Have any SP's taught you any "tricks of the trade" in how to satisfy a woman? If so, share!
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I’m assuming you’re younger than I am. This is going to sound counterintuitive but, if you want to last in bed, stop masturbating, or at don’t least masturbate for a couple days before your session.
You’ll probably hear that and think it makes no sense because if you’ve drained the fellas you’d think it would be hard to drain them again. However, I found when I was younger that if I took a relatively long break from masturbation before intercourse, I could last longer before popping. Now that I’m a bit older, it’s still useful but it’s more to have erection quality etc. I’m not quite sure why it works but ultimately your hand and her vagina are not the same. Staying away from one will leave you better equipped to work the other.
Establishing a connection is a good start, don't be a jack/smart ass, don't throw a charm that you don't have, the ladies (sex workers or not) they can smell bullshit from miles away. Be humble, nice, and suck that pussy like you mean it, but be gentle. I don't know, it has been working for me.
Ok some advice for lasting longer that's been working for me for 20 years.
Pause.
When you feel like you're close. Just pause for a few seconds. Pull out if you have to and do something else like kiss her or lick her.
You can also try thinking of something unsexy like Sadam Hussain or Osama Bin Laden lol.
Though this may get confusing for your dick and you may randomly get erections when you see them mentioned on the news. Jk.
After you learn not to cum by pausing you'll manage your orgasms more easily with practice.
Pause.
When you feel like you're close. Just pause for a few seconds. Pull out if you have to and do something else like kiss her or lick her.
You can also try thinking of something unsexy like Sadam Hussain or Osama Bin Laden lol.
Though this may get confusing for your dick and you may randomly get erections when you see them mentioned on the news. Jk.
After you learn not to cum by pausing you'll manage your orgasms more easily with practice.
Some good advice(especially the whole get into a ladies head, pussy eating preferences change for each lady)
For weed it makes me last longer but I find it takes away some of the sensativity. My fav is wake up sex totally sober and senses are extra sensative. But lasting isnt an issue(im under 40)
Some ladies have told me edibles make them horny, i cant say that weed does that for me. One thing not mentioned is male kegals. When i was young i would last 10-15 min. Did kegals for a few months and that wasnt an issue. Havent done kegals in ages as I now control when i finish(self edging pro! Lol) for the kegals i would stop and hold when pissing. So pee for 2-3 sec stop and hold 2-3 sec repeat untill bladder is empty. Google likely has more info on it. I find smoking in excess without exersize can impact how hard you get. So healthier body gets to enjoy more
Ive always been blessed with a flexible/fast tongue which has always helped me with the ladies.
For weed it makes me last longer but I find it takes away some of the sensativity. My fav is wake up sex totally sober and senses are extra sensative. But lasting isnt an issue(im under 40)
Some ladies have told me edibles make them horny, i cant say that weed does that for me. One thing not mentioned is male kegals. When i was young i would last 10-15 min. Did kegals for a few months and that wasnt an issue. Havent done kegals in ages as I now control when i finish(self edging pro! Lol) for the kegals i would stop and hold when pissing. So pee for 2-3 sec stop and hold 2-3 sec repeat untill bladder is empty. Google likely has more info on it. I find smoking in excess without exersize can impact how hard you get. So healthier body gets to enjoy more
Ive always been blessed with a flexible/fast tongue which has always helped me with the ladies.
I always consider the female orgasm a "chase". It's elusive, and it doesn't take much distraction for that orgasm to flee, which has to be frustrating for her. And frustration kills it.
It's not really like that for guys. Sure, as you get older you may have more trouble reaching orgasm, but the majority of the time it's achievable. Virtually all the time when young.
Good experiment: if you want to approximate what it's like for women trying to achieve orgasm, try to will yourself to orgasm without physical stimulation, just visual (and maybe auditory). While I think that's probably even more difficult than what women have to deal with, it'll give you an idea of what the "chase" feels like where it's building slowly but any distraction or loss of focus can set you back. Then when you're close it's even hard to breathe right in order to get to the finish line. And when you make it to the cusp but can't quite pull it off, the frustration is horrible. Yes, I've done this experiment successfully, though that was like 8 years ago now, and even then I had to abstain for like a week first. Not sure I could pull it off now.
To improve your odds of getting a woman off, you need to create the best environment for success. Get her relaxed with a massage or playful banter. Warm her up slowly with touches on her thigh, kisses on her neck, licks swirling in towards the goal. Build anticipation like that. Take your time. Listen to her body. Reinforce what she positively responds to, and steer clear of what she negatively responds to. Most often a negative response will simply be silence, though she may actually try to direct you elsewhere too. Some "tricks" might work on multiple women, but not all, which means you should approach each woman like a puzzle you need to unlock, with the prize being her orgasm.
There's a reason they say good listeners make the greatest lovers.
It's not really like that for guys. Sure, as you get older you may have more trouble reaching orgasm, but the majority of the time it's achievable. Virtually all the time when young.
Good experiment: if you want to approximate what it's like for women trying to achieve orgasm, try to will yourself to orgasm without physical stimulation, just visual (and maybe auditory). While I think that's probably even more difficult than what women have to deal with, it'll give you an idea of what the "chase" feels like where it's building slowly but any distraction or loss of focus can set you back. Then when you're close it's even hard to breathe right in order to get to the finish line. And when you make it to the cusp but can't quite pull it off, the frustration is horrible. Yes, I've done this experiment successfully, though that was like 8 years ago now, and even then I had to abstain for like a week first. Not sure I could pull it off now.
To improve your odds of getting a woman off, you need to create the best environment for success. Get her relaxed with a massage or playful banter. Warm her up slowly with touches on her thigh, kisses on her neck, licks swirling in towards the goal. Build anticipation like that. Take your time. Listen to her body. Reinforce what she positively responds to, and steer clear of what she negatively responds to. Most often a negative response will simply be silence, though she may actually try to direct you elsewhere too. Some "tricks" might work on multiple women, but not all, which means you should approach each woman like a puzzle you need to unlock, with the prize being her orgasm.
There's a reason they say good listeners make the greatest lovers.
I've actually never asked a SP because for sessions I'm paying, it's all about me. This sounds a bit selfish but this is the way it is. However, when I'm with civilian women, it's totally different as I'll ask them what they like and I'll take a lot more time into making sure they have a decent time too. Usually it's tons of foreplay, sensual massage and DATY, all things I don't bother with SPs because of the time element of a session and again, I'm paying for the session. But if I ever to want to get some more education, yes I think asking a SP would be something to do. Just haven't come to it yet.
