how do you stop yourself from comparing your personal achievements to those of others around you?
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if that's the case, I'll amend the question slightly:
how do you stop yourself from getting dishearted when comparing your personal achievements to those of others around you?
how do you stop yourself from getting dishearted when comparing your personal achievements to those of others around you?
Good question. Just keep busy to keep your mind of it. Remember that "success" is an arbitrary function of luck and personality, not a function of being a better person. Happiness is more more important than acheivements. And life is short and we're all going to die soon.
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Wrong you should have NO limitations!Madison Doll said:Focus on your own achievements and know your limitations. Continue to set and strive for your goals. Work hard and be passionate about what you do.
You will never fall short!
MD
Well FB, one way to do it is to "not give a flying fuck" what everyone else is doing (or how well they are doing) and just chill.
Be happy with what you've got, achieved, done, and leave the competition to others.
If you're comparing yourself to friends, be thankful and happy for them. Congratulate them on their achievements.
Just remember: no matter who you are or what you've accomplished, there will always be someone who has gone farther, is richer, is better looking, has more, or lives in a better neighbourhood.
I bet that even Bill Gates, with his 50 billion dollars has his doubts and insecurities.
I used to pressure myself to be better, to work like a madman to get ahead, to obtain material and personal wealth only to be fought every inch by factors outside my control. Nothing EVER came easy for me and I was miserable. So now I just say what the fuck, work when I want, as hard as I want, and somewhere along the way I hope someone recognizes my talents and becomes a client. If they don't? Then too bad for them.....
Be happy with what you've got, achieved, done, and leave the competition to others.
If you're comparing yourself to friends, be thankful and happy for them. Congratulate them on their achievements.
Just remember: no matter who you are or what you've accomplished, there will always be someone who has gone farther, is richer, is better looking, has more, or lives in a better neighbourhood.
I bet that even Bill Gates, with his 50 billion dollars has his doubts and insecurities.
I used to pressure myself to be better, to work like a madman to get ahead, to obtain material and personal wealth only to be fought every inch by factors outside my control. Nothing EVER came easy for me and I was miserable. So now I just say what the fuck, work when I want, as hard as I want, and somewhere along the way I hope someone recognizes my talents and becomes a client. If they don't? Then too bad for them.....
By realizing the while I am very good at some things, I am not at others. I also strive to be #3. This might sound silly but let numbers one and two fight it out and always come in, in the money.
The only reasonable comparison to you is to yourself. Only you know if you're working or slacking, learning or stagnant, self-aware or oblivious. You'll always be an apple and the rest of the world oranges. Just do your best to learn the lessons you'll need to achieve what you think you need to accomplish. And don't sweat it if your goals change. In fact, if they don't, it means you're stuck in the past and not open to new ways of doing things. That's when you're really in trouble! Change is the constant of all life.
freshbreath said:
Learn to look in the mirror and be happy with who you see. Then you will stop measuring yourself against others. That's a mugs' game.
YOU have just one life. Enjoy the experience whatever it is.
There will always be people who appear to have more and appear to be happier than you. That may or may not be true. In any event, who gives a shit. What makes them happy may not be the answer for you.
Tap into yourself and gain a little self-confidence. Then you will not only enjoy yourself but also enjoy other people without envy.
wow, have a question and Terb comes out blazing!
and no one resorted to the old "use the search function!" response
thanks all (except you Esco
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and no one resorted to the old "use the search function!" response
thanks all (except you Esco
)No easy answer, and different for each person..
Some folks are hard wired, and CRAVE comparison to others. But, you can fight it. Some simplistic things (that are NOT necessarily simple):
Now thyself
Love thyself
Count your blessings
Compare yourself to a starving refugee in Darfur,
Plan for the worst, hope for the best
WORK towards getting what YOU want and WHAT you enjoy.
Keep in mind, it aint over 'til its over- in the long run WE ARE ALL DEAD.
freshbreath said:
Some folks are hard wired, and CRAVE comparison to others. But, you can fight it. Some simplistic things (that are NOT necessarily simple):
Now thyself
Love thyself
Count your blessings
Compare yourself to a starving refugee in Darfur,
Plan for the worst, hope for the best
WORK towards getting what YOU want and WHAT you enjoy.
Keep in mind, it aint over 'til its over- in the long run WE ARE ALL DEAD.
