GFE and BBBJ QUESTION for HOBBYISTS?

[A1Provider]

I recently had a client who told me that because I dont provide BBBJ that I am not a true GFE SP. I totally disagree and my other clients who have given me good reviews disagree as well.
I dont do it for my own personal reasons. So please dont ask me why, it is my personal choice, and I dont judge other SPs who do provide this service because it is their body and therefore their choice. So I am not trying to flame anyone here.
I am just curious about how most hobbyists think or feel about an SP who provides this service. If it makes you uncomfortable, why? If not why?

No lessons on the possible or impossible STD risks, either please. I can read about this on my own.
Please be serious and honest about your answers.
Thanks

P.S. I am new here so forgive me if this topic has been discussed already.

 

[WoodPeckr]

Raven well said......

BBBJ does not determine the GFE level in these times. It just seems too risky, especially if she does so right off the bat first time seeing you. After all you are strangers. Makes you think of her past history, while she is probably thinking of yours also. While I`ve had and enjoyed it before, it usually occurs with a regular lady who has been chosen for her good quality, hygiene and safety.

He was most likely just trying to get a BBBJ out of you. Always felt the "safe" girls were smarter and more respected.

 

[peter]

you would get genental cold sore from uncovered oral sex, so always practice safe sex and always wear condom

 

[TJ in the 'Peg]

GFE

To me a GFE is more about the atmosphere, the sensuality, and the 'connection'. The physical is of course very important, but it is NOT what makes it a GFE.

I have noticed a lot of SP's don't include their websites with their signatures - is there a reason for this - other than they may not have one?

TJ

 

[Willywants]

BBBJ Does Not A GFE Make!!

Hi A1!!
I am always surprised when an SP offers or just gives a BBBJ!
Certainly there is more pleasure uncovered, but when in pursuit of a GFE, CBJ or BBBJ is not an issue with me!
Once again, I would rather be the provider of pleasure and have total access to a beautiful lady's assets in order to provide that pleasure! Kissing, kuddling and karessing, the three "K's", are much more important to me than a BJ, covered or otherwise!
The ultimate match for me would be with a lady who is as equally aroused in giving pleasure as Iam! An SP going thru the motions because she thinks that is what I want, would be a wee bit off the mark!
With me A1, it's all about the lady!

Willywants (to lead when he's dancing!!)

 

[batman3]

Re: GFE

To me a GFE is more about the atmosphere, the sensuality, and the 'connection'. The physical is of course very important, but it is NOT what makes it a GFE.

I have noticed a lot of SP's don't include their websites with their signatures - is there a reason for this - other than they may not have one?

TJ

Yes -they have been accused of using the board in that way to free advertise.

Sheik-re gfe/pse combination - yes its rare but possible- I found one who adapts from one to the other depending on my/our mood- its great!

 

[Jenn_angel]

Website...

Can you imagine if I put my new site address in my signature? It would be on the board close to 1000 times... I think I will save everyone from that... lol.

 

[Willywants]

Goodness Gracious, I've Just Been....

"Dittoed!"!
Thanks Siobhan!!
You put it so much more sensitively than I!
Must be the woman in you!

Willywants (to be quoted one day!! That's "quoted", not "cited"!)

 

[fijiman]

For me, BBBJ is one of the main reasons why I hobby. If it's not available, I'd rather go to a MP or SP.

fiji

 

[Willywants]

BBBJ's! MP or SC!!

An education!
Fijiman, I wasn't aware that BBBJ's were that readily available at MP's and SC's!!!!

Willywants (to check this out!)

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

I belive it comes down to this ... its great to have fun and be in this business but its not worth losing my life over. *le wink*

 

[TheShadow]

I am just curious about how most hobbyists think or feel about an SP who provides this service. If it makes you uncomfortable, why? If not why?

TheFan
Actually it was about BBBJ,and your comfort level about an SP that provides it!
TS

 

[Willywants]

TheFan Is Back On Track!

Right you are Fan!
And I think I am already declared!
A true GFE is in respecting a lady's wishes and not asking for, demanding or expecting anything not on the "menu", so to speak!
Damn, I hate that term!
If you order two, does it come with egg rolls?

I think the secret of a true GFE is to be yourself, allow the lady to be herself, and communicate in all respects!
I have mentioned in previous posts, a young lady I saw in Ottawa on more than one occassion!
I booked her one evening and she arrived all apologetic! Enroute to the hotel, she had commenced her period! Rather than turn around and have the agency call with apologies, offering an alternative, she arrived on schedule with two cups of Tim's, and we sat and chatted for about an hour! No fee was expected and no fee was paid! She was just sorry for disappointing me and was respectful enough of the established "business" relationship to make a nice gesture! She offered to come back the next evening, suggesting that I wouldn't know the difference, but I think I showed respect for her by refusing!
Maybe she was just being a good business woman, but previous meetings, plus words spoken had taken the whole relationship into a different realm! To me, that of a GFE!
It worked for me! And BBBJ was never on the "menu"!

Willy

 

[A1Provider]

RE: TJ in the Peg

I dont advertise my website, or contact information because I only see regular clients now, and want to keep it that way. I dont post as a means of free advertising. I dont want to see anymore clients, I have enough regulars at the moment. I like and want anonymity, just like the men here o Terb.

Willywants - I love your writing style. Your posts are so creative and well written, they always crack me up. A1Provider wants Willywants to be her creative writing professor. lol
I can speak my mind, and be honest without worrying about being accused of self-promotion, or flirting, or kissing up. Not my style.

 

[Willywants]

Flirting, Kissing Up and Self Promotion!!

A1Provider, dedicated lass that you are, you just did all three by inviting me to be your creative writing professor!
Oops!
My apologies A1! I wrongly accuse! You had no way of knowing that I do my writing and most of my creative teaching in bed!!
Now I am embarrassed! Lol!

Thank you for the compliment! You should be complimented on starting such a fascinating thread!
I do not think that either a man or a woman can share the degree of intimacy involved in an SP/Client relationship without an eventual emotional attachment developing, however small that may be! I know it happens on my part! I look at the feeling as just being a part of my overall sensitivity towards women and do not allow myself to be consumed by it!
I have certainly had encounters where this has not been a factor! More, I would say, due to the detachment of the lady in the perfunctory performance of her "job"!
Hate those type of encounters!

Willywants (to be loved! For the moment!)

 

[the rusty tromb]

I always thought a GFE was having her get pissed off at you and asking "do you really love me?"