One of the problems I have with seeing "younger" guys is that I don't want to become "the crutch that cripples."
I've been in the business more than 30 years, so I've had a lot of opportunity to see how different men use and react to our services. The men I prefer are mostly married, with kids (sometimes grandkids). They've experienced a robust range of life experiences: being curious about the opposite sex, dating, falling in love, knowing the tribuations of partnership throughout aging -- and after having experienced all this, they've come to the conclusion that they'd like a little more attention than is available to them in their current circumstances. That's legit. And it doesn't necessarily prevent them from experiencing anything else that life has to offer, as long as they keep it discreet.
The problem arises when someone young and inexperienced with the opposite sex seeks out our services. That's when we become "the crutch that cripples" because these guys are often shy and a bit socially retarded, and it's a lot easier for them to put out the bucks to "take the edge off" with someone who is guaranteed to respond positively to them than to make the effort to socialize with eligiable women that might make suitable life partners for them.
Most of the client I've known over the years have been guys who married -- more or less happily -- raised families, were pillars of their communities and had well-rounded lives. But sadly, I've also seen quite a few tragic cases of guys who perhaps were only guilty of being a bad combination of shy and horny in their younger years, and sought to "take the edge off" by calling for quick and easy "take-out" rather than learning the basics.
It seems like a good idea at the time, but come back 20 years down the road, and that poor guy is likely still calling for "take-out."
I know a lot of people here will reject what I've had to say -- perhaps they're afraid they'll see themselves in my words. But sorry to say, it is true. There are a lot of guys out there who started using SPs in their 20 and, 20 years later, they haven't enjoyed the benefits that human relationships have to offer and they're still just getting by on calling up SPs.
I'm an SP myself, and yet, I am married for 25 years. Partnership is part of the human condition for most of us (not all, but most, for sure). No young person should deny himself the opportunity to find out if there's something better out there for him by taking the easy way to take the edge off his sense of urgency.
SPs/MPs are a good solution for mature married men who are looking for the one piece of the puzzle that's missing -- but it's not a good solution at all for younger guys looking for just one piece of the puzzle, in the absence of all others.
Think about it! If you're a younger guy, do you really want to spend your whole life without a partner and relying only on what little companionship you can afford to buy? No? Then set your sights on learning the skills you need to partner with a suitable woman. Sex is the smallest part of the equation and the most easy to get on a take-out basis -- but there is so SO much more that you can't get any other way than finding a partner and living your life with her.
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