I've been lucky enough to develop what I'd consider special relationships with several industry ladies involving trysts outside of the business. They run the gamut from intimate relations to friendships to acquaintances. They've been quite enjoyable and until now I've never had any problems.
But recently one of them (intimate in nature) went off the deep end, having found out she was not unique in my affections. Let me stress that I made it clear on several occasions to her that I did not want to go beyond friends-with-benefits status, but apparently she didn't get the memo. I wasn't present, but apparently she got in a nasty stand-off with another lady I'm acquainted with, followed by a drinking binge and my phone lighting up with rather noxious texts. This all caught me completely by surprise as, although she can be very fiery, I had never seen this side of her. That'd be bad enough, but she threatened to out me at work, along with other surprises. I don't believe she's serious and is simply lashing out, but it's scary nonetheless. I'm a professional, and such an outing would definitely impact my life.
Luckily for me, I've always been very cautious. When I meet a new lady and she asks me questions, I'm purposefully vague and sometimes...uh, fudge the truth. As such, the lady in question thinks she knows me better than she does! I don't doubt that she could take what she does know and with some in-depth investigative work she could do some serious damage though. What's even scarier is that I was very close to introducing this particular woman to my personal friends; I trusted her that much.
Anyway, this experience has really made me take a harder look at such relationships. Obviously, this type of thing is not confined to the industry, but certainly given social views of those who participate the potential for greater damage is there.
Be careful out there.
But recently one of them (intimate in nature) went off the deep end, having found out she was not unique in my affections. Let me stress that I made it clear on several occasions to her that I did not want to go beyond friends-with-benefits status, but apparently she didn't get the memo. I wasn't present, but apparently she got in a nasty stand-off with another lady I'm acquainted with, followed by a drinking binge and my phone lighting up with rather noxious texts. This all caught me completely by surprise as, although she can be very fiery, I had never seen this side of her. That'd be bad enough, but she threatened to out me at work, along with other surprises. I don't believe she's serious and is simply lashing out, but it's scary nonetheless. I'm a professional, and such an outing would definitely impact my life.
Luckily for me, I've always been very cautious. When I meet a new lady and she asks me questions, I'm purposefully vague and sometimes...uh, fudge the truth. As such, the lady in question thinks she knows me better than she does! I don't doubt that she could take what she does know and with some in-depth investigative work she could do some serious damage though. What's even scarier is that I was very close to introducing this particular woman to my personal friends; I trusted her that much.
Anyway, this experience has really made me take a harder look at such relationships. Obviously, this type of thing is not confined to the industry, but certainly given social views of those who participate the potential for greater damage is there.
Be careful out there.
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), but I never did a simple meeting with anyone, who met me in this industry first. If you are professional as you wrote , don't cross the line. One side is the business and the other side is your private life. Don't mix it, just not worth it.
