There was an interesting thread the other day about S/p's leaving s/o's to get in the biz.This got me thinking kinda in reverse.Any of you girls fall for a customer?Inquiring minds wanna know.And did it turn out sucessfully?i'm an optimist.
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What an interesting question
Well I have somewhat fallen for a client in the past. He was actually this guy I had chatted with from one of those dating sites. We never met in person before and never seen pictures of each other. I go to an appointment one night for an hour. We chatted for a bit then had some good fun
After we were getting dressed and having a smoke we started chatting a bit more. I can't remember completely what we were talking about. Suddenly I just ask him a couple of questions like "Do you have msn?"...."Do you play soccer" (he was telling me online that he was apart of some soccer team in Italy before....). So after that we both finally realized that we have been chatting online together for about 4 months prior. It was good times. We chatted even more online after that and he booked appointments with me about 2-3 times a week. It started to get somewhat serious, which wasn't good at all. He even asked me to move to TO with him and everything. I would've totally dated him if he wasn't a client. I also had a boyfriend at the time too (shhhh..lol). Oh well....c'est la vie.
Well, that's my juicy gossip...lol
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Well I have somewhat fallen for a client in the past. He was actually this guy I had chatted with from one of those dating sites. We never met in person before and never seen pictures of each other. I go to an appointment one night for an hour. We chatted for a bit then had some good fun
After we were getting dressed and having a smoke we started chatting a bit more. I can't remember completely what we were talking about. Suddenly I just ask him a couple of questions like "Do you have msn?"...."Do you play soccer" (he was telling me online that he was apart of some soccer team in Italy before....). So after that we both finally realized that we have been chatting online together for about 4 months prior. It was good times. We chatted even more online after that and he booked appointments with me about 2-3 times a week. It started to get somewhat serious, which wasn't good at all. He even asked me to move to TO with him and everything. I would've totally dated him if he wasn't a client. I also had a boyfriend at the time too (shhhh..lol). Oh well....c'est la vie.
Well, that's my juicy gossip...lol
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Been there done that bought the T-shirt lol
In this business we are supposed to be able to seperate ourselves
but it is not always as easy as some think*
Ok, ill shitup now b4 i go on forever about this lol
In this business we are supposed to be able to seperate ourselves
but it is not always as easy as some think*
Ok, ill shitup now b4 i go on forever about this lol
Well that was the only time it happened to me. But I have noticed that it happens quite often with clients. I've gotten marriage proposals, asked to move in with them, meet their parents and their kids, even leaving their wives......it's insane! I mean I'm not trying to brag or anything. I really would prefer if I didn't get gestures like that.
I have a friend who was in this busniess a few years ago. She met a client started seeing him quite frequently and now their engaged. Two years and going strong!!! I dont think it really matters where you meet someone just that you are honest about who you are.
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That's true, but the whole fact that he was a client would've made it awkward for me. Plus again at the time I had a boyfriend already and I wasn't willing to move away from my family either. I don't really talk to him anymore. Last time I talked to him on msn about a year or so ago he was talking to me like I was a $5 whore that you might see in vanier or something.....BLOCKED...lol I don't tolerate that kind of BS. I guess I made the right decision on not going with him.
Vixxxxens ....
Its a hard situation , see with me , it would be that because i met him in this
business i would always have a mistrust ,, Imagine, im at home making his dinner and he's hobbing ,, see its a rock and a hard place for me lol
Its a hard situation , see with me , it would be that because i met him in this
business i would always have a mistrust ,, Imagine, im at home making his dinner and he's hobbing ,, see its a rock and a hard place for me lol
Yes, and even though it did not end up working out I will likely never love anyone the way I loved him. He is prolly the one person I will never truly get over.
That's exactly why too. I mean I couldn't really date someone who paid me you know. What's stopping him from going out and paying someone else while we're togetherBella6969 said:Vixxxxens ....
Its a hard situation , see with me , it would be that because i met him in this
business i would always have a mistrust ,, Imagine, im at home making his dinner and he's hobbing ,, see its a rock and a hard place for me lol
bf while a sp?Vixxxens said:What an interesting question
Well I have somewhat fallen for a client in the past. He was actually this guy I had chatted with from one of those dating sites. We never met in person before and never seen pictures of each other. I go to an appointment one night for an hour. We chatted for a bit then had some good fun
After we were getting dressed and having a smoke we started chatting a bit more. I can't remember completely what we were talking about. Suddenly I just ask him a couple of questions like "Do you have msn?"...."Do you play soccer" (he was telling me online that he was apart of some soccer team in Italy before....). So after that we both finally realized that we have been chatting online together for about 4 months prior. It was good times. We chatted even more online after that and he booked appointments with me about 2-3 times a week. It started to get somewhat serious, which wasn't good at all. He even asked me to move to TO with him and everything. I would've totally dated him if he wasn't a client. I also had a boyfriend at the time too (shhhh..lol). Oh well....c'est la vie.
