Has a escort ever fallen in love with YOU?

[Mreffect]

My version of love has nothing to do with money. She makes my dick happy ergo I am happy.

Her version of love is gifts cars bling; I doubt she loves me if I was broke and the only thing I was good for is fucking.

This stereotype gets pushed a lot. Especially by the incel community: "all women are interested in is money". A lot of SPs I've known are doing this as a means to an end often en route to some other career aspiration that may be less well paid but more rewarding intellectually. I've also had relationships with two SPs where there were no financial expectations, they paid their own way and we just enjoyed each other's company.

I think the guys that push this women are only interested in money narrative need to examine themselves and work out 1) Are they just meeting the wrong women 2) Is money the only redeeming feature they can offer?

If the answer is yes than maybe it's better to work on other aspects of yourself, rather than the bank balance.

 

[StillROAMing]

This stereotype gets pushed a lot. Especially by the incel community: "all women are interested in is money". A lot of SPs I've known are doing this as a means to an end often en route to some other career aspiration that may be less well paid but more rewarding intellectually. I've also had relationships with two SPs where there were no financial expectations, they paid their own way and we just enjoyed each other's company.

I think the guys that push this women are only interested in money narrative need to examine themselves and work out 1) Are they just meeting the wrong women 2) Is money the only redeeming feature they can offer?

If the answer is yes than maybe it's better to work on other aspects of yourself, rather than the bank balance.

Spot on.
I've dated three SPs. What they appreciated was being treated with respect and like a human being. I would think most providers appreciate when they are treated as more than just a pussy.

 

[TigerFlex5]

It happend to me once, a few years ago, a provider felt in love with me. We had several fantastik sessions at first, then she extended my time all the time, more and more, to a point where I spend nights with her (I booked her for only one hour). Then she started to contact me, asking me to come over, just to spend some time with her (totally free). At one point, I started to see that we were crossing the line so I stop seing her. That's sad, I had great time with her but was not ready to date a girl, at that time.

 

[Ryeguyonthefly]

Here is the difficult thing I am struggling with for this thread:

I believe, but could be wrong, that most providers and clients come at these encounters with some deceptions. Do any of us use our real names? Give details about our personal lives? If not, then who are people falling in love with? Is it with who the person is presenting themselves as or the actual individual (client/provider)? At best, I think anyone would have to question where or who these feelings are directed at.

I am not saying it cant happen, but I do question how real it is. I have only seen a few ladies more than once and, when this has happened, I did so because I believed there to be a good connection between the two of us. However, I also remind myself that this "relationship" is built around altered, if not fabricated, identities. I also remind myself that the person with whom I am connecting with had only agreed to meet with me because of the financial arrangement in place. This is not meant to he judgemental as we all enter these arrangements in this industry this way, but it is a reality check if you will.

I will say though, that this is a human interaction and humans are complicated beings who have the ability to develop feelings whether or not they are rational. Thus, it stands to reason, that people can develop true feelings for each other during these relationships, but I would still remind both sides to remember the original premise of the relationship and return to my original question: "for whom have these feelings developed?" Is it for the identity that has been presented or for the individual themselves?

 

[gibarian]

Here is the difficult thing I am struggling with for this thread:

I believe, but could be wrong, that most providers and clients come at these encounters with some deceptions. Do any of us use our real names? Give details about our personal lives? If not, then who are people falling in love with? Is it with who the person is presenting themselves as or the actual individual (client/provider)? At best, I think anyone would have to question where or who these feelings are directed at.

I am not saying it cant happen, but I do question how real it is. I have only seen a few ladies more than once and, when this has happened, I did so because I believed there to be a good connection between the two of us. However, I also remind myself that this "relationship" is built around altered, if not fabricated, identities. I also remind myself that the person with whom I am connecting with had only agreed to meet with me because of the financial arrangement in place. This is not meant to he judgemental as we all enter these arrangements in this industry this way, but it is a reality check if you will.

I will say though, that this is a human interaction and humans are complicated beings who have the ability to develop feelings whether or not they are rational. Thus, it stands to reason, that people can develop true feelings for each other during these relationships, but I would still remind both sides to remember the original premise of the relationship and return to my original question: "for whom have these feelings developed?" Is it for the identity that has been presented or for the individual themselves?

I would submit that you have an incorrect and over-simplified understanding of concepts like "fabricated identities." *All* identity and behaviour is performative.

There are a bunch of people on this board who have wives or partners. Generally, these wives or partners do not know their husbands/partners see escorts. That would mean that those marriages/relationships are based on "fabricated identities" as well, right?

Edit: That said, I think there are probably a number of people in this thread who are just straight up lying. Totally different issue than the one you focused on, though.

 

[Ryeguyonthefly]

I would submit that you have an incorrect and over-simplified understanding of concepts like "fabricated identities." *All* identity and behaviour is performative.

There are a bunch of people on this board who have wives or partners. Generally, these wives or partners do not know their husbands/partners see escorts. That would mean that those marriages/relationships are based on "fabricated identities" as well, right?

Edit: That said, I think there are probably a number of people in this thread who are just straight up lying. Totally different issue than the one you focused on, though.

