Wired for Sound - I agree with you completely, and it's what I was trying to say. The problem is, we've reached a point where white people are afraid to say anything about anything, even when it is warranted, because the reflex reaction can be a lot more than simply being told off...you can find yourself out of a job, or even in legal trouble, and at best labeled a racist.
It's become the norm for black comedians to very harshly make fun of white people - hell, you even see it in commercials and sit-coms...but when's the last time you heard a black joke that didn't start with someone looking over each shoulder.
My father was a schoolteacher in an all-black suburb of Detroit - he was one of three white teachers in the entire school...All of my dad's friends and co-workers were black...we had black people over at our house all the time. Neighbors gave us shit, even the cops gave us shit when my family would have a function. Considering I grew up in an all-white suburb in Michigan, I had a fairly multi-cultural upbringing. Now that I'm in L.A., my best friend Eddie is black - hell, I had Christmas Dinner last year in South Central L.A. - I'm the Godfather to two black children. Yet, when I'm down in Inglewood with Eddie I get stared at in a way that makes me feel very good that Eddie is at my side, as I don't know that people would be so friendly otherwise.
If we can't bridge the gap by befriending people of other races and becoming a part of each other's communities without getting dirty looks, then how are we supposed to come together in a larger sense. These programs do nothing but instill anger in people, and perpetuate the separitism that exists between racial groups. The kids in the ghetto in Detroit are not getting into U of M or Harvard because of these programs. They are still in the ghetto, and nobody really cares. Every single black student I knew at U of M, EVERY single one, was there on scholarship and came from just as well-to-do of a family as mine. That's not helping the downtrodden, that's not helping the ghetto - it's simply a way for middle class people to abuse the system because they happen to be black, or Mexican, or whatever.
I refuse to pay for the sins of people who are generations dead. If we can't let go of the past, then we're all doomed.
DW