Well, that's my juicy gossip...lol
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wow, open relationship.
Not an issue
I have met SPs who were attractive and charming and could very well be the type of person I could be happy to spend a lifetime with.
However, to the best of my knowledge, I have never met an SP who felt the same way about me.
I sympathize with one of the comments Vixxxens made, about how she wished clients would stop trying to strike up relationships. These guys are just kidding themselves. And it was interesting in the one case where it did look like there was potential, that the guy ultimately showed his true colours.
I could, but I don't think it matters much. The idea of an SP and a client falling in love and living happily ever after is very romantic, but in most cases it is probably just a fantasy.nip said:
I have met SPs who were attractive and charming and could very well be the type of person I could be happy to spend a lifetime with.
However, to the best of my knowledge, I have never met an SP who felt the same way about me.
I sympathize with one of the comments Vixxxens made, about how she wished clients would stop trying to strike up relationships. These guys are just kidding themselves. And it was interesting in the one case where it did look like there was potential, that the guy ultimately showed his true colours.
I'm sure it has happened to others - whether the relationship lasted is a different story. I'd like to get the percentages on that!
But to be honest, trust and insecureness will and always be a factor. It's very hard to overcome, even in the regular relationships.
A wise man once told me. "Between love and hatred, there lies a deadlier passion...jealousy!"
But to be honest, trust and insecureness will and always be a factor. It's very hard to overcome, even in the regular relationships.
A wise man once told me. "Between love and hatred, there lies a deadlier passion...jealousy!"
Well it wasn't a very good relationship anyway. I mean we both were very heavily into the drugs back then so I don't think either of us really cared who was screwing who...etc etc. My most recent ex had a problem with my past working. I stopped working for a while when I was with him. He always would throw it in my face, especially when we had fights. I won't go into detail of some of the things he would say to me, I'll just say it wasn't pretty.nip said:
Ya it's too bad what happened before. I mean in other circumstances I would've dated him in a heartbeat......well if he wouldn't of been an ass to me after online. I guess that's just the way life goes sometimes though. I've noticed that people treat me alot differently because of my line of work. I mean don't get me wrong, to a point I don't really care what people think about me. It just sucks when people get this completely different view on who you are as a person just because of what you do for work, and you aren't that person at all.moviefan said:
Cindy;
I'm no expert on making relationships work, so take my advice with a huge grain of salt.
However, I think you need to sit down with a friend and have a heart-to-heart talk, where you weigh the pros and cons and determine in your own mind if this relationship is worth it.
Personally, I would be concerned about the "I love you more than you love me" discussions.
But if I were you, I wouldn't trust the anonymous people online who might weigh in on this topic, myself included. You have no way of knowing which posters actually know what they're talking about.
Again, my recommendation would be that you sit down with someone and try to think this through. And trust your own instincts.
I'm no expert on making relationships work, so take my advice with a huge grain of salt.
However, I think you need to sit down with a friend and have a heart-to-heart talk, where you weigh the pros and cons and determine in your own mind if this relationship is worth it.
Personally, I would be concerned about the "I love you more than you love me" discussions.
But if I were you, I wouldn't trust the anonymous people online who might weigh in on this topic, myself included. You have no way of knowing which posters actually know what they're talking about.
Again, my recommendation would be that you sit down with someone and try to think this through. And trust your own instincts.
Clarification
But just to clarify, I was recommending that Cindy have a "heart to heart" conversation with a girlfriend or third-party acquaintance of some sort -- someone whose advice can be trusted, and someone who has no vested interest in the outcome.
While the advice provided here may be good (and is certainly interesting reading), none of us knows the players well enough to be able to offer advice that is fully reliable.
And I still believe, at the end of the day, Cindy's own instincts will be the best guide. I want to avoid the "listen to your heart" cliche, but I do think Cindy should trust her own feelings.
That's my two cents' worth.
A heart to heart with the person in the relationship is probably worthwhile.sparkysparky said:
But just to clarify, I was recommending that Cindy have a "heart to heart" conversation with a girlfriend or third-party acquaintance of some sort -- someone whose advice can be trusted, and someone who has no vested interest in the outcome.
While the advice provided here may be good (and is certainly interesting reading), none of us knows the players well enough to be able to offer advice that is fully reliable.
And I still believe, at the end of the day, Cindy's own instincts will be the best guide. I want to avoid the "listen to your heart" cliche, but I do think Cindy should trust her own feelings.
That's my two cents' worth.
