First Encounter w/ SP

[explorerzip]

To back track a bit, I first PM'd her here and asked those questions, with the title "First Timer". Her reply was text me and give me your terb username. I did what she said and asked those same questions, and she responded to the approximate location but asked me to call her about the GFE/PSE. The exchange in the opening post was the phone conversation. I did not reiterate however that I was new to this ... I probably should have ...

I'll take peoples advice to start with an agency next time. I would definitely still ask questions tho. If you can't ask what's on the menu for the different prices, then I would definitely move on to another SP.

It's a red flag in my books when you try to openly communicate your wants to a SP (make sure you're respectful of course), but she wants you to text her back with your username and then phone her back about specific services. It's not hard for her to put this information in an ad or in a standard reply email.

There are many indys that are worth your time. Pay attention to the ones that list the reviews in their ads. Also, if an SP takes the time to reply to my email I usually take that as a good sign.

 

[explorerzip]

I agree, my initial booking contact is almost always via email. Then text on morning of appointment to confirm, and another text 10 minutes before appt time to get buzzer code or other necessary info. A voice phone call is a last resort, if something's gone wrong.

And asking over the phone "what's the difference between GFE and PSE?" probably put her off right from the start, she's a prostitute not your personal Oxford English Dictionary, and not the TTC Information Desk. "Is it easier to get there by public transit or car?" !? How could she possibly know or answer (or care about) this for you?

Exactly right. It doesn't take any effort to do a Google or Terb search for what is GFE, PSE, BBBJ, COF, etc. or the best route to take to get to a girl's location. If you're going to be spending a couple of hundred dollars with a lady, might as well spend a few minutes to research what she is like.

 

[Frosty]

Stay away from backpage.

 

[Born2Star]

I remember when I started hobbying I read Terb for at least a few months before I made my first phone call. While booking was ok my first session was a mess and nothing to write home about, still.

OP, don't sweat. Maybe you and her are just not meant to meet. You will eventually find a good reg.

With the amount of time wasters I'm not surprised either side become impatient quickly. It's not easy to be an Indy who needs to manage everything herself. It's wise to start with agency.

 

[VirginJohn]

Just a lurker, first time poster and still a virgin to the hobby.

This morning I made my first phone call to an SP and the conversation went something like this:

Me: whats the difference in service you offer for GFE and PSE.

SP: pretty much do anything, whatever you like.

Me: So you mentioned your location was XXXXXX, is it easier to get to via public transit or by car?

SP: not really sure, because I've only been working out of this location recently. If you book through me its $___, if you book through the agency its $___. Booking through the agency they can help with answering those questions.

Me: I see... (in my mind, I become confused because I always thought the SP was independent. I'm very new to this so I just kept to myself because of my negligence, maybe I just don't know enough about the SP).

SP: the agency's number is 416... Do you need to write it down?

Me: (I cut her off and said) no, no its OK I just thought you might know off the top from other peoples experience.

SP: oh, so you want to be difficult .. well .. *profanity*profanity*profanity and don't bother to call or text again.

Me: I'm sorry if you were offended but I didn't mean any ...

The call was cut short at this point and I thought to myself, why did I even try to apologize? I was so confused ...


Anyways, long story short, was it bad manners to mention "other people"? Because that was the only sensitive spot I could think of. The phone conversation was probably only about 1-2 minutes long so there couldn't have been that much I could have said wrong surely. I just dont want to make the same mistake again and offend someone but I'm completely at a loss here.

Like I said above, never been with an SP so I'm completely inexperienced. But by that short of a conversation, I must have hit a sore point without knowing it. Can anyone chime in and guide a newb?

Well chap, I don't think I'd take this one seriously for GFE. So are you doing this now because of bill c-36 is an enforceable law next month?

GFE means the woman is supposed to pretend to behave like a girlfriend and it is supposed to feel more intimate. It sounds like you are looking for that type of connection so look at ads that say GFE before calling. PSE is porn star experience and usually includes intense stuff and they are usually more expensive.

I can say that some SP's are really crazy. Once I called 10 SP's in a row (back in 2004), and said "Hi, how are you?", would you believe at least one of them cussed me off on the phone for saying "hi' to her. At the time I figured she was offering "greek" and maybe some previous client did her very hard up before I had called.

 

[zefroggy]

I remember when I started hobbying I read Terb for at least a few months before I made my first phone call. While booking was ok my first session was a mess and nothing to write home about, still.

OP, don't sweat. Maybe you and her are just not meant to meet. You will eventually find a good reg.

With the amount of time wasters I'm not surprised either side become impatient quickly. It's not easy to be an Indy who needs to manage everything herself. It's wise to start with agency.

Just be honest with yourself and your expectations first. Then treat every lady like a real date... because in a way it is, just with a clearer understanding of the expected outcome.

 

[Stoo]

Many of the ladies you will meet will be awesome and amazing people. Others will be train wrecks. Guess which one you got?

Way back, I researched for weeks on here when it was still a BB of sorts. I ended up driving all the way from Hamilton to Barrie to see an amazing girl. Best 4 minutes of my life up until that point.

Pick another and move on!

 

[Tangerinedreamer]

Can I ask you a question? playing a hunch here...

Is the SP in question let's say considerably older than 25? Not too long ago I had a completely bizarre, oddly similar exchange (PM, text, call, BS) with a well reviewed SP on here.

yes older, but not sure I would say considerably older tho. Wanna PM me a guess as to who you think it might have been?

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For the record, i wasn't asking the SP what is GFE and what is PSE...I think I've lurked enough to know what they mean
I wanted to know what the difference in service was since there was a difference in price.

Joined early 2014, and made my first phone call almost 10 months later. I've been reading a lot and not trying to get ahead of myself but seems I must have gotten bad luck. I don't think I've ever seen anything bad said about that particular SP so I thats why I thought it was me.

Anyhow, its all good, will try an agency first I guess. I did have a couple agency gals in mind before I decided on that one SP.

Thanks gents for the comments/advice.

 

[Titalian]

yes older, but not sure I would say considerably older tho. Wanna PM me a guess as to who you think it might have been?

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For the record, i wasn't asking the SP what is GFE and what is PSE...I think I've lurked enough to know what they mean
I wanted to know what the difference in service was since there was a difference in price.

Joined early 2014, and made my first phone call almost 10 months later. I've been reading a lot and not trying to get ahead of myself but seems I must have gotten bad luck. I don't think I've ever seen anything bad said about that particular SP so I thats why I thought it was me.

Anyhow, its all good, will try an agency first I guess. I did have a couple agency gals in mind before I decided on that one SP.

Thanks gents for the comments/advice.

I myself on initial contact, has always kept it to txt with a little description about myself, and this is directed towards indies. You cannot imagine how far that goes.
Once in awhile I do get a request, that I should call, Which then I do. As DB mentioned though, in the case of more mature women well thats another ball of wax.
Keep reading the threads of well established reviewers, there is still much to learn, I wish you luck and happy hobbying.

 

[DB123]

yes older, but not sure I would say considerably older tho. Wanna PM me a guess as to who you think it might have been.

Haha, KNEW IT. Have to assume you dodged a major crazy bullet. I know I feel like I did