Fetish-chastity cage

[uberdav]

Hello terb

I have been wearing a chastity cage on and off, never in sessions. I am thinking of doing one with it, any info on how to proceed?
I would like to let the provider(MA or SP) know prior to the visits but some of them have no contact means. So maybe initial visit first and then bring the cage for another session?

 

[Frank Gravey]

Hello terb

I have been wearing a chastity cage on and off, never in sessions. I am thinking of doing one with it, any info on how to proceed?
I would like to let the provider(MA or SP) know prior to the visits but some of them have no contact means. So maybe initial visit first and then bring the cage for another session?

I see you're getting reads on this, but no replies. Tbh, if I'm reading this right, your post is a mix of questions that kinda point back to you to decide. After all, you know yourself best, and you're paying for the pleasure.
That said, FWIW, I don't think you need an initial visit to announce your cage intentions - unless it turns you on to go that route. When you say you're "thinking of doing [a session] with it", what's your vision for that? The reason I ask is that Red Tube & Co. have vids where caged guys are released, edged, and then re-caged. Alternatively, guys who are caged and vibrator teased by their partner to the point where they blow their permitted load for the week/month/whatever - or not, as the case may be. Or, probably every caged guy's hoped for - get me out of this thing and bring me off. What are you up for? State your needs. Remember these gals aren't mind readers.
I don't speak from caged experience. I can picture some Dom SP's may offer arrangements like this - I expect you provide the cage and they keep the key! Obviously if you keep a spare, you're kinda spoiling the fun. Be interesting to hear if there are Providers out there who have come across this 'request'. Ladies?

 

[Julie_BrassClub]

I see you're getting reads on this, but no replies. Tbh, if I'm reading this right, your post is a mix of questions that kinda point back to you to decide. After all, you know yourself best, and you're paying for the pleasure.
That said, FWIW, I don't think you need an initial visit to announce your cage intentions - unless it turns you on to go that route. When you say you're "thinking of doing [a session] with it", what's your vision for that? The reason I ask is that Red Tube & Co. have vids where caged guys are released, edged, and then re-caged. Alternatively, guys who are caged and vibrator teased by their partner to the point where they blow their permitted load for the week/month/whatever - or not, as the case may be. Or, probably every caged guy's hoped for - get me out of this thing and bring me off. What are you up for? State your needs. Remember these gals aren't mind readers.
I don't speak from caged experience. I can picture some Dom SP's may offer arrangements like this - I expect you provide the cage and they keep the key! Obviously if you keep a spare, you're kinda spoiling the fun. Be interesting to hear if there are Providers out there who have come across this 'request'. Ladies?

 

[Chocolat Favoris]

There is an old guy on X named Artie who does this regularly with the girls at Alpha. Not sure whether he is on this board.

 

[uberdav]

There is an old guy on X named Artie who does this regularly with the girls at Alpha. Not sure whether he is on this board.

Do you mind sharing it? In PM, maybe?

 

[uberdav]

I see you're getting reads on this, but no replies. Tbh, if I'm reading this right, your post is a mix of questions that kinda point back to you to decide. After all, you know yourself best, and you're paying for the pleasure.
That said, FWIW, I don't think you need an initial visit to announce your cage intentions - unless it turns you on to go that route. When you say you're "thinking of doing [a session] with it", what's your vision for that? The reason I ask is that Red Tube & Co. have vids where caged guys are released, edged, and then re-caged. Alternatively, guys who are caged and vibrator teased by their partner to the point where they blow their permitted load for the week/month/whatever - or not, as the case may be. Or, probably every caged guy's hoped for - get me out of this thing and bring me off. What are you up for? State your needs. Remember these gals aren't mind readers.
I don't speak from caged experience. I can picture some Dom SP's may offer arrangements like this - I expect you provide the cage and they keep the key! Obviously if you keep a spare, you're kinda spoiling the fun. Be interesting to hear if there are Providers out there who have come across this 'request'. Ladies?

Thanks for the reply.
The initial visit is just to not "impose" this on the MA/SP and catch them by surprise. It might be that someone is not comfortable with that.

For the session, I plan on giving the key to the lady at the start and it is up to her. Most ladies would want you to have a good time and have an orgasm but I can have a good time while being denied too.

IMPORTANT:
I am NOT into humiliation. The cage and key are more to give away my pleasure and not as a form of humiliation. I am into teasing but no degradation.

 

[Frank Gravey]

Lost in Translation?

