Do you still feel excitement for sessions, before and after?

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I've been hobbing for 5+ years. Over the years I noticed how my perceptions, feelings and expectations changed. Sadly, I no longer feel any excitement before, during or after a session, regardless of the outcome. Even most amazing sessions feel like another day in the office. I almost instantly forget about it the moment as soon as I step out. I've taken long breaks from any forms of sex and stayed away from SPs, but it hasn't contributed to the rise in desire. Libido is still fine, no EDs to speak of. I can still perform on demand, but it feels like a chore.

I'm now considering exploring options outside of my comfort zone. Noticed that many members participate in some forums that I never even considered.

Have you gone though a similar experience? How did you spice it up?
 
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For me, first sessions with an escort are like back in the day when I used to love "blind dates". (now true "blind dates" are mostly gone because of the internet...)

That same feeling as when I walked up to the door wondering "what will she look like?", "how will she react to me?" "will we have a good time or will it be a waste of time and money?"

After all these years I'm not very nervous, but still experience excited anticipation...
 
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I still have the excitement before, the feeling of knocking on the door of a stranger in anticipation of something new is still a thrill. Even with an SP I’ve met before the excitement is there. I think it's for a few reasons.

I don’t use MP’s or spas so I’m not walking into a physical place that has become familiar. New locations feel like new experiences, not just another day in the office.

As far as repeating goes I do have an ATF indy SP but she’s in a different city so I only get the chance to see her a couple of times a year. I’m excited to see her every time not just because I know the sex will be great, which it will, but also because I genuinely like her company and we catch up on each others lives. Again it never gets a chance to seem like repetition.

I’m also married, and there is that risk factor. I’m not saying its necessarily part of the thrill, but it does mean I have to be on guard and on my toes, so perhaps that does heighten the senses somewhat.

I have used Seeking for several years and explored the Sugar world as well, in part to spice things up as you suggest. I’ve had pretty good success there and I enjoy the effort that it takes to some degree. It’s much more of a “hobby” feeling than the simplicity of booking an SP. When you have the thrill of the chase factor it does add a dimension. Two of the women I’ve had some multi-month arrangements have been married, so that’s a kink I never knew I had.
 
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I have been solely seeing my “regular” for the past two years, give or take. (It's been so long I don’t even remember when exactly I started seeing her exclusively.)

Thing is, she’s become increasingly inactive so I’ve gone months without seeing an SP. I’ve on occasion felt the urge to get back into the hobby just to remember what it feels like to “see people” for the first time, to seek out gratifying experiences, and well, to fuck. And TERB is always there to entice me with notices of Toronto’s best and newest talent.

But it hasn’t happened yet and I gotta say, I’m feeling increasingly comfortable living with my remembrances of good times past. Getting back onto the hobby horse feels almost like work at this point - going through the motions with bookings, moving my schedule around for SPs, prepping for sessions, etc.

I've come to realize that my regular provided me with everything I ever wanted and needed, and I don’t need anything else.
 
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Although I see a couple of regulars often I still find time to book agency SPs. But there are occasional stretches of time where I take a break - 2-5 weeks - when I'm indifferent to seeing anyone until that desire returns....thankfully!! :)

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For me, the extreme excitement starts an hour before my booking and doesn’t let up until I’m driving home. I guess I haven’t pooned enough yet.
 
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skycrush99 said:
For me, the extreme excitement starts an hour before my booking and doesn’t let up until I’m driving home. I guess I haven’t pooned enough yet.
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I'm glad to hear you're still enjoying to process.

Sadly, for me, I'm often emotionally done before I finish. Been there, done that, no excitement in it anymore.

Zero expectations when I go in. Try to go with the flow, let in unfold naturally, organically, and it does. Beautiful lady is doing her magic, but my mind is done. Can't quite understand it. And with my mind goes my boner. I can still shift gears, but it's a chore, so I usually give up.

Thus this thread. Who does what is a similar scenario?
 
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thumper18474 said:
Yup..cus I didn't know what to expect...but the first tgirl I saw was very understanding when I told her she was my first...
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Apologies if I'm prying, but can you please share your feelings and emotions when you first pulled the t-trigger? Why and how did it feel different?
 
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IamGroot said:
Apologies if I'm prying, but can you please share your feelings and emotions when you first pulled the t-trigger? Why and how did it feel different?
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Nothing different than seeing GG Providers other than the obvious...their BBBJ are just as good some are REALLY good..at the time I was on a GREEK mission and who better to scratch that itch than a Tgirl..
I only top so when they started brow beating me to let them top me..and most wanted to go BB..THATS when I moved away from tgirls..I did see a post op for a while til she moved to Sauga...so my itch got scratched..
 
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I do and thats the problem. I think my whole problem is because of that crazy dopamine hit I get till the SP opens the door. But i found an SP that made me not want to go to another SP again . I will only go to her when possible and slowly will stop the hobby
 
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IamGroot said:
I've been hobbing for 5+ years. Over the years I noticed how my perceptions, feelings and expectations changed. Sadly, I no longer feel any excitement before, during or after a session, regardless of the outcome. Even most amazing sessions feel like another day in the office. I almost instantly forget about it the moment as soon as I step out. I've taken long breaks from any forms of sex and stayed away from SPs, but it hasn't contributed to the rise in desire. Libido is still fine, no EDs to speak of. I can still perform on demand, but it feels like a chore.

I'm now considering exploring options outside of my comfort zone. Noticed that many members participate in some forums that I never even considered.

Have you gone though a similar experience? How did you spice it up?
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I dont feel the level of excitement compared to when I first started seeing sp's. Sometimes it does feel like a chore especially when going to see a regular. I do feel a bit more excitement and anticipation before seeing someone brand new but to be fair most of the time after the session i feel disappointment because the time does not live up to my expectations. Most of the time it's because the sp is not as hot as I envisioned her to be or there level of service is just not up to par and too restrictive for my taste. It's rare nowadays that I see someone brand new and want to go see them a second time. For the last little while I go for sp's who are able to provide a bit more of a unique experience or at the very least scratch a particular fetish or kink itch i have.
 
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IamGroot said:
I'm glad to hear you're still enjoying to process.

Sadly, for me, I'm often emotionally done before I finish. Been there, done that, no excitement in it anymore.

Zero expectations when I go in. Try to go with the flow, let in unfold naturally, organically, and it does. Beautiful lady is doing her magic, but my mind is done. Can't quite understand it. And with my mind goes my boner. I can still shift gears, but it's a chore, so I usually give up.

Thus this thread. Who does what is a similar scenario?
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Sounds like you are really seeking a deeper, authentic connection that fucking a stranger can't fill. When's the last time you were truly venerable?
 
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