do we owe each other?

[DocOck]

Had a recent experience with an SP that I felt was worth a chat. In brief, we had a nice little rapport and what I felt was a relationship that went beyond the act. nothing intense, but some comfortable conversation and times together over about 11 months. From my perspective, something that I enjoyed. (I think it is well recognized that some of us value these unique types of interactions rather than the variety and volume sought by others.)
Anyway, fairly abruptly it was ended by the SP by simply not returning my emails and requests to meet. I guess for one reason or another she decided it was time to move on.
I would guess this scenario occurs more often in the reverse, that a frequent customer bails suddenly without explanation. I'm not sure that is fair either.
So the question is, does the business nature upon which the SP-client relationships is founded preclude any obligation to explain why things are at an end? or on occasion is there a semblance of "reality" based on feelings such that aloowing some closure would be the compassionate way to go ?
or is it simply........."All's fair in love, war and escortia?".........

 

[spartan5782]

Anyway, fairly abruptly it was ended by the SP by simply not returning my emails and requests to meet. I guess for one reason or another she decided it was time to move on.

I've had two regulars leave the business (retire) and in that case, I don't think any further explanation is necessary...it's business. If she is still active and you feel singled out, then I'd think you're owed an explanation as to why she doesn't want to see you anymore...maybe it was getting beyond the SP/Client relationship and she needed a break (does she have a SO?)...but I think you should know this if she's still seeing others for pay...you were still paying, weren't you?

But in anycase, I think it's just common courtesy to communicate a change in status. Hopefully she's alright and nothing's happened to her...do you know this to be the case?

Just my thoughts...

 

[zog]

Abrupt departures

Sometimes, when an SP leaves the business, she makes a concerted effort to put it behind her. This may be because she wants to move on or possibly because someone important in her life is uncomfortable with her past. Usually, the reasons are complicated but it's easy to see how, often, a former SP would like to break contact with her working life.

Remember that having a good relationship with an SP is still not the same as having a real-life friendship. Good providers will make every effort to treat their preferred clients with dignity and respect. However, this obligation need not extend to when she's out of the business.

I've been a regular at several pubs and restaurants over the years. In some cases I've gotten o know the staf quite well. That does not mean that a waiter will stay in touch when he or she moves on to another job.

I wouldn't apply normal friendship behavioural guidelines to strictly business relationships. Sure, some retiring SPs choose to say their goodbyes but that is a choice, not an obligation.

Zog.

 

[ToronToto]

It's unclear whether the SP in question has left the business.

Does it matter?

Yes. If she's leaving the biz, one would feel positive about being "part" of her life, especially if you had a chance to give her a fond farewell.

If not, one might feel somewhat "stinky" Pete.

btw, "Escortia" is a great term. Is it a country? a car? or the "universe" of escorting.

 

[Don]

She only "owes" you if you truely feel that your relationship progressed to where both of you felt it was a friendship (which it sounds like it may have). Otherwise while perhaps rude (especially to a good client), she is just moving on as people mentioned.

 

[DocOck]

escortia

Yes, Escortia is the world of escorting and all that it entails. I just made it up. Could be a TV show though, but if anyone steals it I'll sue for damages....

In this case, it was not closing shop, which has made it a bit frustrating.

On the other hand, I do respect the decisions that such women make. I think for many it can be a very emotionally bruising occupation, and no matter what anyone says, you have to look out for #1.