getting back an sp
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Depends on the sp, the type of relationship you had with her before the falling out and how serious the falling out was. I have also had disagreements with an sp who I have seen numerous times over the years but we have always patched things up. I consider her a friend and I believe she considers me a friend. Friends will disagree from time to time. No harm in reaching out in a conciliatory fashion to her and see where it goes.
thumper18474
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It depends on what you did, some things are unforgivable. It could have been a misunderstanding, who knows. Try to patch things up and if it doesn't work, don't push it. That happens sometimes but if you are too persistent and send like a dozen or more texts and call a bunch of times with no response, it makes the situation worse. She's going to think you're nuts.
You should take care of conflicts like this regardless if it involves an SP or not ASAP. Letting it fester for any period of time makes it tougher to make amends. The only thing you can do at this point is write a sincere apology note and see if she responds, but don't hold your breath for that. I wouldn't bring up wanting to see her again or that you're missing her service. That comes across as desperate.
Why the fuck do you care, you payed for a service now its over find another regular move on , and dont give it a second thought. She is not giving you a second thought and has lots of regulars. Its not personal its business and the more you think its personal the better she's done her job.
Just call her up and book. Act like nothing is wrong and everything is forgotten. Don't overthink it.
This is so very much the crux of the whole thing. Did you cross a line? Was there shock, rage, horror involved somewhere, or just a minor disagreement? Surely you have some sense of whether the rift is minor or major.
Look at it this way, if the falling out was because of her, do you think for one second she'd call you back. Move on forget about this, find another ATF, there are plenty out there. Always Remember Happy Hobbying.
I would warn against doing that. If he really screwed up and upset her, calling her up and acting like nothing happened could upset her even more.
I agree with others here - send her an e-mail and/or a text with an apology and ask if it's okay to contact her. If she doesn't respond then I wouldn't keep trying.
The good news is that is just business. The bad news is that it's a very personal service. When the OP says that he misses her "service", I wonder how much of that was just business.
What @punter said. Without knowing exactly what happen it's hard to give advice.
Did you fall in love with her and told her? Did you assume that after seeing her x amounts of time, that maybe she would be okay to do bbfs or other activities she say she doesn't like to do
Or stayed an extra 15 minutes past your hour booking a few times and she got angry at this?
All are different situations that would have difference response
Did you fall in love with her and told her? Did you assume that after seeing her x amounts of time, that maybe she would be okay to do bbfs or other activities she say she doesn't like to do
Or stayed an extra 15 minutes past your hour booking a few times and she got angry at this?
All are different situations that would have difference response
I agree it pretty much depends on how serious the cause of the fall out is. In this relationship, it is quite common to have a misunderstanding. But if the misunderstanding is not caused by a blatant crossing the line, a disrespectful remark or action, patching things up is usually possible especially she is your long term regular. If it is a minor misunderstanding caused by the action on your part, a polite email or text to apologize woud usually do the strick, keeping in mind that she very much prefers a regular whom she is familiar with and likes.
thumper18474
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You realize you didnt give us too much info....we're all speculating here as to the cause of the fallout
did you do something? did she do something? was it a misunderstanding...did you short her on a visit?...assume something was there when there wasnt..and the scenarios go on and on
if it was a misunderstanding and words were said, in anger or frustration, there has to be a cooling off period, if either side wants it to workout it'll take time
Dont force it..if its meant to happen it will if not just cherish the memories of your encounters and if you can look for someone to create new ones with.
did you do something? did she do something? was it a misunderstanding...did you short her on a visit?...assume something was there when there wasnt..and the scenarios go on and on
if it was a misunderstanding and words were said, in anger or frustration, there has to be a cooling off period, if either side wants it to workout it'll take time
Dont force it..if its meant to happen it will if not just cherish the memories of your encounters and if you can look for someone to create new ones with.
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