DT- Am I missing something?

[sempel]

In my first year of university I dated a girl who absolutely LOVED to be choked like that. I had never done anything like that before, so it freaked me the fuck out. She taught me a few things though....

Similar story. It wasn't freaky but it's a life scary because you don't want to bruise or hurt the lady. I've let a few girls choke me (by hand). The actual look in their eyes and faces was the turn on for me, not the actual choking.

 

[kherg007]

Agree with inaugural statement dt has always hurt and not felt pleasurable (ifyouseekamy was a notable exception...hugs amy!)...and it also raises the risk factor a bit as far as some of the wee beasties goes...but, I'm not criticizing anyone...as long as you don't spook the horses, right? Choking...however....mortifies me. I'll just leave it at that.

 

[IM469]

In my perspective, forcing DT is getting close to rape. If the girl doesn't like it, I don't force the issue but those that can usually require no prompts. As for DT filling some primal dominance urge, in the same way I enjoy deep pussy thrusts as a feeling of intimacy than dominance, I enjoy DT when it happens. I've had a girlfriend that hated giving oral but I began to feelings that she is selfish when she was constantly asking oral from me.

I've had it a couple times DT with CIM with swallow. What a wonderful if rare experience.

 

[sempel]

In my perspective, forcing DT is getting close to rape. If the girl doesn't like it, I don't force the issue but those that can usually require no prompts. As for DT filling some primal dominance urge, in the same way I enjoy deep pussy thrusts as a feeling of intimacy than dominance, I enjoy DT when it happens. I've had a girlfriend that hated giving oral but I began to feelings that she is selfish when she was constantly asking oral from me.

I've had it a couple times DT with CIM with swallow. What a wonderful if rare experience.

In general, forced anything is bordering on rape/assault. That's why I asked the question earlier about it being pleasurable for the ladies. As far as I'm concerned the best encounters take place when the activities are mutually enjoyable. I follow the simple process of outlining the services I want/like and the lady responds back yes/no/maybe. If something is important to me and the answer is no, it's not a good fit. If something is nice to have and the answer is no, I can choose whether I'm in or out knowing that. But I try to make it clear that it's about mutual enjoyment. If she doesn't like something, I don't see the point in doing it so I'm happy but she really isn't. I also figure if she enjoys something too, there's going to be more energy, passion, and engagement.