Feel Like Shit

[WetSeeker]

So I have been a "hobbyist" for a while. TBH I have probably fucked close to 100 or more SPs plus MPAs, I never kept track, it's best that I did not.
Fortunately never had an STI or a break-up since I hobby when I am not in a relationship. But I crave younger women.
Today, however, I realized my "addiction" to sex with hot young women had reached a new low.
WTF am I doing, spending $ for a short release. She was 21 and yes hot, but the sex was sad, very transactional and no connection whatsoever.
I need to reset and think.
Maybe another GF is the way to go, although at my age a GF is a bit like shopping at Winners.
Has anyone else here felt that way? What is the way out, or is it hopeless?

 

[billie69]

So I have been a "hobbyist" for a while. TBH I have probably fucked close to 100 or more SPs plus MPAs, I never kept track, it's best that I did not.
Fortunately never had an STI or a break-up since I hobby when I am not in a relationship. But I crave younger women.
Today, however, I realized my "addiction" to sex with hot young women had reached a new low.
WTF am I doing, spending $ for a short release. She was 21 and yes hot, but the sex was sad, very transactional and no connection whatsoever.
I need to reset and think.
Maybe another GF is the way to go, although at my age a GF is a bit like shopping at Winners.
Has anyone else here felt that way? What is the way out, or is it hopeless?

Have a duo with two 21 year olds. That will help.

 

[seanzo]

Sounds to me like it's time for you to move on from this. Wish I had an answer or advice on what to do, but the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Sounds like you need some religion.

 

[lomotil]

So I have been a "hobbyist" for a while. TBH I have probably fucked close to 100 or more SPs plus MPAs, I never kept track, it's best that I did not.
Fortunately never had an STI or a break-up since I hobby when I am not in a relationship. But I crave younger women.
Today, however, I realized my "addiction" to sex with hot young women had reached a new low.
WTF am I doing, spending $ for a short release. She was 21 and yes hot, but the sex was sad, very transactional and no connection whatsoever.
I need to reset and think.
Maybe another GF is the way to go, although at my age a GF is a bit like shopping at Winners.
Has anyone else here felt that way? What is the way out, or is it hopeless?

Time will tell. Anyway one day, your dick won’t work due to the march of time and the problem will solve itself, that is if you live long enough.

 

[LP191]

Is it weird that I get more turned on if it’s transactional and robotic? Lol

Short answer is no

Younger will always feel better, tighter, and have more of a release than whatever current age you are

Tis life

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Time will tell. Anyway one day, your dick won’t work due to the march of time and the problem will solve itself, that is if you live long enough.

So true. You don't know what you've got till it's gone.

 

[ShootNScoot]

Look at it this way… the “21 year old” is likely 3-5 years older!!

 

[Pilgrimesque]

I'm currently going through the same phase you are going through. I don't know the answer to solving the issue but it's becoming a drag seeing different SPs with the same mediocre disappointing results. Might have to give the dating sites a try but am skeptical due to AI trickery. To the OP, hope you kick the sex addiction habit and find a woman who cares about you emotionally, physically and sexually.

 

[xix]

She was 21 and yes hot, but the sex was sad, very transactional and no connection whatsoever.
I need to reset and think.

Maybe another GF is the way to go, although at my age a GF is a bit like shopping at Winners.
Has anyone else here felt that way? What is the way out, or is it hopeless?

Sorry you lost me at "shopping at Winners"?

21 what sex experience do you think she had vs 29+?

To the OP, hope you kick the sex addiction habit and find a woman who cares about you emotionally, physically and sexually.

You're kidding right? With cell and social media anyone know how to do the red words in today's age?

 

[Pilgrimesque]

You're kidding right? With cell and social media anyone know how to do the red words in today's age?

Sure. I guess

 

[Sonic Temple]

I haven't gotten there yet - but one bad experience with the rate you are going at seems pretty good. Give it a few days - let it wear off and return to a SP that has treated you well before and ignite that fire within you again. Remember - you have one life and when we go - the money we leave behind will be used by someone else if not the government. Safe hobbying mate and don't let a bad experience damper your desire for our lifestyle.

 

[onomatopoeia]

The OP should set up a GoFundMe page explaining his plight, and maybe some strangers will send him pity bucks.

"Need money for Courtesans; I can only afford LeoList."

 

[Nickelodeon]

So I have been a "hobbyist" for a while. TBH I have probably fucked close to 100 or more SPs plus MPAs, I never kept track, it's best that I did not.
Fortunately never had an STI or a break-up since I hobby when I am not in a relationship. But I crave younger women.
Today, however, I realized my "addiction" to sex with hot young women had reached a new low.
WTF am I doing, spending $ for a short release. She was 21 and yes hot, but the sex was sad, very transactional and no connection whatsoever.
I need to reset and think.
Maybe another GF is the way to go, although at my age a GF is a bit like shopping at Winners.
Has anyone else here felt that way? What is the way out, or is it hopeless?

I think it's time for a relationship, and to get serious about your prospects.

I went through a similar phase when on a short business trip in China. After fitting in an SP after every evening work function (luxury outcalls), it dawned on me that it was all transactional, versus the magic I felt if I was hobbying a couple of times a month. The sex drive is very powerful and beautiful SP's can make you feel incredible, but like a drug, it's an artificial high.

I'm not out of the hobby yet but my expectations have been re-aligned to to other things in life.

 

[WetSeeker]

Thanks all for your feedback. I think it is time for a big reset and spending my time, energy and money in better ways.
Sex is like a drug, I really enjoy the younger women and in real life that is simply not going to happen.
Ideally find a fun GF who is still in shape, closer to my age. I cannot not have sex, it's a very strong physical need.
To answer the question: Shopping at Winners dating, means hoping to find something great but being sadly disappointed in the selection.
Appreciate all your thoughts and insights.

 

[Prince12991]

Dude... perspective. You're longing for something. Maybe this type of intimacy isn't your answer right now, but you're not sick or damaged for trying to meet your needs, longings and urges in whatever way that makes sense to you *so long as you do no harm*, natch. I read recently something to the effect that all compelling desire is a response to some small or large trauma in our youth... I'm skeptical - sounds a bit like "incense and crystal wisdom" - but there may be a ring of truth in there. Unsought advice...? step back, take a pause and consider what you're really looking for.

 

[Fred Flinstone]

Nothing wrong with stepping back for a while, to let the desire build again. Be willing to spend more to receive aa worthy outcome?

 

[opieshuffle]

Step back... but maybe look at making yourself better. Not said in an insulting way at all (I'm just basing this on what you've said... apologies if I'm off base). But it seems like you're trying to fill a void, and using another person to fill that void will always end in disaster. Volunteer. Try something different that doesn't involve sex or another person. So many places need good people's help. You might find the reward of that is better than mediocre, transactional sex. And you could donate some of that money to a cause you help with AND believe in.

 

[speakercontrols]

I think you really need to repeat and become a regular. Become comfortable with each other.

Had a 3-some today. After I finished eating my slice of birthday cake that one made for me, we moved onto the 'main event'. I think we spent the first 10-15 minutes just hilariously laughing. At my expense but that's perfectly fine. We had fun, it was a blast.

This is supposed to be fun. It's not all about the sex right?