A question poped up in my head in the past and left me wondering. Very few people have any energy left in them when they go home to do or think about anything related to work, for those who are not workaholics at least. I wonder if the same held true for SP. Do the ladies, for those who are in a relationship, feel like being intimate with their partners? and if so, would they put the same amount of energy as with a client or does it become a case of get it over and done with so that I can go to sleep or move on to something else?
Do SPs take work home?
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taking work home......
I've been to the homes of a couple of sp's. If I'm a client then, ya I guess they bring work home.
I've been to the homes of a couple of sp's. If I'm a client then, ya I guess they bring work home.
Do chefs cook meals at home?
Do business equipment service technicians fix their own laser printers?
Do accountants balance their own chequebooks and prepare their own taxes?
Do professional shoppers buy their own clothes?
Do investment analysts pick their own stocks?
Do real estate agents participate in the sales of their own homes?
I think this question is a bit offensive. We're just people doing jobs -- answering a demand that exists -- just like any other working person. But that doesn't mean we're non-human.
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Do business equipment service technicians fix their own laser printers?
Do accountants balance their own chequebooks and prepare their own taxes?
Do professional shoppers buy their own clothes?
Do investment analysts pick their own stocks?
Do real estate agents participate in the sales of their own homes?
I think this question is a bit offensive. We're just people doing jobs -- answering a demand that exists -- just like any other working person. But that doesn't mean we're non-human.
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lol that's a good question nomos yes i bring work home with me! i answer the phone thinking it's one of my friends but turns out to be a client!
well i had some perso get upset with me only because he wanted me to open up to him and he wanted to get to know me and know everything about me and i told him i wanted to keep our relationship on a business level and he got upset and sid i wasn't human and all this other stuff, oh well....ho-humm.danmand said:
But would he have made the same assumption about any of the other professionals I mentioned?danmand said:
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I'm not so sure. I think most people assume that cooks love to cook and technicians are gadget guys and professional shoppers love to shop.
But for whatever reason, people seem to think that we're different, somehow. That we chose to do professionally that which we hate personally. It's a stigma thing. And it's annoying.
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But for whatever reason, people seem to think that we're different, somehow. That we chose to do professionally that which we hate personally. It's a stigma thing. And it's annoying.
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The nunnery I live in has a ten o'clock curfew. When I'm done working for the day, I have to get back there in time for them to put the chastity belt on me.nomos said:
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Thank you ronzodd and danmand, that is exactly what I meant with my question. I did not in any way imply that SP's were not human. In fact, I don't know how a simple question, although naive, could have meant that I was questioning anybody's humanity. Maybe, I should explain how this thought started. I wondered how many SP's get into the business for the simple fact that they really need the money and not necessarily because they like to have sex with strangers who come in all different shapes, forms and smells. Then, assuming that there were a good number of SP that were in this group, it begs the question, how many of them would feel like being intimate with their partner after having gone through a few clients per day over a period of a few years. We all have met people who have been doing a job, any job that they didn't like and how that tends to affect their life outside of work and their relationships. That was all I meant. Whoever found my question/comment offensive, I suggest that you stop to smell the flowers. Life is too short to go through it feeling that every comment is meant to be an attack or that it has an ulterior motive.
Good question...when I was in the industry, always tried really hard not to bring it home but it was literally impossibe for me... I actually could not have any sort of relationship whatsoever... could not tell the truth to friends, could not start any form of relationship as I would have to tell them my profession which I also never could quite get the nerve to say, so if that is not bringing your work home then I don't know what is......was very difficult to seperate fantasy from reality, to me there really is no seperation, it is reality no matter which way you look at it...
It really amazes me how many females can see a numerous amount of clients in a day and then go home and be intimate with somebody who is not a client, I guess that is what it takes to be able to stay in the adult industry, you really have to give these woman a lot of credit, for some it becomes such a vicious cycle of self abuse, an addiction really, some days I actually felt as though I needed an exorcism, hahahahahaha.....some days I thought my head would start spinning, could you imagine going to see an sp and halfway through the session she turns into Meegan from the exorcist, that would definately scare the hobbying right out of you, hehehehehehe, but then again you never know, you might just give her a thumbs up....
I am rambling, but my point is, I took work home for three years, and it finally got too heavy to carry....
It really amazes me how many females can see a numerous amount of clients in a day and then go home and be intimate with somebody who is not a client, I guess that is what it takes to be able to stay in the adult industry, you really have to give these woman a lot of credit, for some it becomes such a vicious cycle of self abuse, an addiction really, some days I actually felt as though I needed an exorcism, hahahahahaha.....some days I thought my head would start spinning, could you imagine going to see an sp and halfway through the session she turns into Meegan from the exorcist, that would definately scare the hobbying right out of you, hehehehehehe, but then again you never know, you might just give her a thumbs up....
I am rambling, but my point is, I took work home for three years, and it finally got too heavy to carry....
The short answer? Yes.
When I was a driver for dancers and SPs way back when… often times as soon as they got in my car after a shift or a session… I would be hearing all about it. And I am sure that whenever they got home if they had spouses or roommates they would be hearing about it too.
