Etiquette Question

[NorthernBear]

I understand the idea of discretion and understand that this could be a reason for a non-response.
If I were to send a thank you message via text or e-mail I would definitely include a comment assuring the lady that a response will neither be in breech of my personal security nor expected if the lady feels uncomfortable in sending.
Also, if a guy is stupid enough to use a device that his significant other has access to then he deserves to get caught and the SP should not feel any guilt or worry about him getting caught.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

I think it important to point out at this juncture that in both cases they indicated being new to hobbying or having little experience with it. Those with more savvy seem to understand my lack of response whereas the less seasoned appear to take it more to heart. On Twitter I'm getting a higher percentage saying I should respond, otherwise it may be viewed as a slight rejection on my part and deter them from seeing me again. I know that when I send out well wishes, it's just that. One should give without necessarily expecting something in return. I'll endeavour to respond with a few words or smiley face to avoid confusion in the future and should it go awry it's on them, not me, as I'm only responding to their reach out. Thank you everyone!

 

[kherg007]

I think it important to point out at this juncture that in both cases they indicated being new to hobbying or having little experience with it. Those with more savvy seem to understand my lack of response whereas the less seasoned appear to take it more to heart. On Twitter I'm getting a higher percentage saying I should respond, otherwise it may be viewed as a slight rejection on my part and deter them from seeing me again. I know that when I send out well wishes, it's just that. One should give without necessarily expecting something in return. I'll endeavour to respond with a few words or smiley face to avoid confusion in the future and should it go awry it's on them, not me, as I'm only responding to their reach out. Thank you everyone!

Or have a code...i tell my pro associates if i run into them and they look like they're alone and they look at me I always start with..."hey...didn't I see you at that Starbucks on yonge? And we talked about hockey, right? " then gauge whether they're free to talk. Never, ever speak their name either.

 

[autumn96]

I think guys need to manage their expectations. SPs have no obligation to respond to messages outside of booking.

Aside from the booking texts, I'll usually send an SP a short message once I've gotten home thanking her for the good time and, on occasion, checking in on her review policy. I have no delusions of becoming penpals with any of the lovely ladies I've met through this hobby.

If we were to become friends that talk and hang out beyond sessions (which has happened), she'd have to make the first move, not me.

I think men trying to text SPs just to chat are at a high risk of clinginess. Keep it business only, save the chat for pillow talk :rockon:

 

[TFZL1]

I Always send a thank you text. And I appreciate a reply, even if it’s just a kiss emoji or something.

If I don’t get any response, I feel slighted. My guess is it’s because she doesn’t want to see me again.

 

[luckyme101]

I always send the lady a thank- you text rightafter, sometimes even before I drive away. It's just to show my appreciation for a great time. Very often, she has also sent me a text thanking me at about the same time. While I don't expect a return text, I still worry if she's alright or if there's something I have upset her when I don't hear from her. She knows I am the only one that uses my phone.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

I always send the lady a thank- you text rightafter, sometimes even before I drive away. It's just to show my appreciation for a great time. Very often, she has also sent me a text thanking me at about the same time. While I don't expect a return text, I still worry if she's alright or if there's something I have upset her when I don't hear from her. She knows I am the only one that uses my phone.

That's right after, not hours later or the next day. There have been numerous threads over the years regarding the appropriate amount of time by which to respond to a text. This is why Miss Croft and Jessica Rain replied the way they did. Based on the different responses here, hopefully you can understand why it's such a guessing game with us whether or not to respond to something like this. Everyone's different and I don't have a crystal ball letting me know your specific situation and expectation(s).

If I tell you that the next time, if there is one so as not to be presumptuous, you want to come see me all you have to do is text me, that should be enough to let you know that I like you, enjoyed our time together and therefore would like to see you again if possible. Following that up with a thank you is nice and appreciated, but not necessary. Like I said, I'll respond briefly from now on to assure others that the feeling is mutual.

