Hobbying - Does it eventually slow down ?

[GameBoy27]

I manage to stay away for fairly long stretches when needed. Not quite binge / purge, but along those lines.
I generally don't hobby that much in summer. I prefer to spend my money on other hobbies like golf, fishing, vacations...
I still lurk the boards, read the reviews, but I'm pretty good about not seeing anyone unless I really...really...need to.
The other thing is, I really enjoy going on "real" dates in the summer, and would rather spend time with friends etc...
It's really up to you, and what you like to do....if seeing a couple of girls a week is fun, satisfying, and isn't hurting your bank account, or yourself in anyway (or anyone else for that matter) fill yer boots...enjoy.

I know what you're saying. I've really only been a SC/MP patron before I was married. I'll go for a lap dance or visit a MPA when my wife's away for a week or two, to satisfy an urge when I can't ravage her. I still believe BBFS with CIM or CIP with my wife beats the feeling of anything I could get on the side. Besides, she likes visiting swing clubs, loves having a girl go down on her and has no problem letting one of her GF's give me a BJ, so I can't complain.

The money aspect isn't an issue, but good sex with my wife has likely saved me thousands over the years. I'd rather spend money on fine food/wine, gadgets and toys than a whole bunch of SPs or MPAs. I know there's lots of you here who unfortunately don't have a GF or wife who keeps you satisfied (or maybe you do and you're just crazy horndogs lol) so I completely understand if that's what you choose to do. I have no problem with it.

I mostly hang around in the Lounge, it's where I get my kicks but I do read some of the SP and MPA reviews and quite frankly, now that I no longer read Penthouse Forum, they are an excellent substitute. Some of the reviews definitely make me hard. lol

I do have to say, there's certain SPs here on TERB who I definitely want to shag. I think it's the fact that I get to hear them speak their minds (so to speak) which makes them that much hotter. Maybe one day ladies.

Jesus, I need to go to bed. Cheers mates!

Unfortunately your friends are right. The first few years are a complete turn on. Then time sets in especially after you have children.

While I've had a couple relationships that went south sexually, 15 years with my wife is as good as it's ever been.

 

[james t kirk]

Depends on the individual.

For me, it has slowed way down. I haven't seen an SP in years, though do go in for the odd MP from time to time.

It's not reality. That's what slowed it down for me. I'd being doing the whatever and I'd switch channels in my brain and think, "she's not really into this", or, "this is contrived bullshit" and I'd leave having blown my load, but feeling like that's all I'd done. So I'd feel like shit. (Sorry to be a buzz kill.) I had some great times in the past, no doubt, I "connected" (at least I think I did) with a couple of women way back when, but they moved on and I moved on. My life circumstances have changed.

I think that's why I enjoy the odd massage still from time to time. I like idea of laying there and having a decent (hopefully) massage and then she massages my cock (as really any massage should be right). But let's not either of ourselves kid each other that there is any passion or romance involved, because there is not.

If you want passion, romance, intimacy, you aren't going to get it by paying for it. You need to find a real relationship.

 

[moustache mike]

Your not paying these Ladies for sex, your paying them to go away after.....
perfect relationship....
you know what they say........ "women, you can't live with em".........
There is no second part to that by the way......
once your in balls deep to this hobby, empty pockets are only thing gonna get you out.....lol

 

[DanJ]

I'm really kind of surprised at how much interest I have lost in the hobby the last few months. 2 years ago when I was at my busiest, I would have killed for chances like I have the last few weeks. Kids are gone with the various grandparents and wife has been away for work. Party on. Last week I had 4 solid nights to myself, I made an inquiry to one lady, she was busy, but said to call back the next night. I went to the gym after work the next night, then relaxed at home the rest of the night. Didn't feel like putting out the effort to make arrangements and go meet someone. Figured "what the hell, there is next week". So here I am tonight, all alone again. Sent a text to someone else, not available, checked the ads, didn't see anything that jumped off the page (2 years ago, those same ads would have had me trying to figure out who to call first lol). Went to a strip club thinking a couple lap dances might get the juices flowing for a late night booty call. Only saw girl who even remotely attracted me, and she was busy. Stopped at another place for dinner and came home. The kids are gone again in a couple weeks, maybe the wife will go away too, and I can try again then lol.

