so all you need is nice shoes to be too good to be true to a women ? LOLfoxwilly said:Its their expectations talking. A good man is hard to find. When one appears to be in front of them, they may just think " oh this is too good to be true, he must be gay....or married"
No, but when they are going on first impressions before hearing the jibberish that comes out of our mouths, its one of the things they notice first.Robio said:so all you need is nice shoes to be too good to be true to a women ? LOL
Bang on! That's the magic word. If you are confident around them, they are already sold. Words and looks just help you get the thing going.bestillmehard said:its the confidence. women love it
Women alwaz SAY they are looking for a nice guy. ACTUALLY they are looking for the bad guy who has a nice side too. SO, do not project yourself as a "nice guy". I should know as it NEVER worked for me.foxwilly said:Its their expectations talking. A good man is hard to find. When one appears to be in front of them, they may just think " oh this is too good to be true, he must be gay....or married"
Yes I admit I psyche myself out all the time. I mean when I see a hot girl, I do think about how it'd be like to be with them etc. But I think I'm just plain scared of talking to women I'm interested in. I mean I'm somewhat nervous around women in general regardless, but around attractive women, I'm just a nervous wreck. I usually don't say anything to them and when I do it comes out awkward. I guess I need more practice in talking to them in general I think.drlove said:In this case, usually what happens is, guys tend to psyche themselves out. What I mean by that is, they are so obsessed with getting into a girl's pants that they invariably say something stupid/off the wall along the way. The reason for this is that they are nervous due to their inexperience with women. Once you have a few notches on your belt, you will be more relaxed and at ease with yourself. When a guy knows he can get sex whenever he wants, it becomes less of a big deal to him and he can act in a more nonchalant fashion, which women love. This in turn makes him immediately that much more desirable.
What you need to do is go into the situation / conversation as if you already know you have no chance to sleep with her, nor the desire. She might think/realize that you do not want her. that will make her want you!RaunchIsGoood said:Yes I admit I psyche myself out all the time. I mean when I see a hot girl, I do think about how it'd be like to be with them etc. But I think I'm just plain scared of talking to women I'm interested in. I mean I'm somewhat nervous around women in general regardless, but around attractive women, I'm just a nervous wreck. I usually don't say anything to them and when I do it comes out awkward. I guess I need more practice in talking to them in general I think.
Like if I were suddenly to become a millionaire and could see as many escorts as I wanted when I wanted, I'm not sure how much that would help me with civilian women. I mean even if I could get sex anytime I wanted, so that that burden would be off of my shoulders, I don't know if talking to civilian women would be that much easier. It might turn out that way, but I guess I'm skeptical.
You're right, it just takes practice.RaunchIsGoood said:I mean I'm somewhat nervous around women in general regardless, but around attractive women, I'm just a nervous wreck. I usually don't say anything to them and when I do it comes out awkward. I guess I need more practice in talking to them in general I think.
Sometimes standards have nothing to do with it.Robio said:I could not image some one getting out of their teens let alone their twenties without getting laid some how but who is to say we all have the same level of sex drive maybe some don’t get to that breaking point were one would compromise there morals or standards
At 40 if you are still a virgin, it is likely not your choice.drlove said:I think there are one or two on this board, as a matter of fact.
Agreed. My question was, given the ease of which escorts are available, what keeps someone in this situation from doing it.papasmerf said:At 40 if you are still a virgin, it is likely not your choice.
Popular demanddrlove said:Agreed. My question was, given the ease of which escorts are available, what keeps someone in this situation from doing it.
**********************************trisket said:You're right, it just takes practice.
Set your sights lower and chat up an average looking woman you might see around on a regular basis, one that you're fairly comfortable with. You'll find women aren't so different, they deal with the same issues and enjoy things in life like guys do.
You'll gain the confidence to approach someone more attractive or you'll find that you're happy with someone else first.
******************************trisket said:I meant for the guy to set his sights lower since he's a nervous wreck around gorgeous women.
He should get comfortable with women in general first, then he can move up to someone more beautiful if he wants.
ah fuck it, you were too stunned to understand the first time I explained it.