Dom Virgins Interest Poll
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I haven't really wanted to as I feel it's kind of weird.
</not that there's anything wrong with that>
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Couldn't take it seriously. Would probably find myself thinking of Nurse Diesel in Mel Brooks' High Anxiety. 
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Understood. However, being with a dominatrix is not necessarily just getting "smacked around". It depends on the specific needs of the client. It can range from what I like to call "erotic guidance" or the female simply exerting more control over the session to what we commonly think of as domination-whips, bondage, etc. I enjoy aiding clients in both, though I do not do hardcore, such as cutting or electrocution, etc. It basically comes down to what the person is comfortable with. However, I agree, it may not be for everyone-nothing is. Thanks for your contribution.
Gramage, I think with your off-hand comment, you put things in their proper context. BDSM is about relationships. Pain is a bonding agent.gramage said:
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Doms no thanks... Subs YAH!
Assuming humiliatrix is the same as a dom... I voted not interested. Do you do submissive as well? It would be interesting to see how many are interested or have already tried submissive.
Never seen a ‘pro’ submissive myself... but I did have a GF some years ago who taught me how to 'play'. It was very wild and lots of fun. The only problem was that after parting ways with her... average 'normal' sex with others was actually boring. Took awhile to enjoy just regular every day sex again.
Question: Did you ever play 'catch the mouse.’?
Let me know if you need the rules.
OMG! The memories.
*<NiteHwk starts to feel flush & hot all over>*
Assuming humiliatrix is the same as a dom... I voted not interested. Do you do submissive as well? It would be interesting to see how many are interested or have already tried submissive.
Never seen a ‘pro’ submissive myself... but I did have a GF some years ago who taught me how to 'play'. It was very wild and lots of fun. The only problem was that after parting ways with her... average 'normal' sex with others was actually boring. Took awhile to enjoy just regular every day sex again.
Question: Did you ever play 'catch the mouse.’?
Let me know if you need the rules.
OMG! The memories.
*<NiteHwk starts to feel flush & hot all over>*
domqueen, I would guess that the overwhelming majority of hobbyists have never seen a dominatrix and never will, because very few hobbyists have any interest at all in being controlled or abused.
Surely you realize you are serving a small niche market that's way outside the mainstream in an industry that itself is outside the mainstream of society.
I'm not condemning those who provide or seek fetish services, just pointing out what I thought was obvious.
Surely you realize you are serving a small niche market that's way outside the mainstream in an industry that itself is outside the mainstream of society.
I'm not condemning those who provide or seek fetish services, just pointing out what I thought was obvious.
While I have no interest in being dominated, I would love to see a dominatrix sometime and simply refuse to submit. But that would be a big waste of money, wouldn't it?
There is a bigger market than you would think Avery. I have been asked on more than one occasion to Dominate clients. But that is just not something I feel comfortable doing. There is a market out there. Domqueen is right...there are varying degrees of what clients will request. Some just want to be told what to do...while others are into it for the pain/pleasure. It is a concept that is hard to grasp...but a very interesting lifestyle to look into, and once you begin to look into it you can begin to understand why some people can derive pleasure from the pain. I know this from looking into it when I received requests regarding it. As I said it was something I can't do...but everyone is deifferent.
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Emma
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train said "What ? Cutting , electrocution ? Sorry but I'm having a really hard time from responding with " Doesn't that cut down on the repeat client factor ?" .
As a matter of fact, it doesn't. While it may sound extreme [and in fact most certainly is] as an avid participant in the BDSM scene and both a giver and reciever of cuttings, I can say that when done in an erotic context, the repeat factor can be very high indeed. While I myself haven't, and wouldn't visit a pro domme, mostly due to my ongoing involvment with the community in general, if I were not so fortunate as to have access to play partners, I most certainly would visit one.
TheNiteHawk says "average 'normal' sex with others was actually boring. Took awhile to enjoy just regular every day sex again."
