How Can Virgins Stand It??

[drlove]

This is in regard to those individuals who are still virgins at a relatively late stage in their lives. Given that biological drives are what they are, one would think that sooner or later sexual frustration would overwhelm such a person and they would be driven to remedy the situation. E.g.(see an SP)

Certainly, If a guy has not gotten laid by the time he is in his mid twenties, I really don't know how he would be able to stand it from a physical perspective - I think the urge would just be too much. Given the easy availability of escorts, why/how can someone get close to being a "40 year old virgin" outside of being forced to do so??

 

[to-guy69]

Because they don't know any better.

 

[alex52]

How many 40 year old virgin do you know?

 

[drlove]

How many 40 year old virgin do you know?

I think there are one or two on this board, as a matter of fact.

 

[trisket]

The hand works well for them, it's never let me down either.

They also probably have sweet dreams of all the crap from wives and girlfriends they miss out on and think of the money they save.

 

[Bear669]

I sure couldnt, but..

..testosterone comes in all doses. Actually, I know a couple of gals who have more testosterone than most men!

There are some folks who really are asexual, they just dont care that much. Then of course there is the huge weight of the evil Judaeo-Christian ethic that still burdens many of the unmarried.

 

[xrider]

Funny I just ran into this thread, I'm a 26 year old V, and it is ALREADY unbearable. I just have no luck with girls, and the fact that I have no confidence and I'm not the greatest looking guy around (a 5/10 probably), I seem to get nowhere. Seeing an SP has been a thought of mine for a while, however, it's sort of weird how to put this, but part of me is almost ashamed/embarassed, not only just seeing an SP in general, but the fact that my first HAD to be an SP. Other issues like money and safety are also important factor.

 

[LKD]

trust me... although they may be a "40 yr old virgin", they're probably much better off in their lives, unlike many of us who suffer from these desires, and start going crazy from not having unloaded during the week

 

[alex52]

Funny I just ran into this thread, I'm a 26 year old V, and it is ALREADY unbearable. I just have no luck with girls, and the fact that I have no confidence and I'm not the greatest looking guy around (a 5/10 probably), I seem to get nowhere. Seeing an SP has been a thought of mine for a while, however, it's sort of weird how to put this, but part of me is almost ashamed/embarassed, not only just seeing an SP in general, but the fact that my first HAD to be an SP. Other issues like money and safety are also important factor.

Well there you are drlove, your first patient, work your magic on him.

 

[tboy]

As for asexual ppl, yup, there's more than a few women out there....look at nuns? (i would say priests too but they have choirboys to fall back on).....

 

[RaunchIsGoood]

Funny I just ran into this thread, I'm a 26 year old V, and it is ALREADY unbearable. I just have no luck with girls, and the fact that I have no confidence and I'm not the greatest looking guy around (a 5/10 probably), I seem to get nowhere. Seeing an SP has been a thought of mine for a while, however, it's sort of weird how to put this, but part of me is almost ashamed/embarassed, not only just seeing an SP in general, but the fact that my first HAD to be an SP. Other issues like money and safety are also important factor.

Hey you're 26 so still relatively young. I'm in the same boat as you. No confidence, no luck with women, alot of it due to shyness.

I'm also kinda ashamed that my first will likely be from an escort. Also, I guess I'm a hopeless romantic or something, still dreaming of meeting that special someone. So these two things have been holding me back from seeing an SP long ago.

My sexdrive is HUGE, so my hands are well muscled by now lol. I hope if I ever do get a girlfriend that she's a nymph, otherwise I'll go ape shit.

 

[drlove]

Funny I just ran into this thread, I'm a 26 year old V, and it is ALREADY unbearable. I just have no luck with girls, and the fact that I have no confidence and I'm not the greatest looking guy around (a 5/10 probably), I seem to get nowhere. Seeing an SP has been a thought of mine for a while, however, it's sort of weird how to put this, but part of me is almost ashamed/embarassed, not only just seeing an SP in general, but the fact that my first HAD to be an SP. Other issues like money and safety are also important factor.

