I won’t go into specifics but a provider called earlier asking if I could see them so they can play to extend their hotel stay. When asked if they have a place to go after they told me they were homeless. I’m unable to make the time and do not feel comfortable prepaying as I’ve been screwed out of hundreds of dollars doing so. How can. We genuinely help her?
1: She isn't your friend or your girlfriend, not your circus not your monkeys, not your problem.
2: Homeless? Bullshit. Also she is an adult and an adult with a high paying job, see point 1.
3: She probably thinks you are a loser, most [not all] of them think their clients are losers. Why would you help someone who looks down on you.
4: That she is asking you for this, she definitely is one of the ones who thinks her clients are losers. She thinks you are a gullible mark, a mook and if you pay out, you will confirm this.
5: You are not the only one she is asking this of.
6: If you were in trouble, either temporary or otherwise would she return the favor... no she wouldn't. If you were strapped for cash would she do you for free on the promise of you paying later. No.
Hell I knew one guy, attractive, very successful with the ladies who considered it an honour to pay for a girls meal only because she is pretty. No expectations, just her parents had good genetics and here is some free food.