Does it annoy you when SPs try and enjoy sex?

[fuji]

Obviously it is an SPs job to make the experience fun and for that everyone expects a certain enthusiasm and a positive, energetic approach, and it's great if SP enjoy that. I think many do.

But you know in the real world it is a lot of work, physically and emotionally, to make most women cum. They need time to get going and a lot of patience and adjustment to hit their sweet spot. Anyone who has a girlfriend or wife knows what I am talking about.

Now we maintain the comforting illusion that SPs are different. They are all wild sluts who can't help themselves and just cum so much more easily, multiple times a day, and right on cue even in a 30 minute session. I am sure some of the ladies will chime in. Not with everyone, they will say, but with the right guy (i.e., you) it can happen, they will say. Sure, sure. Bet that is sometimes even true.

Well recently I had what I would call a true girlfriend experience. She spent the entire session trying to cum, the same way women always do: trying to control the angles , position, speed, giving me a lot of instruction and clearly focused on it.

I was vaguely flattered but mostly annoyed. It went on far too long and felt like work. I only do that for women I am in a relationship with. An SP is to me more like 3D interactive porn. I don't expect or want that much reality!

 

[wetnose]

To each his own man...if she wants to mix business and pleasure, I ain't stopping her

 

[james t kirk]

I think I speak for a great many terbites when I say,.....

"Contact Info please"

 

[james t kirk]

I was vaguely flattered but mostly annoyed. It went on far too long and felt like work. I only do that for women I am in a relationship with. An SP is to me more like 3D interactive porn. I don't expect or want that much reality!

BTW, I think you need to take a break from the hobby with a statement like that.

 

[WoodPeckr]

I think I speak for a great many terbites when I say,.....

"Contact Info please"

What he said!!!....:thumb:
I luv when that happens.....

 

[kahlua]

contact info please?

 

[Teal]

Yeah, that's annoying. Only being there to get your nut, then ALL of a sudden she wants her nut too!

 

[Miss.Lexi]

Now we maintain the comforting illusion that SPs are different. They are all wild sluts who can't help themselves and just cum so much more easily, multiple times a day, and right on cue even in a 30 minute session. I am sure some of the ladies will chime in. Not with everyone, they will say, but with the right guy (i.e., you) it can happen, they will say. Sure, sure. Bet that is sometimes even true.

You're right on most counts Fuji!

But I'm going to be the one "chiming in" and say that since I don't have a man in my personal life right now, my clients help keep me sane! Men aren't the only creatures who crave the touch of the opposite sex!

 

[simon482]

y'all getting trolled up on.

 

[nuprin001]

Obviously it is an SPs job to make the experience fun and for that everyone expects a certain enthusiasm and a positive, energetic approach, and it's great if SP enjoy that. I think many do.

But you know in the real world it is a lot of work, physically and emotionally, to make most women cum. They need time to get going and a lot of patience and adjustment to hit their sweet spot. Anyone who has a girlfriend or wife knows what I am talking about.

Now we maintain the comforting illusion that SPs are different. They are all wild sluts who can't help themselves and just cum so much more easily, multiple times a day, and right on cue even in a 30 minute session. I am sure some of the ladies will chime in. Not with everyone, they will say, but with the right guy (i.e., you) it can happen, they will say. Sure, sure. Bet that is sometimes even true.

Well recently I had what I would call a true girlfriend experience. She spent the entire session trying to cum, the same way women always do: trying to control the angles , position, speed, giving me a lot of instruction and clearly focused on it.

I was vaguely flattered but mostly annoyed. It went on far too long and felt like work. I only do that for women I am in a relationship with. An SP is to me more like 3D interactive porn. I don't expect or want that much reality!

It depends. Is she trying to enjoy herself at my expense? In that case, given the nature of our relationship, that is unacceptable.

I have had experiences with SPs who are... demanding. That can work for some guys, but it doesn't for me. An SP who goes beyond enjoying sex with me to being pushy just isn't fun. I expect my experience with an SP to be about me. Yes, I try to make sure she enjoys herself and I do my best to be a kind and considerate companion, but in the end it's about me, not her.

