'guy code'

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ggaleazz

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So all you gentleman of the forum I've got a little 'guy code' question for you. Let's get on to the story.

Friend A and friend B are 2 men who both meet Woman A at relatively the same time. Friend A begins talking to Woman A in hopes that he will eventually take her out, with friend B fully aware. Friend A begins to notice, through body language, some chemestry between Friend B and Woman A. Friend A says this to friend B what he sees and predicts that friend B and women A will eventually be seeing each other. Friend B protests, claiming there is nothing between them.

Despite friend B's protests, friend A continues to see chemestry and some 'flirtatiousness' between friend B and woman A. Friend A approaches friend B and tells friend B that he knows there is attraction between friend B and woman A, and asks simply for an honest answer about friend B's relationship with woman A. Friend B responds with 'nothing'

Friend A then learns that friend B had gone behind friend A's back and taken woman A out for drinks/dinner without saying anything to friend A.

So my question is. Is friend A right in being upset and feeling betrayed by friend B for taking woman A out behind friend A's back? Isn't there some sort of 'guy code' for this type of situation? What do you all think?
 
Is friend A right in being upset and feeling betrayed by friend B for taking woman A out behind friend A's back?
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I think friend B should be upset from friend A.
 
Seems like B.S. There is no "code" that Guy "B" has to tell Guy "A" anything.

Friend needs to mind his own business and get a life.
 
Friend A and friend be are gay??????????

Friend A's rap was weak and he needs to get over it.
 
Only if Friend A had already taken out AND had relations with Woman A. If he never got first base, or worse yet, never got to the plate with her, she's fair game in "the guy code" unless Friend A specifically asked B to back off.
 
MuffinMuncher said:
Only if Friend A had already taken out AND had relations with Woman A. If he never got first base, or worse yet, never got to the plate with her, she's fair game in "the guy code" unless Friend A specifically asked B to back off.
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From the story

A is a dominant and B is passive
Woman A prefers a man to a bully
 
As convoluted as this is, yes friend B should never have had any additional contact with the lady in question knowing full well his friend was interested in her.

With that being said it depends on how close these two were. If they were very close then there is a certain level of loyalty that should exist whereby they don't "mow each other's lawn" so to speak. Obviously the honorable thing for him to do was own up to the fact that he was interested and wanted to pursue the lady in question.

If I was friend A I would look at this as a learning experience: Friend B wasn't such a good friend afterall and better to learn it this way, than some other more important or dire way.

For you guys that think it is ok for a friend to scoop up a lady that you're interested in then I'd suggest you take a step back and take a look at your morals and try to remember that there are such things as honor and ethics. SOmething many guys these days don't have......
 
Coach said:
Pick Door number 3, get another friend and another woman.
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If friend B said right-off-the-bat that he was interested in woman A and it was clear that WA was interested in FB, would FA have gracefully bowed out? Or, would FA have thrown a fit claimimg he had dibs on her cuz he saw her first? If it's the latter, that's not very mature.

If it was the former, if friend A would have gracefully bowed out and no longer pursued WA, then the quote above seems on the mark.
 
Guy A was holding the puck too long and should have passed it to B when he was wide open and able to score.

It's a game - get over it, nothing to lose a friendship for.
 
Forget about these guy codes bs. We all know that at the end, it is our little friends inside our pants dictate what we need to do.
 
Alls fair in love and war. I think in the end this is what the woman wanted. So, in the end seeing as they both met her about the same time is it not really her choice who she opens her legs to? I do not think A should get jealous about this or upset as there is plenty of fish in the sea and the woman will go with whom she wishes. It is nothing to lose a friendship over. In the end I think you have to accept the womans choice.
 
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How close are friend A and B?
Has friend A mentioned anything to friend B abuot his interest in woman A?
Don't assume that just because friend A has asked friend B means that friend B should "read between the lines".
Why is friend A mad? I can't even understand this. :confused:
 
When asked friend B should have just been honest about his interest in the woman and it would have been no big deal.

Is friend B Peter Mackay?
 
Juvenile as it may be, I do think there is a "guy code" of sorts when it comes to these kinds of things. If Friend A calls 'dibs" on a woman, then Friend B should honor the code by and letting Friend A try first. If Friend A clearly whiffs, then the woman is up for grabs, and Friend B is not obligated to seek "permission" from Friend A to try his luck.

That said, it would have been honorable, for lack of a better term, for Friend B to tell Friend A that he was going after this woman. But ultimately Friend A has little reason to be annoyed, because he had his shot.
 
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