Ends of eras - retiring SPs

[DB123]

So rather than, you know, doing my job, this morning I got to pondering.

I think its safe to assume that most of us have a had a favourite or two over the years and the nature of this industry being what it is, they tend to leave us...often far too soon as far as we're concerned.

I was thinking about the act of leaving, of retiring. Not so much the reasons why, since there are a number of those and whether good reason or bad, the result for the client is the same. I'm also not thinking about the 'she's gone!! What am I gonna do now " maudlin act.

Given the mystery and potential cause for concern, I wasn't thinking of situations where a favourite provider vanishes off the face of the earth either.

So...a favourite is retiring, guys, and I'm wondering what you think about protocol in that situation. Would you appreciate advance notice and if so, how much?

Do you really care at the end of the day?

I know personally I think the farewell post is kind of cheesy and comes across like a last grab for attention, but maybe some of you think its nice?

Maybe a private message saying goodbye and thanks for the memories?

Would you be hurt/offended if you didn't know before it was too late?

Ladies, your opinions are certainly as welcome as well.

 

[VinnyBlaze]

If it were one of my favourites, I'd likely send a brief message thanking them for the amazing memories, and wishing them the best in the next chapter of their lives.
I wouldn't be hurt or sad, but I would be bummed out having to find new favourites to pursue, and new ladies to consider as my main go-to's.
Though, the new adventure might be fun. I wouldn't be hurt or offended if they didn't send me a heads up. They might be my favourites, but who's to say that I'm one of theirs, lol.
So I wouldn't mind finding out spontaneously.

 

[whitewaterguy]

Trick. Is to not limit yourself to ONE favourite. 5 seems like a more realistic grouping .at any given time.thus totally avoiding your dilemma

 

[DB123]

Trick. Is to not limit yourself to ONE favourite. 5 seems like a more realistic grouping .at any given time.thus totally avoiding your dilemma

I hear ya. I have a favourite, for sure, but there are a number of ladies I love spending time with.

It's not my dilemma btw, just a curiosity.

 

[matisse]

There is retirement and then there's real retirement. My experience has been that given the nature of the industry, emotional and physical "burn out" can be quite common (for Sps - not me!!). So retirement can often be a transition to something perhaps less "visible". I know that when a few of my favourite Sps who I had been seeing for some time "retired" - I was fortunate to be provided the opportunity to continue seeing them post retirement. Often this can mean a change in the nature of the relationship on the part of both parties - suddenly the relationship is a bit less "commercial" and becomes something a bit deeper and personal - eg. no longer meeting at hotels but at the SP's residence. Oftentimes the SP will insist on a measure of discretion - eg. no reviews of any kind as they do not want it to be known that they are still in the business.

This obviously isn't for everybody. But some of my most amazing and sensual experiences have been with these women. So bottom line - if one of my favourites with whom I formed a real connection was retiring - I would keep the lines of connection open. You never know.

 

[Buick Mackane]

It's her decision and it's fully up to her, don't tangle it with protocols.

 

[MissCroft]

I've had a couple of guys ask me if I ever retired for good would I still see them. A slightly awkward question.

Maybe I would consider it but should not be put on the spot with that question. It would also depend on my reason for retiring....

 

[LastRide13]

It's not my dilemma btw, just a curiosity.

If it was yours... we'd all know who would be retiring.

 

[DB123]

If it was yours... we'd all know who would be retiring.

and I'd be in the corner of a dark room, slowly rocking back and forth to the soothing sounds of Adele

 

[Born2Star]

I used to think/hope they let me know ahead of time but what I found was that it only adds to the sadness and emotion when they actually leave.

These days I just enjoy the time we have and I'm happy either way and even if they disappear just like that. I move on and be happy and hopeful that they're enjoying a new life.

As for seeing me privately post-retirement? It should only be initiated by the lady. I have not been that lucky so far

 

[Dorian Grey]

Some SP's do go cold turkey and retire, full stop, never to return. In my experience, there are far more that simply retire from public life, but continue to see favorite, long standing clients on a sporadic basis as a long slow transition. I still see 5 very well known and highly regarded ladies who have 'publicly retired' within the last 3 years, and who now see only 2-3 clients, 2-3 times a year each max. For them, it's both a mix of fun and a quiet, private revenue stream for nest egging and the occasional personal splurge. Works for all concerned. Expect they will each pull the plug for good at some point, but it's been nice up to this point.