Honestly, I don't even think the SP experience in question was even a femdom situation. A good dom is constantly worried about what the sub wants and enjoys. Despite what superficially looks like a dom-centered experience, a good dom-sub relationship is all about what the sub enjoys. It's about pushing the sub's boundaries, finding the sub's buttons to push, etc. With the SP experience in question, I think the SP was just getting paid to be a selfish lover. She was a beautiful woman, I got to do things I hadn't done before, but I still walked away unhappy with the experience.

 

[GrandBlasterK]

OK, please allow me to chime in. As a veteran hobbyist, I now hand-pick the SPs I want to see based on the level of chemistry I feel we will have. I've made some of them cum during our first session (or is it just my style lol), and having the ability to give a woman pleasure should empower you, not annoy you. Some women who enter the industry are just looking to feel worthy and sexually satisfied (especially after a bad relationship). Fuck, I think I'm responsible for retiring about a dozen of them over the years!

 

[GrandBlasterK]

Something I can relate the experience to is offering a reversal at a Spa. Though some take this for the mutual touching aspect, not everyone wishes to fully get up and perform a massage on the girl. After all, they came to relax.. not work.
In the end, its all about making sure you get what you wanted.

I usually have to ask for a reversal! Of course, an MP is welcome to touch me all over as that can be arousing to them, but when it's my turn.....it's pleasure, not work.

 

[afterhours]

Well recently I had what I would call a true girlfriend experience. She spent the entire session trying to cum, the same way women always do: trying to control the angles , position, speed, giving me a lot of instruction and clearly focused on it.........................I don't expect or want that much reality!

I experience that when I have sex with civilians. I feel like saying: can't you just be like my last SP and then masturbate or something?

 

[katcalla]

Clearly not all men share your attitude about this situation.

 

[nottyboi]

Nothing makes me more excited then when an SP orgasms. I don't expect them to... after all they are having sex with a stranger.. so when I am able to make them experience unexpected pleasure it is awesome....

 

[Petzel]

I think we all know that fuji's assumptions are very biased and negative towards women here who actually enjoy what they do. His perceptions are warped and his attitude is over cynical. I think he's one of those people that no matter how much anyone tries to please him, it's never enough.

 

[fuji]

Let me say, I believe a lot of SPs enjoy what they do. I think there are quite a few women who like being attractive to men, and get turned on, and have fun, working as SP's. I do believe there really are a lot who just think to themselves, "I can't believe I get paid to do this". That is not the same thing as having an orgasm though, and I believe that the overwhelming majority of clients and members on terb fool themselves about just how often SPs actually cum.

Now, for the sake of social harmony, since I recognize that debating this issue with any SP on this board would amount to an attack on her business and her person, which would quickly become nasty and personal, let's just agree for the sake of argument that any SP who posts on this thread is somehow different, never fakes an orgasm, and is just lucky to have got the kinds of clients that are far more attractive to her than the sorts of guys she would be able to pick up in in any bar or club.

It's all the other SPs, who haven't posted on this thread, that enjoy their job but do it as a business, and fake their orgasms. I have to say, I appreciate those other SPs quite a bit. I would not want to be with someone who was unhappy with what she's doing, I like the positive energy, I enjoy being with someone who enjoys being with me. But I have no illusions, and I also have civilian women in my life who want me to do the hard work, and for them I am happy to do it. I see SP's as an outlet, the same way I watch porn or go to a strip club.

And in response to the suggestion that I should have spelled out what I want--well.. ok. But I haven't found this to be a raging problem, it's not like I encounter session after session where the SP disappoints me by worrying more about her own pleasure than mine. So I'll just not rebook with this girl. The rest are great.

 

[d_jedi]

Well, I personally would rather be given direction if what I'm doing isn't working, rather than her faking it. If it's not getting her off.. what's the point?

 

[fuji]

Well, I personally would rather be given direction if what I'm doing isn't working, rather than her faking it. If it's not getting her off.. what's the point?

I take it you hate getting blowjobs.

 

[DocOdd]

I've known a few SPs who have been willing to give detailed directions, though none went as far as fuji seems to be describing. But like a lot of others in this thread, I thought that made the session better. Since people have been asking who does this, Ciara @ DM gave me the most instruction that I can recall, and Sebelle @ TGF and the indy Riley Grace were also memorable for not being shy about what they liked.