Got Fucked Over
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LOL.genintoronto said:
I found a site giving detailed differences between Fu*k buddies and FWB:
FUCK BUDDY
Calling Pattern:
Calls or texts are initiated to see what is happening that night or around town. Calls are usually focused around the social scene and whether paths will happen to cross during the night.
Social Behavior:
Fuck buddies are able to be with each other in public at bars and clubs, etc. They often bump into each other at the same parties, bars, and clubs. Fuck buddies will seldom make plans with each other in advance. Meetings are usually more spur of the moment or if there is nothing better happening. Fuck buddies can meet at the venue where the other fuck buddy is at and then go home with each other, whereas booty calls will usually just meet where they will have sex and skip all external socializing.
Sentiment:
Fuck buddies are social play friends. The relationship is built on fun, casualness, and sex. They may be actively dating other people in life and are not interested in actually dating the other fuck buddy. Fuck buddies will usually only hang out with the other person if they know sex will ensue afterwards. Depending on the relationship, sex could be exclusively with each other, or open to other people. This type of relationship ends if one of the members starts to seriously romantically date another person. However, if that partner returns to single status, the fuck buddy relationship can be easily reestablished.
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FRIEND WITH BENEFITS
Calling Pattern:
Will call to just talk, or make plans in adavance to hang out.
Social Behavior:
For the most part, these two people are friends. The big difference between their other friendships is sex. Friends with benefits have the ability to go out on date-like activities, which is useful for formal parties and weddings. However, real dates are not initiated because there is no official bf/gf relationship interest between the partners. The intention of hanging out is because they enjoy similar activities and each other’s company. Sex is an optional part of the relationship. If one partner has sex outside of the FWB relationship, it does not end their friendship. If one person gets a b/f or g/f, the sex element is taken out of the FWB relationship and they continue to be friends. Sex can also come back into the friendship when both parties are ready for it.
Sentiment:
This relationship is primarily about friendship. Friends with benefits care about the other; however, they are not interested in officially romantically dating each other. They are able to have sex with each other without it being awkward because they either have a good foundation for their relationship and/or communicate really well with each other. Since friendship is more valued than sex, sex is often sacrificed for the sake of the friendship. Friends with benefits are also able to talk about each other’s dating lives.
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So, if you don't know her well, and aren't yet close friends, and haven't had sex, you can't just "be" FWB. You are better off just dating her and seeing if she is interested in you if you want a dating relationship with her. If she is annoyed that you suggested FWB, maybe she wants a standard dating relationship and is offended becasue you came across as too casual in wanting sex. A girl who is looking for a long term b/f relationship doesn't usually like it if the guy suggests FWB after two dates. If you just date her more, you could get to know her better and perhaps have dating sex along the way as part of the "getting to know her" process, without an official relationship term other than "dating". If this getting to know her works well, you could then end up as her b/f, or she might stop seeing you, or mayeb FWB - I don't know. My point is at this stage just try to date her more and see where that takes you. If she wanted you to meet her friends, sounds like she wanted their opinion on your suitability as a potential b/f.
genintoronto said:
Captain Fantastic said:Were you dropped on your head as an infant?
I am thinking the same thing. We have been saying over and over again, you have only been on 2 dates and then he tosses the line out there himself to help back himself up when he offends her.
Dr. L - I am sorry but you have been wrong on so many accounts in this attempt to date this woman. We have tried to help you, to tell you, guide you and you just don't want to hear it unless it validates and enables you to continue along the disastrous road you have started down. We don't have it wrong, we have understood everything you wrote in the context in which you wrote you. You are the one who has it ALL wrong but it is your life man.
I can't give anymore advice and if this thread keeps going, I am going to have to just laugh at you for acting like such an idiot repeatedly.
Dr. Luv, I got one last tidbit of genius advice for ya:
Next time you're with her and she as much as looks at another guy you do a complete freak-out. Throw your best temper tantrum, doesnt matter if its fake or not she cant tell the difference anyways.
She's gonna do 1 of 2 things:
1) Get a terrified look on her face and you'll never hear from her again
2) It will stun her and she'll think...hhmm...this guy is really jealous, he must like me a lot.
Of course you're not really jealous you're just trying to get in her pants. But she doesnt know that
And then you both live long and happily ever after
Problemo solved
P.S. I find this tactic works real well on strippers for some reason
Next time you're with her and she as much as looks at another guy you do a complete freak-out. Throw your best temper tantrum, doesnt matter if its fake or not she cant tell the difference anyways.
She's gonna do 1 of 2 things:
1) Get a terrified look on her face and you'll never hear from her again
2) It will stun her and she'll think...hhmm...this guy is really jealous, he must like me a lot.
Of course you're not really jealous you're just trying to get in her pants. But she doesnt know that
And then you both live long and happily ever after
Problemo solved
P.S. I find this tactic works real well on strippers for some reason
It appears we've clarified everything for the time being. Short version:
1). I just wanted to be clear on exactly what it is she wanted. When she avoided answering it directly it caused confusion on my part e.g. (I'm not a mind reader).
2). She understands this, but she is still not very happy. One of her 'must haves' for dating is no drama, and this feels like drama to her.
3). She's willing to move past it and give dating another chance.
We'll see...
1). I just wanted to be clear on exactly what it is she wanted. When she avoided answering it directly it caused confusion on my part e.g. (I'm not a mind reader).
2). She understands this, but she is still not very happy. One of her 'must haves' for dating is no drama, and this feels like drama to her.
3). She's willing to move past it and give dating another chance.
We'll see...
Right, a woman that wants no drama??!!drlove said:
Better check her package and make sure she's a real woman...LOL
