Feeling a bit embarassed of my performance after visiting SP

[smithp131289]

Hello guys. Hope you all are doing well.

I visited an SP for the first time a few weeks ago and I was so excited to break my virginity.

I visited one SP from an agency in Toronto and I think the session was a bit demotivating for me. The SP was nice but I believe I could not perform. I did not know how to do DFK. I made multiple attempts but could not get my junior inside and I had to say sorry to her every time I failed which made me little ashamed of myself. I left earlier than my scheduled session time.

When I went home, my self-esteem got low and it was all in my mind. I didn't know it would be so overwhelming for me.

Hence, I am actually looking for someone who can just provide me with any paid tutorial sessions on how to do kissing and all other things?

 

[HEYHEY]

Don't beat yourself up over it.
Everyone on this planet has embarrassing stories, you gotta laugh it off and move on in life.

 

[Tinmachine]

Hello guys. Hope you all are doing well.

I visited an SP for the first time a few weeks ago and I was so excited to break my virginity.

I visited one SP from an agency in Toronto and I think the session was a bit demotivating for me. The SP was nice but I believe I could not perform. I did not know how to do DFK. I made multiple attempts but could not get my junior inside and I had to say sorry to her every time I failed which made me little ashamed of myself. I left earlier than my scheduled session time.

When I went home, my self-esteem got low and it was all in my mind. I didn't know it would be so overwhelming for me.

Hence, I am actually looking for someone who can just provide me with any paid tutorial sessions on how to do kissing and all other things?

How old are u? And did you tell the agency or the provider ahead of time? It helps. Foreplay is most important than doing the actual deed imo, especially with someone with not much experience. Foreplay, feeling her body, kissing and getting a hard on is the best part. If the "deed" great, if not dont worry about it. Did your junior go down with the condom going on? It's perfectly normal and happens to everyone.

 

[SexB]

I've had it happen a few times where I've been at both ends of the spectrum when it comes to ... performance.

There's been quite a few times where I would ... pull the trigger too quickly. It happened pretty consistently with one lady I saw a few times. She was completely understanding, even telling me she found it to be flattering since it showed how much she turned me on.

On the other hand, I've had a few times where I had some ... performance anxiety or I'd wilt as soon as the condom came on. Again, the ladies were completely understanding. That's why bringing cock rings to sessions has been a godsend. I actually had one lady comment, "Did you take a Viagra today?!" when I used a c-ring with her.

 

[oakvilleguy]

My first time with a SP, I was so nervous I could not get it up. She tried but no go. Ended up chatting with the sp for the remainder of the session. This was a few decades ago.

A couple of months ago with another SP , I couldn’t finish. Everything was going well in cg, I was starting to get tired so asked to switch to mish. At that time, I lost my erection and she tried to get me aroused again but no dice. She felt bad and so did I. I had a rough week at work and thought a session would help lift my spirits but ended up feeling worse afterwards.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Hello guys. Hope you all are doing well.

I visited an SP for the first time a few weeks ago and I was so excited to break my virginity.

I visited one SP from an agency in Toronto and I think the session was a bit demotivating for me. The SP was nice but I believe I could not perform. I did not know how to do DFK. I made multiple attempts but could not get my junior inside and I had to say sorry to her every time I failed which made me little ashamed of myself. I left earlier than my scheduled session time.

When I went home, my self-esteem got low and it was all in my mind. I didn't know it would be so overwhelming for me.

Hence, I am actually looking for someone who can just provide me with any paid tutorial sessions on how to do kissing and all other things?

Nothing to worry about - the beauty of this hobby is you can try again. To get you going though and to make you feel relaxed, can I suggest you visit one of the best in @SultrySofia . Enjoy and remember- this is a hobby - you seem young - enjoy for what it is.

 

[Ahri]

Don’t be embarrassed! Like others said don’t beat yourself up over it.

 

[Gweilo55]

Nothing to worry about - the beauty of this hobby is you can try again. To get you going though and to make you feel relaxed, can I suggest you visit one of the best in @SultrySofia . Enjoy and remember- this is a hobby - you seem young - enjoy for what it is.

That really is the beauty of this hobby lol. You can just try reinventing yourself and new things every time

 

[massman]

Hello guys. Hope you all are doing well.

I visited an SP for the first time a few weeks ago and I was so excited to break my virginity.

I visited one SP from an agency in Toronto and I think the session was a bit demotivating for me. The SP was nice but I believe I could not perform. I did not know how to do DFK. I made multiple attempts but could not get my junior inside and I had to say sorry to her every time I failed which made me little ashamed of myself. I left earlier than my scheduled session time.

When I went home, my self-esteem got low and it was all in my mind. I didn't know it would be so overwhelming for me.