Ok... Seeing an SP for your first time is nothing to be ashamed about - really. The ladies are there to provide a service; admittedly it's not like getting a haircut, but a service none the less. What's important is that you are ok with the idea. Furthermore, It's ok to be nervous... trust me, we've all been there. However, it's nothing to be embarrassed about. I'd even go so far as to say that if you decide to go through with it, let the agency know ahead of time so they can suggest someone suitable to your needs. It will make things go a lot smoother, IMHO. Believe me, it's not an issue for an SP - they've seen it all. Just relax and have a good time.

It will also help you in other areas as well. Once you do it, you won't have the "V" thing hanging over your head, and you can take a more relaxed approach with civilian women. This will help build your confidence and make you more attractive to them. Also, it's not like you have to advertise it. If a woman questions you about your sexual history, you will be able to say that you've played the field a bit (which will be true) without going into any details.

As far as safety goes, condoms are a must. SP's are just as concerned about their health as you are about yours. "Play Safe" is the name of the game. Keep in mind, as long as you go to a reputable agency or independent, you will most likely end up with a "girl next door", someone who could be in your English Lit class... etc..

Money: Set a budget and don't go over it. The hobby can be addictive, so use discretionary income only. I know that will be tough, especially at the beginning when it is a true novelty for you. You may want to save up a bit first, so you can have a few sessions in a short period of time to get the monkey off your back, as it were.

Hope this helps!

 

[RaunchIsGoood]

Once you do it, you won't have the "V" thing hanging over your head, and you can take a more relaxed approach with civilian women. This will help build your confidence and make you more attractive to them.

I don't think that's necessarily true. I mean if you're not that good with women in the first place for so many years, how is a few sessions with escorts going to magically change that?

Seems more likely that you'll be the same person, but now with a little experience in bed with women that you didn't have before.

 

[bestillmehard]

its the confidence. women love it

 

[foxwilly]

its the confidence. women love it

EXACTLY
This turns lots of women on more than a buff bod, or a thick head of hair.
Just make sure you have good teeth, and good shoes.

I asked a friends mom once what the looks at in a man first.
She said " I look at his teeth, then I look at his shoes."

But confidence is huge

 

[Robio]

I could not image some one getting out of their teens let alone their twenties without getting laid some how but who is to say we all have the same level of sex drive maybe some don’t get to that breaking point were one would compromise there morals or standards

 

[drlove]

I don't think that's necessarily true. I mean if you're not that good with women in the first place for so many years, how is a few sessions with escorts going to magically change that?

Seems more likely that you'll be the same person, but now with a little experience in bed with women that you didn't have before.

In this case, usually what happens is, guys tend to psyche themselves out. What I mean by that is, they are so obsessed with getting into a girl's pants that they invariably say something stupid/off the wall along the way. The reason for this is that they are nervous due to their inexperience with women. Once you have a few notches on your belt, you will be more relaxed and at ease with yourself. When a guy knows he can get sex whenever he wants, it becomes less of a big deal to him and he can act in a more nonchalant fashion, which women love. This in turn makes him immediately that much more desirable.

 

[Robio]

If you notice a guys shoes isn't he gay ?

EXACTLY
This turns lots of women on more than a buff bod, or a thick head of hair.
Just make sure you have good teeth, and good shoes.

I asked a friends mom once what the looks at in a man first.
She said " I look at his teeth, then I look at his shoes."

But confidence is huge

I have over heard ladies saying oh he has nice shoes he must be gay LOL

 

[Robio]

Just the move

How many 40 year old virgin do you know?

oh but that is not real

 

[foxwilly]

I have over heard ladies saying oh he has nice shoes he must be gay LOL

Its their expectations talking. A good man is hard to find. When one appears to be in front of them, they may just think " oh this is too good to be true, he must be gay....or married"