Frequent cancellations by a regular

[canuckhooker]

This unfortunately is not unusual. As much as there are SPs who complain about no-shows and the like, there are, in my opinion, quite few SPs/MAs who are just as guilty of the same thing.

Although the financial impact to you is that you didn't have to spend money (provided you weren't foolish enough to pre-pay) it is a huge inconvenience. I know I pre-book with someone and make my schedule available. To get a last minute cancellation is inconvenient and annoying. To have it happen repeatedly and then add being "ghosted" is certainly an indication to move on and find greener pastures. Respect is a two way street and to do this to a client repeatedly is the height of disrespect.

And lest I have a bunch of SPs jumping on my comments, remember I said it is a two way street. It is just as unacceptable for a punter to do the same thing to an SP. Of course sometimes the little brain out thinks the big brain with gentlemen, and we often keep booking hoping it will be different the next time. Unfortunately if they do it once and get away with it, they can do it repeatedly.

I do know in the last year with one particular SP, I had at least two confirmed appointments (one in another city) where not only was it a last minute no-show on her part but she then ghosted me. She never did provide an explanation. It is particularly upsetting to see the same SP show up on Twitter during the time you were booked, putting up posts etc. but not replying to you.

So I am adding nothing new to the discussion other than venting. Just move on. It is her loss, particularly if you are what most SPs would consider to be a good client. I am sure there is someone else out there who will provide just as good an encounter and will appreciate your money.

 

[Respect1]

She probably blocked you , try another phone, and if she responds , then you know it,s time to move on

 

[Riverrunner28]

If you are this emotional about this issue, then 2 hours with you would probably drain her emotionally as well. I would offer two possible plans

1.Switch to hh meetings, if you are draining her mentally, she will be able to meet you for 30 min, just 2 hours may be too long.
2. If you love her that much, ask her out on a real date. Not paid, just take her on a date, there could be a chance that she likes you and just knows that it can't progress, so has chosen to distance.

So, either she doesn't like you, or she really likes you, those two options will allow you to move forward.

 

[kherg007]

Eeks. Once had a reg who cancelled 4 of last 5 attempts (one was not her fault). So she moved down the priority list (I did get a bit shirty as for one I rescheduled a work meeting w 5 people using bs excuses cuz she said she was free on a morning, so cleared space for a 2 hour meeting w her the next day. Get it all done tons of phone calls and emails. I text her back ...nothing that evening and 8am of the next day (day of the booking) texts back saying she said not free have a prebook how about Late arvo or evening? But was flying out of gta, and too late to secure another booking w a lady i liked. Happened another time too where it cost me a chance at a booking). Anyhow, she contacts me a month or so later asking why i haven't booked her -- so i honestly told her the irregularity was problematic but would love to book again given she reached out - then nothing. Then a week later a hostile message. So...move on. Drama is for real relationships not business. Too many excellent ladies. Had that happen when a lady complained about my recs but she clearly confused me with someone else as I didn't give out any details like she alleged (in fact only said "she's great" or "she's wonderful". She apologised but just don't need the drama, thus I likely won't book her again. I don't recommend either of them spontaneously when blokes say "who can recommend an X...", but i won't disparage them either. If I'm asked in a pm about them I honestly say they are both great companions, because they are once you're in the room.

 

[dvidi76]

If you are this emotional about this issue, then 2 hours with you would probably drain her emotionally as well. I would offer two possible plans

1.Switch to hh meetings, if you are draining her mentally, she will be able to meet you for 30 min, just 2 hours may be too long.
2. If you love her that much, ask her out on a real date. Not paid, just take her on a date, there could be a chance that she likes you and just knows that it can't progress, so has chosen to distance.

So, either she doesn't like you, or she really likes you, those two options will allow you to move forward.

She has a boyfriend for over a year, she does not admit it and when I asked she denies it...i don't know why, i don't care. she wears a necklace to meetings with their initials on it, i wanted to see what excuse she would come up with so asked about it, she said her "brother" gave it to her LOL. about the time this started is when all the cancels and drama started, which i presume is because she cant or is not allowed to do this too much to save herself or whatever.

even though, a few months ago we had an episode about something like this about doing something real, but I am twice her age and she didnt really dismiss the idea but she mention the age difference would be too much.
And even though I like her I don't think i'd want to get involved knowing what I know. being irrational and compulsive and very high maintenance, she can't get enough of the money, luxury bags, gucci, chanel...ever since she met her bf, she has been talking about retiring (yea right), she tried that a few months ago, tried to get a real job but still saw guys on the side. a month went by before that ended and unretired again. i tried to tell her to get an education but doubt it. I don't think she will ever give up the money.