All I can say to that is AMEN. I was lucky enough to discover and fully embrace my kinky side this past summer, I could NEVER look back now. I'd find it extremely boring and very unfulfilling.
Also, I'd find the lack of communication commonly found in 'vanilla' relationships to be far below my expectations. It's an interesting phenomenon when in this day and age of open communication, we still seem to have so many problems doing just that.
How does that issue relate to pro dommes? They are masters [or in this case, mistresses] of communication, their livelyhood depends on honest, and open up front communication. If it's not clear what the client wants, you can count your repeat buisness goodbye. I think we could all learn a thing or two from a pro domme.
However that's just my opinion.
Ciao for now
SpikeLee
As a matter of fact, it doesn't. While it may sound extreme [and in fact most certainly is] as an avid participant in the BDSM scene and both a giver and reciever of cuttings, I can say that when done in an erotic context, the repeat factor can be very high indeed. While I myself haven't, and wouldn't visit a pro domme, mostly due to my ongoing involvment with the community in general, if I were not so fortunate as to have access to play partners, I most certainly would visit one.
TheNiteHawk says "average 'normal' sex with others was actually boring. Took awhile to enjoy just regular every day sex again."
All I can say to that is AMEN. I was lucky enough to discover and fully embrace my kinky side this past summer, I could NEVER look back now. I'd find it extremely boring and very unfulfilling.
Also, I'd find the lack of communication commonly found in 'vanilla' relationships to be far below my expectations. It's an interesting phenomenon when in this day and age of open communication, we still seem to have so many problems doing just that.
How does that issue relate to pro dommes? They are masters [or in this case, mistresses] of communication, their livelyhood depends on honest, and open up front communication. If it's not clear what the client wants, you can count your repeat buisness goodbye. I think we could all learn a thing or two from a pro domme.
However that's just my opinion.
Ciao for now
SpikeLee
Pain = Pleasure
"<It is a concept that is hard to grasp...but a very interesting lifestyle to look into, and once you begin to look into it you can begin to understand why some people can derive pleasure from the pain>"
So true.
As simplistic as it sounds and I know some will say "don't blame it on dysfunctional families again" my GF at the time I was with when I was learning how to 'play' fully believed she liked getting spanked cause when she was young her father spanked her all the time and said "I'm only doing this because I love you" So she associated pain with love and visa versa. There are also those who are of the school of belief that they do not deserve or are not allowed pleasure. So they to associate pain with pleasure. Also since they are not suppose to (because it's a bad thing)... some like to feel like they are being forced. Still others are bored because in 'real life' they have so much power. CEO of big company or something. Nobody ever dares say no to them or try to dominate him in everyday business or even family life. Therefore he seeks out to be dominated.
“<All I can say to that is AMEN. I was lucky enough to discover and fully embrace my kinky side this past summer, I could NEVER look back now. I'd find it extremely boring and very unfulfilling.>”
My journey into the B&D/S&M world started back in ’91. We were together about 1.5 years. After it was over like I said already… plain sex was just that very plain. I would not say that I could never go back to regular sex and enjoy it a lot… cause albeit I have and do enjoy it now. But it took awhile. I often have fantasies though or wondered if ever in my life I will again meet someone like F******e my ex-GF who I had so many wonderful ‘sessions’ with. It will ‘NEVER’ be like THAT again.
As an aside: I use to think it was cute back in my driving days (when I worked as a driver for dancers etc) that I sometimes had handcuffs hanging from my inside mirror. I was such an easygoing soft natured guy and often the girls would tease me and ask 'what do you do with those?' I never would answer them. Always being coy. I think some of them thought (because of my nature) that I was the one wearing them (if they were ever used) lmao... little did they know. lmao.
OK this is getting personal... I gotta go now. lmao.
"<It is a concept that is hard to grasp...but a very interesting lifestyle to look into, and once you begin to look into it you can begin to understand why some people can derive pleasure from the pain>"
So true.