I disagree. Those who have significant others did not base their relationships on fabricated identities as you suggest. Their relationships were likely in place before they started participating in this industry. For those who were participating in this industry before meeting their SO and continued to participate after, I would still contend that their SO know their real identity and the SWs do not. Remember, I suggested that real identity equates to name and 9ther revealing features of the person in their every day lives.

I should add though, that I do agree that all of our identities are performative how ever I disagree on their specific roles or impact on our lives. For example, a person who is married my present themselves as loyal but then participates in th9s industry. Yes they have fabricated parts of their identity to their SO BUTbut not their name, place of work etc which are the things that they do every day. However when they are with a SWer they likely use a different name and often will not divulge the other aspects of their every day lives like workplace or SO, kids etc

 

[gibarian]

I disagree. Those who have significant others did not base their relationships on fabricated identities as you suggest. Their relationships were likely in place before they started participating in this industry. For those who were participating in this industry before meeting their SO and continued to participate after, I would still contend that their SO know their real identity and the SWs do not. Remember, I suggested that real identity equates to name and 9ther revealing features of the person in their every day lives.

I should add though, that I do agree that all of our identities are performative how ever I disagree on their specific roles or impact on our lives. For example, a person who is married my present themselves as loyal but then participates in th9s industry. Yes they have fabricated parts of their identity to their SO BUTbut not their name, place of work etc which are the things that they do every day. However when they are with a SWer they likely use a different name and often will not divulge the other aspects of their every day lives like workplace or SO, kids etc

It sounds like we're working off of vastly different definitions of the word identity (if you think job and name are significant markers of "identity")

You've probably had more than one job in your life, yeah? Between the day you departed Job A and began Job B do you feel that your identity was altered? People cycle through names far less frequently than they do jobs, but it's still relatively easy to change your legal name. Plus, consider situations where you meet a new acquaintance and are introduced with only a nickname, or don't share surnames, or whatever. I have plenty of friends and acquaintances like that, and I don't consider relationships with them to be on a qualitatively different level from people I've spent enough time with to learn more about.

Incidentally, pretty much every companion I've seen knows my name and my job. On the flip side, I have been told the names and/or civilian jobs of some (but certainly not all) of the companions I've met. Knowing or not knowing these details don't really make a significant difference in our relationships.

For me, "identity" covers things like personality, behavioural habits, psychological tendencies, metaphysical beliefs, political beliefs, external style/appearance choices, taste in art and entertainment, etc.

 

[withpassion]

Ya, I had one SP years ago that I would see regularly for a BBBJ/CIMSW and after about 5 or 6 times, in the middle of things, see looks up at me and asks if I'm every going to fuck her!

I'm really happy with the current arrangement, so I am more than a little surprised. Anyway, I tell her to bend over the bed and I give it to her.

There started a 2.5 year on and off (dare I say) "relationship". It was great actually, then, whether new or old, a drug problem came into the picture.

I provided lots of "help" for her to get clean. None of it worked out in the long run, but we did have lots of fun for a time, then it became...um...difficult and awkward.

Was she in love? I think so, but only in a context of my being a shoulder and a crutch.

Eventually, I had to say good-bye as it was more of a dependency thing.

Funny enough, we reconnected after a year and a bit, and went out a few times, but, sadly, she was too far gone to be comfortable with for any further public outings and even private get togethers.

I never saw her again.

 

[asuran]

I fall in love with every escort that I see more than once. How could I not? They are so adorable.

This. Tho it should only last for the duration of the session.

 

[radius]

"Fallen in love"? Who knows. But ask me out or stop charging? Sure.

 

[Nesbot]

Never happened to me. To those who enjoy this, congrats.

 

[Demonoid007]

i call it falling in lust

Great line!

 

[Demonoid007]

I am not that experienced in the hobby, and have only interacted with a few girls, and I don't think they have fell in love with me. I did develop good rapport with my last "regular" girl. I would book at the end of her day, and after the session she would often invite me to stay for a while and we would have a drink and chat for a couple of hours. I was sad when she told me she was moving away for family reasons... it felt like loosing a good friend.

 

[Fun For All]

Never an escort but tons of strippers have fallen in love with me...

At least that's what I tell myself.

I was thinking the same way...I’m sure many have but they’re too shy to tell me.

 

[Uniforms Please]

Not sure about love, but they have developed feelings.

When you see someone regularly for intimacy, a connection of some kind is formed. Something keeps the client coming back, and the SP is usually flattered with the repeat, it is a compliment. That said, I agree things need to stay within the lines. The stalking / creepy stuff / drama (him or her) mentioned above is not part of the arrangement.

 

[Oogabooga]

I hope not.

 

[Sagsuper]

I will never forget the first ever SP I met, what matters is the way she treated me and knowing its my first encounter! She was beautiful in and out! She is the reason I got more in to this hobby and still continuing!

 

[randall_stevens]

There was an SP who I saw on a regular basis when I 1st gave this hobby a try that I spent well over the time i paid for. She then vanished for about 6 months, then out of nowhere she contacted me wanting to catch up.

We agreed on a time and day, and I told her that I didn't have the money at the time, but she said, "I don't want it"

We saw each other for about 3 months a few times a week, and it was great, but things got out of hand after about a month or so.

Turns out she's a total nut case, and not very well liked on here, and I ended the relationship.

Please don't ask who it was, although I don't like what happened, I still respect her privacy.