Hobbying without relationship/marriage
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I'm 57 and never been married and never will. Have no regrets at all. No desire to be in a long term relationship either. I find I get bored of seeing the same person day in and day out. So why waste my time or someone else.
I think it's a highly personal question but my guess is more will say they miss it than don't. For me the ideal is a mix of both but that can be hard to juggle and maintain. I have never found the perfect situation. Maybe the best advice is to enjoy your time trying lol - "It's the journey, not the destination" philosophy.
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Akila Besos
Hmm I think some men just prefer to be living the bachelor because they do not have to go through the daily struggles and fights a couple may have. Also some men just suit being single for life, they may have a lifestyle that just doesnt allow for them to settle down with anyone. You wanna be single thats fine, you wanna be in a relationship that is also fine. What matters I find is that the individual is happy with the lifestyle/ path he has chosen.
I tried a relationship a couple of times when I was young, found it suffocating both times. I patronized the professional ladies all my life, but I also dated quite a bit in my 30s and 40s. I loved the first few weeks of dating, but then, inevitably it turned into a chore, a long haul proposition that I was never interested to purse and it was killing what I enjoy the most- working and doing whatever I feel like doing with my precious free time. If you choose to be alone, you must like yourself and know who you are otherwise you will be miserable and forever longing for "the other half". Seeing a professional lady is no different to me than having a nice meal or treating myself to a few days down south or even a bit of fishing- it should never be a substitute for a relationship not even an illusion of one. Pure transactional entertainment.
Nice sentiment, but unfortunately not a reality for most. We are pressured and conditioned to observe the societal norms.
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I remember once I am at the bar in a 7 day cruise ship down south discussing with 2 cruise engineer over a beer. I ask them it must be tough to be 7-9 months working away from their wife/family per year. They started laughing... "That's why we took this job!" was their answer 
Myself I wanted kids so I had to serious relationship. I must admit i had a wonderful relationship that I still miss but for the first 7 years. After that it dried up. Were still friend but separated. Keeping the union just for the kids, without sex... hum not for me. Got too many friends that are stuck... Last time they got laid was like 8 years ago. They barely talk to their wife. But they have a family they say. Me too I answer them. Got my kids and friends. Boy if only they knew about the fun I have been having with SP since. Many regulars, many 3 some and more... SP parties and still even a few mini gangbang.
So yeah you can hobby without mariagle/relationship. My advice is not to start too young. Give yourself a chance with regular girl first. I started at 41 and for me it was ideal I think, sex wise and financially. Now I know it will be SP until I am too old
Myself I wanted kids so I had to serious relationship. I must admit i had a wonderful relationship that I still miss but for the first 7 years. After that it dried up. Were still friend but separated. Keeping the union just for the kids, without sex... hum not for me. Got too many friends that are stuck... Last time they got laid was like 8 years ago. They barely talk to their wife. But they have a family they say. Me too I answer them. Got my kids and friends. Boy if only they knew about the fun I have been having with SP since. Many regulars, many 3 some and more... SP parties and still even a few mini gangbang.
So yeah you can hobby without mariagle/relationship. My advice is not to start too young. Give yourself a chance with regular girl first. I started at 41 and for me it was ideal I think, sex wise and financially. Now I know it will be SP until I am too old
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Im the same, I although I was married and had kids never the kids but I got bored with the marriage. Looking back I realized I ended most of my relationships because of boredom. Ill see the same sp maybe 3 or 4 times then move on.
I prefer bachelorette life personally.
I am mid-40ties, set in my ways, like what I like. I don’t want to compromise, I enjoy spending time on my own. I don’t feel lonely at all. I have a crowd of friends and family that I get others forms of last relationships from and when I want, I enjoy the company of my clients for the purposes of companionship and sex. I get all the good with none of the bad.
I am mid-40ties, set in my ways, like what I like. I don’t want to compromise, I enjoy spending time on my own. I don’t feel lonely at all. I have a crowd of friends and family that I get others forms of last relationships from and when I want, I enjoy the company of my clients for the purposes of companionship and sex. I get all the good with none of the bad.
I am a younger lad and its true, SPs have ruined the idea of a relationship with all the baggage that comes with it for me. Being tied down in a marriage doesn't look at all that appealing to me, unless it's for children. But for some reason I enjoy regulars, I think its kinda odd.
The ability to say fuck it and move on always puts people on their best behaviour. I don't like the needy/dependency aspect of a relationship or where people are forced to be stuck together for some other reason. I also try my best to see escorts that are well off, have stable clientele, income and aren't pressured into things.
Sometimes, its hard to tell, but like anything I wanna support people who like/love what they do not just the money aspect. I wanna go to the mechanic that loves fixing cars. I wanna go to the doctor who cares about my health. I wanna fuck the fucker who likes to get fucked.
The ability to say fuck it and move on always puts people on their best behaviour. I don't like the needy/dependency aspect of a relationship or where people are forced to be stuck together for some other reason. I also try my best to see escorts that are well off, have stable clientele, income and aren't pressured into things.
Sometimes, its hard to tell, but like anything I wanna support people who like/love what they do not just the money aspect. I wanna go to the mechanic that loves fixing cars. I wanna go to the doctor who cares about my health. I wanna fuck the fucker who likes to get fucked.
Happiness is not living the life other people want you to live.
Happiness is living true to yourself.
You do know that the social norm is a high divorce rate.
I also know that the family is the basic social unit upon which the whole western(and not only) civilization has been constructed. In my little corner of the world it is an actual commandment to procreate and exist within a structured community that can only exist because of the families. The happiness, according to the prevailing wisdom, cannot be found outside of those structures. And I tend to agree with that as the single by choice segment is rather thin, besides a few exceptions.
No denying that one can be happy in a marriage but don't deny that one can also be unhappy in a marriage.
Not everyone lives in your little corner of the world. You do what makes you happy.
Not everyone needs to procreate. We're not living in the dark ages. Population growth is not going to suffer without you.
Not everyone lives in your little corner of the world. You do what makes you happy.
Not everyone needs to procreate. We're not living in the dark ages. Population growth is not going to suffer without you.
in theory relationships with a significant other sound great until they arent. eventually peoples true colours come to the surface; what they were they were not, or the oxytocin eventually runs dry.. they become less interesting and you notice more things that get on your nerves. also they dont tow the line as far as the expectations set in the relationship.
pfp fills the sex itch, but having chemistry with another woman for longer than a hour appt just cant be beat.
for me, I still grapple with this but thats a whole other story.
pfp fills the sex itch, but having chemistry with another woman for longer than a hour appt just cant be beat.
for me, I still grapple with this but thats a whole other story.
I'm speaking in generalities. I do know that there are exceptions to everything. "Happiness" is a result of many factors. But, our society has been designed for group effort, from raising children to the general economic well-being of the whole countries.
Men who are single that want to eventually get married or have kids should have a healthy dating life regardless of the age they are in. Men should never substitute seeing SP's for being in a relationship.
To answer your question, me personally I am very happy with a healthy love life outside of seeing SW's, I would never replace one with the other as seeing SP's and being in relationships are completely two different things.