Bottom line, if she announces publicly she's 'retiring' and doesn't deliberately approach you for a continuation of your relationship, just let it go. She ain't interested, and doesn't owe anyone any explanations or advance notices regarding her personal choices.

 

[rex_baner]

I would rather they just tell me that they are done if I see them consistently, but its not a big deal with they go mia. I had one let me see her for 1 more year after she announced that shes done with the business and told me that she has a bf now and will not be able to see me anymore because of it. On my last visit I gave her a gift and thanked her for all the great times and allowing me to see her. All's well that ends well....

 

[explorerzip]

I've had a couple of guys ask me if I ever retired for good would I still see them. A slightly awkward question.

Maybe I would consider it but should not be put on the spot with that question. It would also depend on my reason for retiring....

Hopefully, you're not retiring any time soon Chloe since you just came back! I think it's nice to get a private message or one last post telling people that you're leaving, but not required. Just like when you leave a job, you say goodbye to your colleagues if you can.I wouldn't be hurt if someone didn't say goodbye because sometimes it just happens that way. Life goes on and you should not hold ill will to because they didn't say goodbye.

 

[MPAsquared]

Lol. I've been retired for 5+yrs and I STILL have former clients and guys I've never seen ask things like "But you'd see me right?" "will you come out of retirement for me?" "I never got the chance to see you, I promise I won't tell anyone". Some even laugh at the mere word "retirement" and completely assume that there is no such thing, that the simple act of walking into a parlor makes my panties drop, and that THEY are somehow some magical exception. Its half flattering, half insulting. Lol. My work persona loves being missed. Lol. But my current non-practicing mpa-status (and personal life status) are insulted.**

I'm disappointed when both clients and staff "retire" only to return. That means they didn't properly prepare. And often means starting from scratch.**

Retirement should be planned, over compensated for, over estimated, and by choice. IMHO. ‎

 

[wangbang]

It's her decision and it's fully up to her, don't tangle it with protocols.

Amen!

I still keep in touch with someone who was very popular when she visited TO but retired years ago. We talk as friends never as ex-client/SP. To talk shop would be very tacky.

 

[Born2Star]

I haven't been that situation yet, but if a lady does agree to continue communicating with me, not necessarily for sex, I'd be honored because that meant out of all her clients, I'm one of the chosen few who she felt true friendship with.

Yes it must feel pretty good being "chosen". I found friendship being much harder than the sex (read business...) part if there's any post retirement. With the way the world look at the industry I know many of the ladies would prefer to cut the ties post retirement. Many simply move to another city to start a new life.

I would love to keep in touch just like you said Omega. But it's not up to us. :-(

 

[WestCoaster]

Retirement is a tricky word in this business. I personally know ladies who retire, then have some bills, or a breakup, or divorce, or lose the baby weight and they are right back in there. Easy money, no job skills required. Retirement for some is a marketing tool. Come see me before I retire or other such nonsense, knowing full well they will be back in a few months or a year.

Keeping one or two regulars around for some extra cash is also a common occurrence. I knew a lady in Calgary who retired to get married, but her new hubby couldn't keep up with her. She let it be known to 1 or 3 of her favorites she could be booked on the down lo. Fact is, she would have cheated on the hubby for free, she got addicted to sex every day and wouldn't stop for anyone. She finally only quit when she had kids.

 

[mz miranda]

sp' s "retire" for many reasons....and sometimes they tell their faves...and sometimes they just quietly disappear....if they want to leave and make a clean break then they must just leave and tell no one....

as one of those who left the business...I did so cold turkey for personal reasons....but then the lust for the biz comes back ...and so do we

different...but possibly better...

 

[Ditsy]

My favourite of 2012 n 2013 whom I was seeing for roughly 7 months each both retired, 1 of them told me her plans to move on and the other didn't. Both however resurfaced 1.5 yrs. and 9 months later respectively. I have yet to attempt reconnecting to either one of them so knowing or being in the dark about their potential retirement doesn't really offend me or change anything.
At the end of the day if they tell me i'll be flattered but if they don't then i don't need to know.

 

[Richard.TO]

Both of my ATFs retired. One started up a business which I helped her review contracts for. She trusted me enough to let me know the name of her business and her personal home address. I have to say I miss her greatly but life goes on. The other one appears to have just disappeared, can't find her anywhere. I'm hoping to find another favourite. I'm not much of a try a different sp every time kinda guy. I really liked and appreciated the closeness I had with my ATF and the occasional "off the clock" rendezvous.