I was also dating a dancer for some time and often when she would visit or when we went out somewhere she would be sharing her wonderful day with me. I just figured she needed to dump a little so would be a good ear, sometimes bouncing a few things back… until she was done. Never really bothered me. Sometimes though she would not want to have sex… saying that she had enough guys trying to maul her all day and just was not in the mood. That did bother me sometimes.
As an ad sales person in the adult biz now… yes I take my work home with me… if talking about it and letting off some steam is taking your work home with you. If that is what you mean (I am sure you do) then YES. I live alone… so sometimes it’s when my special LF is visiting or someone else visiting. My LF use to be an MPA… so sometimes she doesn’t want to hear it. If it’s funny stuff she don’t mind. But if I’m just all-full of complaints… no she don’t want to hear it. Yah… I work in the adult biz… and I take it home almost every day. There is always some f**ked up thing that happens everyday around here… and sometimes I need to get a load off. I’m lucky in that I have some good friends that don’t mind.
When I was a driver for dancers and SPs way back when… often times as soon as they got in my car after a shift or a session… I would be hearing all about it. And I am sure that whenever they got home if they had spouses or roommates they would be hearing about it too.
I was also dating a dancer for some time and often when she would visit or when we went out somewhere she would be sharing her wonderful day with me. I just figured she needed to dump a little so would be a good ear, sometimes bouncing a few things back… until she was done. Never really bothered me. Sometimes though she would not want to have sex… saying that she had enough guys trying to maul her all day and just was not in the mood. That did bother me sometimes.
As an ad sales person in the adult biz now… yes I take my work home with me… if talking about it and letting off some steam is taking your work home with you. If that is what you mean (I am sure you do) then YES. I live alone… so sometimes it’s when my special LF is visiting or someone else visiting. My LF use to be an MPA… so sometimes she doesn’t want to hear it. If it’s funny stuff she don’t mind. But if I’m just all-full of complaints… no she don’t want to hear it. Yah… I work in the adult biz… and I take it home almost every day. There is always some f**ked up thing that happens everyday around here… and sometimes I need to get a load off. I’m lucky in that I have some good friends that don’t mind.
JoyfulC said:
IMO there is no stigma thing about it at all... it's a fact.
I have over the years met a lot of dancers and SPs who hated what they were doing. I'm not going to say the majority... but sometimes it did seem that way. I have also met a lot of sex workers who were men haters. Some of them hated their jobs and some of them loved it because it gave them a chance to abuse men.
The REAL world out there is not so idealistic as some on here would have us believe. OK there are a few high end or upper scale SPs etc here and all over the Internet that would like to paint a pretty picture and they have such a great job and a great life. And in fact that may be true for a handful. I submit though that often times those that work very hard at trying to tell you their life is so hunky dory are crying themselves to sleep at night wishing they could get out of this life that they are stuck in.
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Over the years, I've met a lot of people in any business who hated what they were doing. It isn't something exclusive to our business.TheNiteHwk said:
Among other things, I write resumes and help people with jobsearching professionally. I can't help but notice that some people pursue careers because they are truly interested in, enjoy, and feel fulfilled by the work -- while others simply choose a career path because they view it as being safe/secure or because they think it will make "good money." Sadly, many of the students I've worked with have no clue what they want to do with their lives -- they want to have a good career, good pay, good advancement opportunities, good security, good benefits -- but they have no clue what they might actually be doing.
I guess I'm lucky. I chose something that totally fascinated me decades ago, and continues to fascinate (and challenge) me today. My dad once told me that a lucky person was someone who gets paid to do that which they'd be doing anyway. I guess that describes me.
But don't we also see on boards like this, time and time again, that men jump to the conclusion that anytime a woman expresses her opinion, she's a "man hater"? Maybe some men are just oversensitive and not very open-minded. I read all these posts, and I'm not so sure the problem is with the women. After all, the women are here, providing a service, doing all that they can to accommodate the customers. But some of the men here insist on applying very mean judgements to us. Like you say, not all or even most men do this -- but the ones that do are a vocal group. They probably sound larger than they are.TheNiteHwk said:
It's probably only true for a handful of people in general, sadly. But if someone tells you that they're happy with their life, why would you feel the need to second guess them?TheNiteHwk said:
Again, that's probably true of many people -- not just SPs.TheNiteHwk said:
I'm not sure that SPs vary that much from the general population. There are a lot of miserable, misguided people out there -- people working in jobs for all the wrong reasons, people with unreasonable expectations, people who see the glass half empty rather than half full. There are a lot of angry, bitter people out there. A lot of unfulfilled people out there. It's sad, but it's true.
Still, many people want to believe that both SPs and customers are somehow more miserable than the average. I just haven't seen much evidence to support that. At worst, I don't think we're any worse off than the general population -- and at best, maybe we're a little bit better adjusted.
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You do realize this is a point lost on most here in TERB. Sadly they see SPs as blow up doll alternatives.JoyfulC said:
Really??
And, based on what I have read it here, it would seem that divorce and unhappy marriages are higher amongst hobbiest.
...because it seems to me that I have over the years seen plenty of data that suggesting that drug use, suicide rates and many other negative behaviors are much higher amongst sex workers than the general population.JoyfulC said:
And, based on what I have read it here, it would seem that divorce and unhappy marriages are higher amongst hobbiest.