 

[uberdav]

I am not able to read the reply?!

 

[Julie_BrassClub]

Hello terb

I have been wearing a chastity cage on and off, never in sessions. I am thinking of doing one with it, any info on how to proceed?
I would like to let the provider(MA or SP) know prior to the visits but some of them have no contact means. So maybe initial visit first and then bring the cage for another session?

I feel like it's too much for ma 's I mean it's too much mental work holding a key and play that game with the guy having a cage on his d . That's like lot of work for little money

A proper dominatrix would be better . If someone wOuld surprise me with such , thinking it s cute , id be livid and walk out with your key lol

 

[uberdav]

Yeah, I totally see your point. Which is why I have not done it and won't without the proper arrangement.

 

[funfunfun010101]

I feel like it's too much for ma 's I mean it's too much mental work holding a key and play that game with the guy having a cage on his d . That's like lot of work for little money

A proper dominatrix would be better . If someone wOuld surprise me with such , thinking it s cute , id be livid and walk out with your key lol

Wow. I’m sure you just got crossed off a lot of lists.
“A lot of work”. lol

 

[BusterHighmann]

I feel like it's too much for ma 's I mean it's too much mental work holding a key and play that game with the guy having a cage on his d . That's like lot of work for little money

A proper dominatrix would be better . If someone wOuld surprise me with such , thinking it s cute , id be livid and walk out with your key lol

A lot of work for little money? I used to wash dishes for 8 hours straight for $6/hr. I would have loved to hold a key for a guy with a dick on his cage for $200/hr.

At least I know now to not call you if anything requires work.

 

[Theredmilf]

A lot of work for little money? I used to wash dishes for 8 hours straight for $6/hr. I would have loved to hold a key for a guy with a dick on his cage for $200/hr.

At least I know now to not call you if anything requires work.

@Julie_BrassClub is right to set clear boundaries — this fetish isn’t part of standard MA services. It’s a specialized session that requires consent and preparation upfront. She is just sharing MA limits which shouldn’t be controversial at all.

Just because you used to wash dishes back when we still had dial-up Internet and bust hymens without consent doesn’t make it okay to be creepy and disrespectful today.

Just to bring you up to speed, dishwashers make closer to $18/hr in this decade. Times (and wages) have moved on — and so has basic consent etiquette. Comparing specialized kink work to dishwashing is still a false equivalence that dismisses that this is sex work and the extra emotional labour, creativity and skill involved in fetish sessions. Springing surprises on providers isn’t a flex and your response is giving major stuck in the Nickelback era, not to mention weird jealousy vibes.

If you want to book a caged session, just ask upfront if the provider offers this fetish, mention the activities you’d like, and inquire about the fee. Many providers are happy to do chastity play, but it’s a different service that comes with different rates.

 

[Julie_BrassClub]

@Julie_BrassClub is right to set clear boundaries — this fetish isn’t part of standard MA services. It’s a specialized session that requires consent and preparation upfront. She is just sharing MA limits which shouldn’t be controversial at all.

Just because you used to wash dishes back when we still had dial-up Internet and bust hymens without consent doesn’t make it okay to be creepy and disrespectful today.

Just to bring you up to speed, dishwashers make closer to $18/hr in this decade. Times (and wages) have moved on — and so has basic consent etiquette. Comparing specialized kink work to dishwashing is still a false equivalence that dismisses that this is sex work and the extra emotional labour, creativity and skill involved in fetish sessions. Springing surprises on providers isn’t a flex and your response is giving major stuck in the Nickelback era, not to mention weird jealousy vibes.

If you want to book a caged session, just ask upfront if the provider offers this fetish, mention the activities you’d like, and inquire about the fee. Many providers are happy to do chastity play, but it’s a different service that comes with different rates.

Thank you Ruby for coming to my rescue !

I want to clarify that the MA s are not keeping that full amount as well , a good portion goes for the room and towel fee. What's left is not enough to cover that type of session

You can compare this to be a carpenter called to install molding , and then you get to work and they ask you to do ceramics. That's not the same job at all you were prepared to . You don't have the tools and that's not what you signed up for . Plus it's more precise work and mental gymnastics.

Most MA have a session routine established. Greetings, shower , and then go from there .

Good thing the poster is a gentleman and is actually inquiring for it instead of just showing up with said accessory .

As for others who tryed to gang up on me .... i mean sex work isn't as easy as it looks. Just look at the behaviour of some men when trying to explain something from our point of view "crossed of list meh meh meh "

 

[Theredmilf]

Thank you Ruby for coming to my rescue !

