Had to smile about being rejected

[poorboy]

Fairly regularly, I order take out from a sushi restaurant. After I placed my order, I sat in one of the chairs to wait for my pickup. There is no separate waiting area and no lobby in this restaurant. The waiting area is to the backs of the customers at the sushi bar.

In walks a petite blonde in her yoga pants and t shirt. No ring on her finger, about 5'2" to 5'4", and slim to average build with a A to B cup. I'd place her at a 7. Girl next door look. She sits down one seat over from me to select from the menu. I'm reading the paper while waiting. She goes up and places her order. Order sounds like it is for one.

After gathering that she is probably single, I decide that when she sits back down, I'll try and strike up a conversation with her. I put down the paper as she walks by and she walks past her original seat to the seat farthest away from me.

I take it as a clear sign she doesn't want to be approached. I don't know why, but I found myself sitting there and smiling to myself and then went back to reading the paper.

 

[Don Draper]

You should have said 'Hello' because you never know what her answer will be.

I've been in the same scenario and greeted regardless. Even if it's not reciprocated, you'll be leaving in a few moments anyway. No harm done. You have nothing to lose and all to gain.

In the past, when this has happened, I asked the girl after why even though she reciprocated my greeting, she still dropped no signals. Her answer was that she was hoping I'd say Hello but she was nervous about the possible moment and how to handle it. So she tried to hide from it a bit. It's a safer tactic. Contradictory: yes. Very female: also yes.

Remember, we as men think logically. Women think emotionally.

 

[GPIDEAL]

You should have said 'Hello' because you never know what her answer will be.

I've been in the same scenario and greeted regardless. Even if it's not reciprocated, you'll be leaving in a few moments anyway. No harm done. You have nothing to lose and all to gain.

In the past, when this has happened, I asked the girl after why even though she reciprocated my greeting, she still dropped no signals. Her answer was that she was hoping I'd say Hello but she was nervous about the possible moment and how to handle it. So she tried to hide from it a bit. It's a safer tactic. Contradictory: yes. Very female: also yes.
Remember, we as men think logically. Women think emotionally.

Senor Draper took the words right out of my mouth but I'm not surprised. He's the one with the Guide to Picking Up Women.

 

[rafterman]

Ha ha ha too bad that member PUA got booted.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

There are two possibilities,

1) She was doing a tease to amuse herself.
2) She did the cruise by and chose not initiate contact.

I usually let them initiate first contact, more success that way. Sometimes you have to put yourself in a circumstance conducive for them to initiate contact.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

It's possible she moved away to avoid contact because she was not (for any number of reasons - maybe nothing about you) interested in contact.

On the other hand, she may not have even realized that you were single and interested and thus just sat somewhere comfortable. Perhaps she did suspect you might be interested and wanted to place herself in a position where you had to move over to talk to her; that way she'd know you were interested and not just being polite to the person beside you.

 

[LKD]

damn.. feeling rejected without even being turned down lol you must have a miserable life xD

 

[Ceiling Cat]

Maybe she got a whiff of your sushi.

 

[MrBingo]

so u pretend to feel rejected even though u never even make a move on her or before even hearing the word "NO" from her?....good for u
she didn't even look at lol...name suits u very well lol

 

[youwontknow]

Maybe you have BO smell?

 

[poorboy]

After a while, you develop a sense about these things. One time I was in Wal Mart looking at irons and saw a reasonably attractive girl in the same aisle. She gave me such a vapid look that I thought if she had a gun and it was legal, she'd shoot me for looking at her.

Most women though tend to be more subtle. They never say no outright, instead saying things like, "I'll have to think about it", or the classic, "I'm too busy". Never getting back to you seems to be another strategy. Some even say yes to a date, when put on the spot, but later send a text or email backing out because they didn't have enough fortitude to say no in person.

If they really are busy but interested, they'll give you an alternate time.

 

[youwontknow]

Some women will do that if she doesn't want to be approach.

 

[GrandBlasterK]

In walks a petite blonde in her yoga pants and t shirt. No ring on her finger, about 5'2" to 5'4", and slim to average build with a A to B cup. I'd place her at a 7. Girl next door look.

Her answer was that she was hoping I'd say Hello but she was nervous about the possible moment and how to handle it. So she tried to hide from it a bit. It's a safer tactic. Contradictory: yes. Very female: also yes.

Remember, we as men think logically. Women think emotionally.

Typical civilian bullshit. And the way you describe her sounds like you're a professional hobbyist. Perhaps next time you see one, ask yourself whether you would you pay $300 to fuck her? If the answer is no, she's probably just a sushi friend. Remember, after all is said and done, you ultimately need to perform under the sheets. Chemistry still counts and if you have it, doesn't matter what either of you say or talk about.

