Do you know any narcissists?
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the idea of family being sacred is sometimes a myth. Family can be over rated and even downright destructive.A few years ago when I was living out west for a year, my mom called telling me he was in the hospital with some kind of health issue. I hung up the phone and never had another thought about it. There is no bond.
When you grow up afraid of a parent, there is simply zero bond and never will be. He never taught me a damn thing.
I was in an abusive relationship for 11 years with a person who has NPD.
It was a hard cycle to get out of. I still struggle sometimes because of it, but the best thing a person can do is have No contact with the person. Family or not.
Any reputable psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist would tell you this. No contact is the only solution.
A person with NPD will never seek help to change. It goes against their thought process of nothing ever could be wrong with them. Add an abusive personality to someone with NPD and you have a recipe for disaster.
Therapy for yourself is also extremely helpful so that you can get past having a relationship with a narcissist. The toll that it takes on you personally and emotionally is just too much for any normal person to have to deal with. Father or not you have to take a look at what your needs are and address your needs first. Even if your father doesn't have NPD, there is something disruptive and disturbing in the relationship to you. Therapy would be what you need to help you with that. Regardless of whether you choose to stay in a relationship with him or not.
It was a hard cycle to get out of. I still struggle sometimes because of it, but the best thing a person can do is have No contact with the person. Family or not.
Any reputable psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist would tell you this. No contact is the only solution.
A person with NPD will never seek help to change. It goes against their thought process of nothing ever could be wrong with them. Add an abusive personality to someone with NPD and you have a recipe for disaster.
Therapy for yourself is also extremely helpful so that you can get past having a relationship with a narcissist. The toll that it takes on you personally and emotionally is just too much for any normal person to have to deal with. Father or not you have to take a look at what your needs are and address your needs first. Even if your father doesn't have NPD, there is something disruptive and disturbing in the relationship to you. Therapy would be what you need to help you with that. Regardless of whether you choose to stay in a relationship with him or not.
Good post.I was in an abusive relationship for 11 years with a person who has NPD.
It was a hard cycle to get out of. I still struggle sometimes because of it, but the best thing a person can do is have No contact with the person. Family or not.
Any reputable psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist would tell you this. No contact is the only solution.
A person with NPD will never seek help to change. It goes against their thought process of nothing ever could be wrong with them. Add an abusive personality to someone with NPD and you have a recipe for disaster.
Therapy for yourself is also extremely helpful so that you can get past having a relationship with a narcissist. The toll that it takes on you personally and emotionally is just too much for any normal person to have to deal with. Father or not you have to take a look at what your needs are and address your needs first. Even if your father doesn't have NPD, there is something disruptive and disturbing in the relationship to you. Therapy would be what you need to help you with that. Regardless of whether you choose to stay in a relationship with him or not.
This is true, none of his 4 kids like him. I don't know when the last father's day call was, if there ever was one. Lol.the idea of family being sacred is sometimes a myth. Family can be over rated and even downright destructive.
Take a listen to a podcast called How To Survive The Narcissist Apocalypse. It's mainly narcissist abuse survivor stories, some are textbook, some are pretty crazy. Raised by them or dated them. It's pretty interesting if this kind of stuff was or is part of your life. narcissistapocalypse.com
I know one narcissist who is increasingly getting sodomized by her own vanity. No less than 10 selfies per day. Her activities allow for her to be "on stage" in front of the camera alot as well. She must have several thousand pics by now and must almost always be the centre of attention.
This I agree with. I had siblings who made me feel like crap about myself, they were complete shits but somehow always found ways to judge me. I eventually accepted they were not capable of growth and walked away, never to look back. But I also took the steps and time to TRY to communicate with them and make it work first. This way I have no regrets and no second guessing my choices. I tried. It didn't work out. Onward and upward. But I strongly suggest making an earnest effort to make peace first (if only for your own sake).
the idea of family being sacred is sometimes a myth. Family can be over rated and even downright destructive.
My extended family is full of them. From everything I've read the best thing is go no contact. If you can't for whatever reason, go as minimal contact as possible with lots of boundaries for your protection. If a boundary is crossed you go radio silent until YOU are ready to start contact again. The only thing you need to say is that they crossed a boundary and you won't be speaking with them until you decide. Don't explain, don't reason because you'll end up being sucked in.
Narcissism is on a spectrum, so you have to judge for yourself what approach to take. Obviously the support of a therapist would be ideal.
Narcissism is on a spectrum, so you have to judge for yourself what approach to take. Obviously the support of a therapist would be ideal.
