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This is funny, dude if you wanted them to do the laundry you should have told them so. I am pretty sure etiquette dictates that the guest is required to make the bed or keep the place tidy but not do the laundry.
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-House-Guest
That was just the first link I found on the topic but feel free to dig in and google as maybe there is an official guide somewhere.
That wasn't what he said at all. No where did he suggest the guest do laundry, but rather, just leave the bedding un-made so the host can gather it up easier to take to the laundry themselves. Although, my inlaws stayed with us a few days during a move a few years ago and my mother in law did actually wash the bedding and remake the bed before they left (and left a note telling my wife so she didn't wash it again lol).
Not that it happens often, but the few times we do stay overnight or a few days at friends/relatives, my wife does make the bed before we leave. At a hotel, we kind of straighten it up a touch, but don't make it to the same way the staff do.
One of my houseguests over the new year woke up before everyone else on New Years Day, he had not imbibed quite as heavily as everyone else, and went crazy tidying up the house and vacuuming everything in sight. when the sound of the vacuum finally penetrated our hangovers he told us we were going to get the house shipshape (not that it was overly untidy before the party, just lived in, I dont live in a showhouse). I told him on New Years Morning shipwrecked is a perfectly acceptable shape for a ship.
Not that I don't appreciate the effort, but it did take me several days to get things back to where they were supposed to be...
Not that I don't appreciate the effort, but it did take me several days to get things back to where they were supposed to be...
Even when I feel the need to make some brownie points with the missus, and I have been known to pull out the mop and feather duster at 3am when I stroll in, and clean the house up a bit, I've never thought of vacuuming while the house is sleeping lol.
Vacuuming on New Years Day?!?!? I,d kill 'em. Well, a good maiming anyway.
It's not up to a house guest to initiate and direct a complete cleaning of the house. Toss all the garbage plates and cups into a bag. Sure. Gather all the glasses and dishes and start in? I will love it. Getting the mess concentrated to the kitchen? Priceless.
Vacuuming.......slap upside the head!
Being helpful, having manners and good etiquette is always in fashion.
If i'm a guest, I don't want to burden my host, who's going out of their way already. But if i'm staying at...
A friend's house - I will make the bed and leave the room the way it was when I found it
A good friend's house - I might strip the bed and bring the sheets to the laundry room, but still i wouldn't do the laundry, lest i screw it up and bleach/shrink/ruin $500 Frette sheets
My girlfriends's house - Fuck it, I should not be in the guest room, rather i'd be sleeping in HER bed, and hopefully not sleeping much that night anyway
If i'm a guest, I don't want to burden my host, who's going out of their way already. But if i'm staying at...
A friend's house - I will make the bed and leave the room the way it was when I found it
A good friend's house - I might strip the bed and bring the sheets to the laundry room, but still i wouldn't do the laundry, lest i screw it up and bleach/shrink/ruin $500 Frette sheets
My girlfriends's house - Fuck it, I should not be in the guest room, rather i'd be sleeping in HER bed, and hopefully not sleeping much that night anyway
Yes. They probably assume you will wash the sheets but it sounds like they were being respectful. Better to walk in the room and see a nicely made bed instead of seeing a stripped bed and a ball of laundry.
As someone that hosts quite a few guests I usually will mention on their last night, or at breakfast on the last morning that it would appreciated if they take off the sheets. In most cases, I will tell them there is a clean set they can put back on.
Never had anyone give it a second thought. After all, they are staying at my place not the Fairmont down the street, so maid service is not included.
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Asking them would have been a lot more useful and productive than asking us. As would communicating your preferences—or having guests who asked about them—before the erroneous assumption.
After the fact, we all have to settle for the pleasures of making another minor mole-hill into a meaningless mountain.
After the fact, we all have to settle for the pleasures of making another minor mole-hill into a meaningless mountain.
My bad, the way I read it I got the impression that he wanted them to do the laundry. In any case, if the OP wanted the sheets folded I think the right thing would have been to express his expectations rather than leave it to the guest read of the situation as many guests would have simply made the bed thinking that's enough.
I didn't expect them to do anything but what they did- but in thinking about it- I wondered why guests do not strip the bed- we all know the sheets are going to be washed but we (yes I do it too) make the bed as if that's the end of it. I was pondering one of the vagaries of life.
It's like a note I have on my desk at work: "Don't touch this mess. I know where everything is."
You sound like a terrible host. Do you ask them to bring their own toothpaste and coffee as well?