I want to clarify that the MA s are not keeping that full amount as well , a good portion goes for the room and towel fee. What's left is not enough to cover that type of session

You can compare this to be a carpenter called to install molding , and then you get to work and they ask you to do ceramics. That's not the same job at all you were prepared to . You don't have the tools and that's not what you signed up for . Plus it's more precise work and mental gymnastics.

Most MA have a session routine established. Greetings, shower , and then go from there .

Good thing the poster is a gentleman and is actually inquiring for it instead of just showing up with said accessory .

As for others who tryed to gang up on me .... i mean sex work isn't as easy as it looks. Just look at the behaviour of some men when trying to explain something from our point of view "crossed of list meh meh meh "

Yes, exactly! And you can’t compare regular employment wages to independent contractor work. We cover all our own expenses, taxes, benefits, and unbillable time.

I’d be interested to know the breakdown for an MA, but for an SP billing $200/hour, the real net is only about $30/hour — just 66% more than a dishwasher makes. And I think a dishwasher would ask a heck of a lot more than a 66% bump to lick the plates clean with his tongue while wearing a G-string.

 

[uberdav]

I have reached out to an MA at a club who is a domme and mentions chastity play on her website, waiting for her reply.

As I said, I don't want it to be a surprise(not a fun one too) if I were to just show up in it. It won't be fun for either of us.

Glad to have received the inputs of 2 pros to confirm my "fears" and the replies of the other members to... I don't know?

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

I think anyone that caters to fetishes or does domination wouldn't have an issue doing this.

Generally for a fetish client I get a brief summary of what they're looking for. I know you stated that you want to wear a cage, but I'm not sure what the expectations would be of a provider in that scenario. Is it teasing and denial? Is it being released? Is it being restricted the whole time? Id have some questions

I give a yes or no if I provide the service and we work out the details in person

One of the only issues that I foresee, is that sometimes fetish clients talk too much about their fetishes and I have to remind them that we will discuss these things in person. I have to encourage them to pay for a texting session if they really need to work out the details.

Sometimes I have to block them

I see a lot of fetish clients , but some fetish clients will not stop talking about their fetish. Its very exciting for them and I dont mind sharing in their excitement but I don't get paid for talking to them unless they pay me to engage so I have to keep it brief.

So keep it short and sweet or offer to pay them to chat about it.

This is an extreme example but I have a fetish client that I had a lot of fun with but they fell asleep before I arrived to a session years ago and I was furious. I blocked them and didnt hear from them until recently when they changed their number.

I actually had a lot of fun with this person and I would love to see them again but everytime they talk to me they send me a novel. I cant even read it. Every response is like reading an entire page of a book. They want to send chapters of texts before booking a session and I just cant do it.

Most people arent this extreme but they LOVE to talk about it with someone who's not judging them and I get it. Just be mindful of your providers time.

Hello terb

I have been wearing a chastity cage on and off, never in sessions. I am thinking of doing one with it, any info on how to proceed?
I would like to let the provider(MA or SP) know prior to the visits but some of them have no contact means. So maybe initial visit first and then bring the cage for another session?

 

[MisterD83]

If you’re serious about chastity you’d be better off seeking out a specialist dominatrix. You might end up paying a little bit extra but they will properly discuss what you want out of the experience and provide a safe respectful tailor made session. A lot of dominatrix will offer key holding services too.

 

[KittyCaterina]

I have pretty extensive experience with being a keyholder. I was the keyholder to one client for many years and shorter term for others.

There are different scenarios and it really depends on what you want your experience to be.

It could be a session where you have caged yourself beforehand and want tease, denial and an unlocking (or not) at the SWs discretion during or it could be you arrive to the SW, she locks you and sends you away with regular teasing texts and sexy key photos until she decides you are free... There are many possibilities.

It is always helpful to set a maximum time limit to be locked, especially if you are new to this.

Another tip is to purchase these little numbered plastic lock tags that must be cut off to remove. It ensures that you are staying locked and not removing it without your keyholder knowing.

It is also important to learn to wash yourself properly with your cage on whether it is metal, acrylic or plastic (your preference).
I had a horrendous experience once when I removed a plastic cage from a client, just awful.

Anyways, your rate will depend on the experience you choose and if it includes regular texting, photos and communication to tease you while you are locked.

Hope this was helpful.

XO