ginger of Niagara, Kellie Arseneau, Alanna Johnson, Leslie (spinner), Jezebel Valentine, Tiramisu at bonbons.
I was as to quit for a year. The. Found myself on a tear of 7 sp's in the past 9 months, 4 since June. I'm so addicted right now I don't know what to do.
Just roll with it or get some help.
Any advice terbites?
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Sorry but I dont call that an addiction. At the height of my hobbying I was seeing Ladies twice a week for a few YEARS, cost me a fortune, that was an addiction, LOL
 
stevooo said:
I prowled terb for about 2 years before embarking on my hobbying career. Since then - 4 years of hobbying I've had the pleasure and mispleasure of seeing mostly Indy's no links provided no order: Iris (twice), Emm, Rubis, Jenn (massage), notorious Jenn McQueen (twice), MiaCox, Jessica Rabbit Amber, duo Sam and Emilia, ,Jesse Turner, Nadiaa, passion by Steph, Ginger of Niagara, Kellie Arseneau, Alanna Johnson, Leslie (spinner), Jezebel Valentine, Tiramisu at bonbons.
I was as to quit for a year. The. Found myself on a tear of 7 sp's in the past 9 months, 4 since June. I'm so addicted right now I don't know what to do.
Just roll with it or get some help.
Any advice terbites?
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Pls see my PM.
 
hemingwayz said:
very good advice yolo as always. for some i think it depends on what is going on in our day to day lives. i find a need to de-stress from time to time. like escape to an alternate reality... the reason why i like overnight so much is i actually just like sleeping and waking up to someone that can at least act or fake being pleasant when you wake up.

i found this thread very insightful. in terms of frequency i generally used to only do this 1-2 times a year albeit for very long sessions. i've never really felt compelled or obsessed about it until very recently but i think this is in most part to being incredibly stressed at work with a high stakes chess game i am now engaged in. i find terb itself to be a nice distraction away from having to focus 24/7 on this problem.

i don't think quitting cold turkey is ever a good idea for any "addiction".

i don't think i was ever "addicted" to this hobby at any point but one sp did a masterful job of planting too many fantasies in my mind a few months ago and now i feel kind of compelled to experience these fantasies. personally what i am currently doing is trying to fulfill the last few fantasies that are on my must do list and just stop. i came to the conclusion that getting a mistress type relationship is never going to work out in real life which was my original and primary mission when i set out in this hobby... i was really just looking for someone to unwind with to de-stress. the sex was almost always a secondary objective (i know the sps i've seen know that this is the complete truth about how my sessions play out).

if you don't see me on terb after two weeks from now you will know i've succeeded in quitting. i've got my last hurrah plan being executed over the next two weeks... hope everything goes according to plan;) i do plan on writing reviews on my experiences as previously promised.
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Good luck with your quest H.:thumb:
 
Stoo said:
In my case, my desire to reduce or stop was a financial one. I am essentially retired now and realized I was chewing into savings to pay for the ladies...
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I'm a MP man myself but the costs can be the same and the reason above is what has happened to me...BUT I still spend way to much time on these sites and it just drives me crazy...
 
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