I never thought I'd hear myself saying this, but this is kind of what we're talking about when we refer to emotional labour. While I don't mind taking the time to get to know you better before meeting to ensure our time together is mutually enjoyable, I don't have oodles of time afterward to further assure you of that. A brief acknowledgement on my part should be enough. I'm a very low key person, spending little to no time on social media, unlike others, which may be setting a new precedent in client, SP, etc. relations.

 

[harryass]

I Always send a thank you text. And I appreciate a reply, even if it’s just a kiss emoji or something.

If I don’t get any response, I feel slighted. My guess is it’s because she doesn’t want to see me again.

+1. yup my thinking too. I like to send a ty if I had a good time. So from another pov, if u don't get a ty from me, I didn't have a good visit and wont be seeing my harry ass again in the future.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

+1. yup my thinking too. I like to send a ty if I had a good time. So from another pov, if u don't get a ty from me, I didn't have a good visit and wont be seeing my harry ass again in the future.

Yet I have regular clients that see me again and again, who never once sent me a text after thanking me for the good time. It's enough that when they reach out for an app't I get back to them quickly and accommodate them to the best of my ability. Very interesting!

 

[martycan]

Yet I have regular clients that see me again and again, who never once sent me a text after thanking me for the good time. It's enough that when they reach out for an app't I get back to them quickly and accommodate them to the best of my ability. Very interesting!

That tells me all I need to know that our time was enjoyable.

 

[harryass]

Yet I have regular clients that see me again and again, who never once sent me a text after thanking me for the good time. It's enough that when they reach out for an app't I get back to them quickly and accommodate them to the best of my ability. Very interesting!

Good point. I have reg. SPs I always send a TY to after and they always reply back and TY me too. So I guess we can say it varies from people to people (clients and SPs).

Accommodating (+other skills/etiquettes) repeating good clients if possible separates the real top notch ladies, like u Sophia, from the ok SPs.

 

[trm]

Being single, I will let an SP know that it is OK to text or email with no fear of adverse consequences. I often sent a thank you message and do not expect a response. Some do respond and some don't. Whatever.

 

[simba_one]

I’ll often email an SP after having a nice time together. I usually get a response, but not always and I understand that. They are (rightfully) concerned that with some guys back and forth emails not related to getting together, may encourage a guy who has developed a bit of a crush, and give him train to believe feelings might be mutual. So it’s nice when I write “hey x, it was really great to see you again, hope our schedules can align when I’m back in town” and she writes “it was great to see you again too. Please let me know when you get back to town, I’d be happy to see you again when you are available “. But if there’s no response, I don’t take offence. If I send a thank you message, the purpose is to thank that person for the nice time. It’s not to solicit thank yous too and compliments back, and it’s not to start online (unpaid) flirtation. My experiences here as well as talking to girls over the time I’ve engaged in this have taught me that encouraging ongoing communication by text/ email can be a big problem for the girls if it encourages a guy who is interested in more than a business type relationship. So i understand if some “social” messages are not met with a response, and I don’t take it personally. But it is nice when I get a reply like above, which does encourage me to repeat in the future.

Massman I agree with every point you made. It has to be like walking a tightrope for the OP. I'm sure she wants to encourage repeat clients whilst avoiding situations where the client wants to go beyond the parameters of a given professional relationship.

SO

 

[LatikaDD1]

I always reply when someone gives thanks after a session... even if it’s a while after they’ve sent the text. I feel if they are texting you to show appreciation, they probably don’t mind at that point if you respond back - unless they say so.


Under any other circumstances, i.e. someone inquiring about services, if the time frame is longer than two hours, I don’t usually reply to the text unless they make it clear it is OK to do so.

 

[rhboatman]

Canadians are just too dam nice.
If I say thank you and leave a tip on the way out the door I assume she knows I'm happy, besides the grin
If she's still mostly naked and gives me a kiss as I'm leaving, I didn't completely ruin her day. Thanks enough for me