 

[canuckhooker]

She has a boyfriend for over a year, she does not admit it and when I asked she denies it...i don't know why, i don't care. she wears a necklace to meetings with their initials on it, i wanted to see what excuse she would come up with so asked about it, she said her "brother" gave it to her LOL. about the time this started is when all the cancels and drama started, which i presume is because she cant or is not allowed to do this too much to save herself or whatever.

even though, a few months ago we had an episode about something like this about doing something real, but I am twice her age and she didnt really dismiss the idea but she mention the age difference would be too much.
And even though I like her I don't think i'd want to get involved knowing what I know. being irrational and compulsive and very high maintenance, she can't get enough of the money, luxury bags, gucci, chanel...ever since she met her bf, she has been talking about retiring (yea right), she tried that a few months ago, tried to get a real job but still saw guys on the side. a month went by before that ended and unretired again. i tried to tell her to get an education but doubt it. I don't think she will ever give up the money.

Oh wow. Now I know more than I did before and it explains a lot. My advice, lose her number, don't answer her texts, move on. If she can't reconcile being an SP with what is going on in her personal relationships you are going to get drawn into the drama, and you are going to continue to be disappointed. Don't walk away, run away and don't look back.

 

[KTDoy]

She has a boyfriend for over a year, she does not admit it and when I asked she denies it...i don't know why, i don't care. she wears a necklace to meetings with their initials on it, i wanted to see what excuse she would come up with so asked about it, she said her "brother" gave it to her LOL. about the time this started is when all the cancels and drama started, which i presume is because she cant or is not allowed to do this too much to save herself or whatever.

even though, a few months ago we had an episode about something like this about doing something real, but I am twice her age and she didnt really dismiss the idea but she mention the age difference would be too much.
And even though I like her I don't think i'd want to get involved knowing what I know. being irrational and compulsive and very high maintenance, she can't get enough of the money, luxury bags, gucci, chanel...ever since she met her bf, she has been talking about retiring (yea right), she tried that a few months ago, tried to get a real job but still saw guys on the side. a month went by before that ended and unretired again. i tried to tell her to get an education but doubt it. I don't think she will ever give up the money.

This is where the problem lies. Like my golf shot, once a hooker, you are always be a hooker Can't tell it where to go

 

[Alison_xox]

My way to do business :
If I am late or need to cancel a booking , I am offering a compensation to my client. It can be a 50$ off on our next session , a 30min extra , a free membership for the year ect ... My opinion on the matter is if you charge your clients for a cancellation or no show , it works in both sense.
It’s simply being professional.

It is very rare that I am late or have to cancel an appointment, but when it happens , I make sure that I keep my client happy. That’s how you built a great clientele that sticks with you for years.

Clients time is precious like ours so we (clients & providers) need to respect each other’s time.

My advice : Move on and find someone that value your time.


Kisses
Ali

 

[daytimelover]

I one girl only, I feel comfortable with her and she does with me. If she where to cancel me that many times without some kind of a decent answer, or if I felt mistreated in anyway. I would move on and find someone else.

 

[KKOPSEX]

Hi, over the past few months i've been seeing a indy SP regulary, over the past few weeks she has been cancelling me a few hours before our appointment, this past week she has done it 3 times in a row.
on the last time, it kind of got to me, so i texted her this: "cancelling right before a meeting is not really a good feeling for me, just so you know, thats all. I know its my problem, and not your fault, but I just wanted to be open about it", she replied a few hours later: "I don't know what to really answer to you". I understood later on and no point making a big deal of it i thought, so i just said "its ok nothing really to say, hope your doing well"
but next day I made a point to apologize a bit for my reaction and asked her when I could see her again. but its been 2 days and no reply.

I just wanted to know someones opinion on this, did I do something really wrong here?

Take a hint your done.

 

[jjw99]

I go to alo or cmj its easy to book
the lady is there
And if not ( never happened) there more ladies at the place so I go home happy

 

[tastingyou]

My way to do business :
If I am late or need to cancel a booking , I am offering a compensation to my client. It can be a 50$ off on our next session , a 30min extra , a free membership for the year ect ... My opinion on the matter is if you charge your clients for a cancellation or no show , it works in both sense.
It’s simply being professional.

It is very rare that I am late or have to cancel an appointment, but when it happens , I make sure that I keep my client happy. That’s how you built a great clientele that sticks with you for years.

Clients time is precious like ours so we (clients & providers) need to respect each other’s time.

My advice : Move on and find someone that value your time.


Kisses
Ali

I like the way the Alison respects her clients. Furthermore she is totally correct - move on- the SP is not treating you with respect. The reason for that could could be many , why does not really matter.

 

[Josephine Grey]

Hi, over the past few months i've been seeing a indy SP regulary, over the past few weeks she has been cancelling me a few hours before our appointment, this past week she has done it 3 times in a row.
on the last time, it kind of got to me, so i texted her this: "cancelling right before a meeting is not really a good feeling for me, just so you know, thats all. I know its my problem, and not your fault, but I just wanted to be open about it", she replied a few hours later: "I don't know what to really answer to you". I understood later on and no point making a big deal of it i thought, so i just said "its ok nothing really to say, hope your doing well"
but next day I made a point to apologize a bit for my reaction and asked her when I could see her again. but its been 2 days and no reply.

I just wanted to know someones opinion on this, did I do something really wrong here?

Reading the reason why if no apology was made and if she has not offer to make it up for your time she most likely don't care and now you are blocked.