 

[Insidious Von]

When it comes to the fairer sex, life can pitch knuckleballs.

I meet my neighbour this morning. She was doing what I was, getting some morning air with a hot beverage. She looked great in her spandex workout gear so I had to make a connection. I didn't want to appear to be gawking at her so I sat back in my chair, out of sight, and said "hello". We ended up talking for 1/2 hour. She's a yoga instructor at Trish Stratus's studio near Vaughn Mills. I'm a little flummoxed; could my luck have turned that drastically?

 

[HOF]

After a while, you develop a sense about these things. One time I was in Wal Mart looking at irons and saw a reasonably attractive girl in the same aisle. She gave me such a vapid look that I thought if she had a gun and it was legal, she'd shoot me for looking at her.

Most women though tend to be more subtle. They never say no outright, instead saying things like, "I'll have to think about it", or the classic, "I'm too busy". Never getting back to you seems to be another strategy. Some even say yes to a date, when put on the spot, but later send a text or email backing out because they didn't have enough fortitude to say no in person.

If they really are busy but interested, they'll give you an alternate time.

Zardoz is that you? 0 for 2!

Did it occur to you that they might just not be interested? Because they don't have a ring, doesn't mean they don't have a significant other. Did it ever occur that women know men go shopping to check them out?

Another problem is you're rating the girl as a 7, she probably realizes that you're oogling her.

 

[GrandBlasterK]

When it comes to the fairer sex, life can pitch knuckleballs.

I meet my neighbour this morning. She was doing what I was, getting some morning air with a hot beverage. She looked great in her spandex workout gear so I had to make a connection. I didn't want to appearing to be gawking at her so I sat back in my chair, out of sight, and said "hello". We ended up talking for 1/2 hour. She's a yoga instructor at Trish Stratus's studio near Vaughn Mills. I'm a little flummoxed; could my luck have turned that drastically?

Tried to date 2 of my neighbours. One already had a boyfriend and had to call things off after 2 dates as she saw where things were heading (towards the sack lol). The other told me she was on a dating hiatus (civilian bullshit) after I found her active on an online dating site. And you wonder why I hobby. Don't eat where you shit.

 

[krayjee]

Poorboy... Some times it's better getting rejected than getting a false hope. I was at T&T asian super market ystrday. I saw a nice asian lady of my taste at a self serve noodle soup counter with all different varieties of ingredients where you pick what you like and hand it to the cook to prepare noodle soup for you. I pretended I didn't know anything about it and ask the lady how it work as an opening line. She was very friendly and explained evrything in detail and even picked some ingredients for me in a bowl to try it out. I was chit chatting with her and joking around for a good three four minutes until until ...her boyfriend showed up. I guessed I took her friendliness the wrong way. Damn..I even dreamed about her last night.

 

[Don Draper]

Poorboy... Some times it's better getting rejected than getting a false hope. I was at T&T Asian super market yesterday. I saw a nice Asian lady of my taste at a self serve noodle soup counter with all different varieties of ingredients where you pick what you like and hand it to the cook to prepare noodle soup for you. I pretended I didn't know anything about it and ask the lady how it work as an opening line. She was very friendly and explained everything in detail and even picked some ingredients for me in a bowl to try it out. I was chit chatting with her and joking around for a good three four minutes until until ...her boyfriend showed up. I guessed I took her friendliness the wrong way. Damn..I even dreamed about her last night.

Was that you? Way to go you horndog!!

I'm not the 'boyfriend' but I was @ the T&T shopping as well with my SO. She wanted to make me dinner last night. A feast, but that's another story.

I saw this guy chatting up a lady at the food counter and I said to my SO: "I bet that guy is using the suggestions technique in order to talk to that lady. Then my SO said: "When her husband or boyfriend shows up, he'll be very surprised. He better order soon".

So I though it was funny that you should mention the same thing I witnessed.

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BTW, I'd rather get an straight up 'no' than bullshit. I much prefer the clarity over the run around. Women think they're being polite when they give you a false number or e-mail instead of saying 'no' on the spot which is the mature and clear thing to do.

When a man discovers he's been duped with a fake number, e-mail or even if speaking to the girl say says no, after the fact, for whatever reason, this perpetuates the seed of distrust in men towards all women.

I wish women appreciated how they're damaging their entire sisterhood when they're not clear about a simple answer to a sincere question.

 

[youwontknow]

I think is F**k up when they have no interest in you but still give out there email/numbers. I guess it helps boost there ego

 

[sakurame]

She obviously had no interest in you.
Girls give out their number to guys they are not interested to get them to stop talking to them.