Do you offer LT dates? Why/why not?
- Thread starter Samantha Jones
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I'm assuming LT means long term as said above.
Well, you'll probably have to talk about boundaries and where the lines are drawn.
IMO it's better to keep work things professional and private things private.
It does sounds more than being a "regular" client. It's something to think hard over.
Well, you'll probably have to talk about boundaries and where the lines are drawn.
IMO it's better to keep work things professional and private things private.
It does sounds more than being a "regular" client. It's something to think hard over.
It depends on what you mean by LT dates. Do you mean taking a vacation for a week with a client or something along those lines or are you talking about a relatioship?
Voidphase is right.
It has to be with someone that you have already established chemistry with.
When I already know the character of the gentleman and I've met him at least once or twice, I will agree to a longer engagement, longer than a certain amount of time. I consider long term longer than a day.
You don't want to be completely miserable the entire time. Long term means I'd like to enjoy the company over an extended period of time too. I wouldn't want to be with a jerk on some sunny island for a week.
Been there, done that.
i agree that some chemistry should definitely be established first (you only make that mistake once!), but i don't think you must necessarily already have clocked many hours together. if a prospective client wants a date longer than a few hours, i insist on meeting for coffee first (free of charge, of course), and sussing each other out. for me, i can tell after about 20 minutes whether i'll be able to enjoy anyone's company for an extended period of time-- that's pretty much all the time it takes to establish a rapport.
i'm all about rapport-- usually, at the beginning of a session, before the clock gets turned on, i like to chat for a few minutes. it tends to make us both more comfortable, and it makes the sex better
i'm all about rapport-- usually, at the beginning of a session, before the clock gets turned on, i like to chat for a few minutes. it tends to make us both more comfortable, and it makes the sex better
What way? Surely not a negative way! I was blushing.
Damn emoticons.
When your ready, I'm here xoxo.
i agree that some chemistry should definitely be established first (you only make that mistake once!), but i don't think you must necessarily already have clocked many hours together. if a prospective client wants a date longer than a few hours, i insist on meeting for coffee first (free of charge, of course), and sussing each other out. for me, i can tell after about 20 minutes whether i'll be able to enjoy anyone's company for an extended period of time-- that's pretty much all the time it takes to establish a rapport.
i'm all about rapport-- usually, at the beginning of a session, before the clock gets turned on, i like to chat for a few minutes. it tends to make us both more comfortable, and it makes the sex better
This makes sense.
For me, I only insist on a pre-meeting when it's a couples threesome.
I think its absolutely paramount for the female to be comfortable with an SP and not be thrown into something that her SO set up, unless maybe she's bi or insisted on the engagement and potentially knows what to expect.
A guy can try to convince me that his girl is cool with it but if she's not into females or is only doing it to be spontaneous, chances are the experience could end up being a write-off for everyone involved.
For me, I need to be with a provider at least 5 or 6 times before I engage in even an overnighter let alone a weeks trip.
We both need to be comfortable with each other.
We both need to be comfortable with each other.
I think it's best to do a maximum of 2 or 3 hours the first time you are meeting someone because you don't know if you're going to get along.
I once did an overnight with a man I hadn't met before and it was a night in hell. He was rude, ignorant, and wouldn't let me sleep at all. Should have returned some of the money and left but it was early on in my 'career' and I didn't know better. Then he invited me on a long Asian vacation and I just couldn't do it. It sounded like a great trip but definitely not with him.
I once did an overnight with a man I hadn't met before and it was a night in hell. He was rude, ignorant, and wouldn't let me sleep at all. Should have returned some of the money and left but it was early on in my 'career' and I didn't know better. Then he invited me on a long Asian vacation and I just couldn't do it. It sounded like a great trip but definitely not with him.
Sorry to hear that, but that sometimes is the reality to some of these encounters. I believe respect for the other individual plays a big role in lengthy encounters. Nothing like early morning sex though
A lot of guys go at the travel opportunities in completely the wrong way and then wonder why they get shot down, and even rejected as a regular client. They position it as an offer, rather than an invitation. Fact is, almost every SP working at $250+/hr can afford to pay her own way to any global destination of her own choosing, anytime she wants, as often as she wants. Most neither need, or wants someone to 'pay for her' as if it was solving some unattainable goal of hers, or some glammed up charity donation. You're not offering her anything she can't secure for herself independent of you.
Most SPs will see it rather as a mutually beneficial business transaction, where she gets paid as usual to accompany the client to a destination of HIS choice, and provide typical 'companion' services. If she likes the client, it's an added bonus for her, but its a bonus, not the core reason why she's going, no matter what the client may believe. She may give a 'volume discount' or fixed price for her time, but that doesn't usually indicate anything more intimate than her having a good business head on her shoulders. But in her mind, it's virtually always a business transaction that happens to have some attractive fringe benefits.
Best way to approach it is by inviting her to join you on a trip. If she accepts the invitation, as Miss Croft says, it's because she feels it's because your personal connection is positive enough that won't impinge on the business transaction to come. Negotiating an appropriate fee for the travel/companion services is much easier to get through after that.
Guys still need to remember she's there 98% for the business transaction, not because of a strong personal/intimate connection they imagine exists in some form as a motivator. She'll never confuse love and business, but soooo many guys do it's ridiculous.
Most SPs will see it rather as a mutually beneficial business transaction, where she gets paid as usual to accompany the client to a destination of HIS choice, and provide typical 'companion' services. If she likes the client, it's an added bonus for her, but its a bonus, not the core reason why she's going, no matter what the client may believe. She may give a 'volume discount' or fixed price for her time, but that doesn't usually indicate anything more intimate than her having a good business head on her shoulders. But in her mind, it's virtually always a business transaction that happens to have some attractive fringe benefits.
Best way to approach it is by inviting her to join you on a trip. If she accepts the invitation, as Miss Croft says, it's because she feels it's because your personal connection is positive enough that won't impinge on the business transaction to come. Negotiating an appropriate fee for the travel/companion services is much easier to get through after that.
Guys still need to remember she's there 98% for the business transaction, not because of a strong personal/intimate connection they imagine exists in some form as a motivator. She'll never confuse love and business, but soooo many guys do it's ridiculous.