Hence, I am actually looking for someone who can just provide me with any paid tutorial sessions on how to do kissing and all other things?

One of the great things in this hobby is you don’t need to be embarrassed. While you might feel the need to “impress” her, it’s unnecessary. And no matter how much you feel you “underperformed”, trust me she’s seen it before, and likely seen far far worse. Yes, it’s normal to be disappointed when you looked forward to something (and it cost you a lot of money) and it does t go as planned, but let the shame and embarrassment go.
If you do try again 1. Think about going to an MP, preferably a non FS place. lots of time to build up, and get aroused with massage and touching. Or 2. See someone who is good with first timers (do a search) and let her know you are inexperienced and want to take it slow, and get some pointers on kissing etc along the way.

 

[xmontrealer]

How old are u? And did you tell the agency or the provider ahead of time? It helps. Foreplay is most important than doing the actual deed imo, especially with someone with not much experience. Foreplay, feeling her body, kissing and getting a hard on is the best part. If the "deed" great, if not dont worry about it. Did your junior go down with the condom going on? It's perfectly normal and happens to everyone.

Good advice. It's important that the provider is aware of your inexperience and she (if an indie) should confirm she is up to the task, or if an the agency is involved they can recommend the best lady for the job.

Let the provider teach you how she likes to be kissed, though not every provider is down with dfk, and that will be obvious when you try to kiss her.

For sure she should do her best orally and manually to get you aroused. Unfortunately a condom is mandatory, which can be a problem in itself if you already have performance anxiety.

"Fear of fear" can lead to erectile problems psychologically, so, as much as many here might disagree, I think you should try something that will overcome that fear (if that's the problem).

In that regard, I suggest that, until you build up your confidence, why not try a low dose of Cialis or Viagra to get you started?

Assuming you're young and in good health, soon after you won't need those pills as you build up your confidence.

And the pleasure you experience from actual sex will make it even easier for your brain and natural instincts to make the desired psychological associations as time goes on.

 

[Tinmachine]

Good advice. It's important that the provider is aware of your inexperience and she (if an indie) should confirm she is up to the task, or if an the agency is involved they can recommend the best lady for the job.

Let the provider teach you how she likes to be kissed, though not every provider is down with dfk, and that will be obvious when you try to kiss her.

For sure she should do her best orally and manually to get you aroused. Unfortunately a condom is mandatory, which can be a problem in itself if you already have performance anxiety.

"Fear of fear" can lead to erectile problems psychologically, so, as much as many here might disagree, I think you should try something that will overcome that fear (if that's the problem).

In that regard, I suggest that, until you build up your confidence, why not try a low dose of Cialis or Viagra to get you started?

Assuming you're young and in good health, soon after you won't need those pills as you build up your confidence.

And the pleasure you experience from actual sex will make it even easier for your brain and natural instincts to make the desired psychological associations as time goes on.

Fear of fear is a good term and something I have had to overcome in the past as well. I think if your "horny" state is greater than your "fear " state you will do just fine.
I'm in my early 50s now and have been doing this on and off for years (more recently and I figure what the heck! Life is too short). I have noticed the last few years more difficulty getting aroused in the session or difficulty climaxing at the end. For the time in my life I tried viagra a couple of years ago and it definitely gave me that boost I needed. Noticed the difference right away. Still not perfectly hard in 10 seconds anymore like in my 20s and still have to concentrate to cross the finish line but definitely anything that gives you that boost takes the anxiety away for sure.

 

[Fredbed]

Don’t be embarrassed! Like others said don’t beat yourself up over it.

However I do find beating the meat helps with the erection. So I would say do beat yourself over it =)

 

[speakercontrols]

Don't worry about it too much. Try again soon. Perhaps Cialis or Viagara before the session to give you that inside edge

 

[kherg007]

Don't worry about it too much. Try again soon. Perhaps Cialis or Viagara before the session to give you that inside edge

I found sometimes just having the pill - but not taking it - works because you know if you run into trouble "you're working with a net" so to speak and can take one if you need to. That relieves some pressure thus makes it such that I don't have to take one.

 

[xmontrealer]

I found sometimes just having the pill - but not taking it - works because you know if you run into trouble "you're working with a net" so to speak and can take one if you need to. That relieves some pressure thus makes it such that I don't have to take one.

That's ok if you have borderline ED, but both pills take about an hour to kick in, so not much of a safety net if you only have an hour to get the job done and find yourself not rising to the occasion...

 

[kherg007]

That's ok if you have borderline ED, but both pills take about an hour to kick in, so not much of a safety net if you only have an hour to get the job done and find yourself not rising to the occasion...

True. I reckon if I'm using it to decoy my body then time didn't matter, but that wouldn't be the case here. So good point.