 

[wazup]

Your not paying these Ladies for sex, your paying them to go away after.....
perfect relationship....
you know what they say........ "women, you can't live with em".........
There is no second part to that by the way......
once your in balls deep to this hobby, empty pockets are only thing gonna get you out.....lol

I've never understood this statement, makes it sound like the girls are begging to stay, when in actual fact they can't wait to leave. This statement may be true for Charlie Sheen but for regular johns it is nonsense

To the op, yes it gets old, any pleasure activity does, even shagging. Plus the routine gets stale; arrive, shower, deed, leave. Plus, you'll get enough encounters where you actually feel like a john and the novelty wears off.

 

[asuran]

I've never understood this statement, makes it sound like the girls are begging to stay, when in actual fact they can't wait to leave. This statement may be true for Charlie Sheen but for regular johns it is nonsense

You don't understand because that is probably the only way you've experienced it, that the ladies can't wait to leave.
Every man's experience may be different.

 

[DanJ]

You don't understand because that is probably the only way you've experienced it, that the ladies can't wait to leave.
Every man's experience may be different.

Don't kid yourself. People throw that statement around to make themselves feel better about doing this hobby in the first place, and they hope that it makes them look cool in the eyes of someone who hasn't heard Charlie Sheen say it. A good escort makes you think she hates to leave, but unless you are someone famous and paying them 4 figures an hour (which rules out the vast majority that post on boards like this), they are really happy to put their time in and go.

 

[moustache mike]

You don't understand because that is probably the only way you've experienced it, that the ladies can't wait to leave.
Every man's experience may be different.

I meant it in the way of..... I'm divorced twice....after sex with wife she stayed...
With an sp, or mpa for that matter, I've never felt rushed, but when all was said and time to go
I didn't have the rest of my life with her hanging on everything I did.... I meant it with respect for
the sp/mpa..... I guess I'm a little darkened by marriages....lol

 

[Powpow]

For me, it ebbs and flows.

For me, it always started when l notice someone I'm not supposed to hit on: a new hot neighbour moves into the complex, a new beautiful woman at the office, maybe the new dental hygienist is gorgeous and that will kick off several months of 2-3 times a week of needing to see a provider because I can't have what I want. Then something in my life distracts me (work, new girlfriend, family issues, playoff basketball, etc. It could be a good distraction or a bad one) and I'll stop for 5 or 6 months. It's been like this for 15 years for me.

If I just got out of a relationship, I tend to book longer dinner dates or short trips to help me keep my mind off the breakup for a few weeks. To me, its better than acting like a jackass and drunk dialing someone because its 3am and I'm horny/lonely or getting into a rebound relationship just because I had nothing better to do with my free time.

 

[wazup]

You don't understand because that is probably the only way you've experienced it, that the ladies can't wait to leave.
Every man's experience may be different.

Let me guess, you have many friends that are escorts, go to movies, dinners, met each others families, stay close after they retire, Xmas, easter, long weekends together. The stories of you guys are all the same

 

[Laird]

I've never understood this statement, makes it sound like the girls are begging to stay, when in actual fact they can't wait to leave. This statement may be true for Charlie Sheen but for regular johns it is nonsense

Me neither. Guys who say that are totally bullshitting. If I had at least some options with girls, I wouldn't even consider paying for it.

Plus I always want to stay and cuddle for as long as possible after sex, but the sp's want me gone as soon as possible.

 

[Titalian]

Plus I always want to stay and cuddle for as long as possible after sex, but the sp's want me gone as soon as possible.

Maybe, but then again, it all depends on how interesting you are.