Trying to decide if I should be with someone who accepts my life in the industry but I am less physically attracted to. I have known them a long time and feel a deep connection to them... but something seems to be missing. I am someone who has always accepted that I like to have more than one lover.. but is it fair to the other person who might like you more? What if he's the only one who I can be open with about work? Not too sure to let him fall or push him away. Let me know your thoughts. Thx!!
My mother had a saying, "beauty is only skin deep, ugly is to the bone. Beauty fades away, but ugly holds its own." The unfortunate aspect about human beings is that we are initial attracted to "attractive" people, i.e., a person's body, smile, athleticism, etc. After that, then we get to know the inner person. I've know people (me include to be fair) that were so smitten by a person's outward appearance, that we overlook what other attributes, or lack thereof, they possess.
It's up to up to decide which attribute carries the most weight. Personally, I rather be with someone that "has my back" and can listen and give me advice, even if it's something I don't want to hear, then just nod and say nothing--while being only attractive.
As long that person is open minded, i.e.," trainable" and willing sexually, then we'll work on other aspects to increase their attractiveness. I've had encounters with some attractive people that (and they purported as well) said they would "knock my socks off." The result was far from that. Met someone else that I considered average looking, and not only did they have an intelligent mind, they were downright freaky sexually (not talking about hobbying).
I considered that a "win-win."
