Do you still masturbate while in a committed relationship and living together?
- Thread starter theycallmebruce
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I must agree with helena, it is wonderfully erotic to watch.... and... well sometimes I can't just watch without wanting to help!
It seems ironic that you would consider masturbation as a means of preventing cheating. Given that there are posters on this board who are in a committed, closed relationship (i.e. where there is not an explicit agreement to engage in sex with others) are cheating by hobbying, then the conclusion would be that (a) TERB members are less likely to masturbate, because they can satisfy their sexual fantasies through hobbying, (b) TERB members are about equally likely to masturbate as any other individuals, or (c) TERB members are more likely to masturbate (perhaps due to higher libidos than the average population).
Hmm.... Perhaps a poll would be worth setting up?
yeah but eventually you wil cheat because you will realize the ridiculousness of you having to do this just because she chooses to forego sex. You'll resent her because you'll literally feel like your sex life has been stolen from you (and it has indeed)...and eventually you are cheating
Think about it...If you dont meet her half way on whats important to her, you're history. But if she doesnt thats ok; she gets a pass on that.
How is that fair?
yes actually...and not just mine either many others as well...
not just pulling this out of my ass
Better to masturbate first thing in the morning. At least you can focus on work and other priorities. If not, you'll end up on here by noon looking for something (someone) to do by the afternoon.
Isnt it pretty much the main form of sex that you have when you are in a committed relationship?
Certainly.... rubbing one out only takes a few minutes while having sex with the SO takes longer... sometimes I just want a quick relief and back to what I was doing. Certainly helps save money to do so rather than go out to the SC or hobby... a l'il lube and a sheet of Bounty is pennies compared to a lap dance. 
I don't mean to hijack this thread, but it sounds like you and some of the other posters are suggesting that no one should EVER get in to a committed relationship (whether that be marriage or a steady girlfriend/boyfriend). Sounds pretty cynical to me.
Perhaps:
(a) The posters are in the wrong time of relationship, in which you should change (break up with girlfriend, divorce your wife)
OR
(b) There is a deep-seated problem in your relationship which communication and perhaps even seeking counselling should help (btw, problems in sexual intimacy is a serious problem, which needs to be communicated openly).
OR
(c) The problem is with you and the other posters, in your attitude.
Before you start flaming me, this is just IMHO, based on my impressions from the post. I don't know you or your situation, and I acknowledge that I can be wrong.
BTW, I am in a committed relationship (with the good fortune of having a SO who is open-minded).
Who doesn't masterbate? I'm an SP and I still masterbate. Nobody knows their way around my clit like I do. Besides, I don't always know when the mood is going to hit me and when I get that itch I have to scratch! Why deny yourself?