As simplistic as it sounds and I know some will say "don't blame it on dysfunctional families again" my GF at the time I was with when I was learning how to 'play' fully believed she liked getting spanked cause when she was young her father spanked her all the time and said "I'm only doing this because I love you" So she associated pain with love and visa versa. There are also those who are of the school of belief that they do not deserve or are not allowed pleasure. So they to associate pain with pleasure. Also since they are not suppose to (because it's a bad thing)... some like to feel like they are being forced. Still others are bored because in 'real life' they have so much power. CEO of big company or something. Nobody ever dares say no to them or try to dominate him in everyday business or even family life. Therefore he seeks out to be dominated.
“<All I can say to that is AMEN. I was lucky enough to discover and fully embrace my kinky side this past summer, I could NEVER look back now. I'd find it extremely boring and very unfulfilling.>”
My journey into the B&D/S&M world started back in ’91. We were together about 1.5 years. After it was over like I said already… plain sex was just that very plain. I would not say that I could never go back to regular sex and enjoy it a lot… cause albeit I have and do enjoy it now. But it took awhile. I often have fantasies though or wondered if ever in my life I will again meet someone like F******e my ex-GF who I had so many wonderful ‘sessions’ with. It will ‘NEVER’ be like THAT again.
As an aside: I use to think it was cute back in my driving days (when I worked as a driver for dancers etc) that I sometimes had handcuffs hanging from my inside mirror. I was such an easygoing soft natured guy and often the girls would tease me and ask 'what do you do with those?' I never would answer them. Always being coy. I think some of them thought (because of my nature) that I was the one wearing them (if they were ever used) lmao... little did they know. lmao.
OK this is getting personal... I gotta go now. lmao.
Goober Mcfly said:
Then why did you send me that picture of you bent over DenWa's knees?? I thought you were into that kinda thing
*Dissapointed, Miss puts away her whips and turns on Oprah*
I couldn't see myself obeying direction. I would probably burst out laughing during the session and destroy the mood.
My $0.02
I've never seen a dom because I'm basically uneducated about the whole thing. I wouldn't mind experimenting, but I'm not sure how to find the right kind of dom since I really have no idea what I'm looking for.
I've never seen a dom because I'm basically uneducated about the whole thing. I wouldn't mind experimenting, but I'm not sure how to find the right kind of dom since I really have no idea what I'm looking for.
I once visited a pro domme in Amsterdam, but didn't like it that much - it was very mechanical, hurried, and artificial. It is something that I would like to repeat, now that I am older and wiser, and have been looking for awhile for just the right personality that could fulfill my scene request. The thing I like most about this area of sexuality is the cerebral aspects - fantasy, anticipation, etc - you know, like the feelings you get when you are waiting for the knock on the door for that outcall you have been dying to meet...
As a bit of an addendum to my post:
BDSM= Bondage/Discpline/Sadism/Masochism
D/s= Domination/submission
Both these lifestyles can be done without the involvement of the other or also intertwined. People who parctice D/s are more into the power exchange and mental aspects. Those into BDSM enjoy the pain/pleasure experiences as well as a different form of power exchange.
Crazy Canuck makes some very good points. There are a lot of misconceptions about the lifestyle out there.....if you take the time to read and learn about it, you will discover that it is not the way they portray it in movies or on TV (as with almost anything).
Kisses
Emma
BDSM= Bondage/Discpline/Sadism/Masochism
D/s= Domination/submission
Both these lifestyles can be done without the involvement of the other or also intertwined. People who parctice D/s are more into the power exchange and mental aspects. Those into BDSM enjoy the pain/pleasure experiences as well as a different form of power exchange.
Crazy Canuck makes some very good points. There are a lot of misconceptions about the lifestyle out there.....if you take the time to read and learn about it, you will discover that it is not the way they portray it in movies or on TV (as with almost anything).
Kisses
Emma
