Discussion: The state of Durham reviews

[Jack_attack]

Hey fellas,

I have a question about the state of the Durham review page but wanted to provide some background first before the ask. If you want to skip ahead of my short 2020-2025 story that will ultimately lead to the question, then look for the bolded header called "the question".

So pre-covid I was very active on the durham forum and had been for 15 years or more. Some of you may even recognize me! Probably not, but that's ok. Since covid a lot has happened in my life, mostly for the best, but two major things happened that brought my forum participation to basically zero until somewhat recently.

1. I left Durham and moved to east of Peterborough. Yes this is also a Ptbo forum, but we all know Ptbo is a wasteland aside from Kingsway.
2. I kind of stopped hobbying. For a while there I was really into having non-professional hookups! The irony of this is I was spending as much money on first dates as I was on professionals, so did I really come out on top? Probably not.

Well now I'm back, sort of. My hobbying phase has taken me in new and interesting directions. I almost exclusively see MPs and strippers now. I dunno. The heart wants what the heart wants.

The Question: If the hall of fame providers disappeared tomorrow, how fucked would Durham be?

I want to preface this by saying that I AM NOT taking a shot at reviewers or providers on this board. I love our community here in whatever form it takes, as long as it's active. I've just noticed a change from 2019 to today and I'm curious about it.

I've noticed the forum has become a lot of circling on the same, say, 5-7 providers + designated threads on the big MP locations. Rarely a TOFTT, rarely a provider outside of these 7. And, funny enough, I think all of the 5-7 providers who make frequent appearances in reviews have been in the business as long as I have! So it looks to me like the Durham forum is now relying heavily on its hall of famers and there aren't many in the "up and comer" category. Thinking about the future of the hobby, are we in a situation? Has the Durham provider quality averages plummeted or is Terb Durham filled with reviewers who just prefer to review our best?

PS. Need to reiterate, I'm NOT taking shots at anyone here. The hall of fame providers in durham were inducted into the hall for very good reason, I can vouch for some of them first hand. I want them to have all the success for as long as they want it. And repeat reviews are still helpful! Keep it up! But I also want my brothers here to have lots of good options for many years to come, I want them to be safe from the providers who pose risks, and I want undiscovered good providers to get the boosts they deserve; so I'm hoping up-and-coming talent is just not making the boards as much as they could be and, if so, I'd like to encourage the hobbiers to drop their reviews! Reviews help everyone, and I want to see this place thrive forever.

Thanks for listening ilu

 

[bob.man]

I personally feel the same since 2019, it's a wasteland as w whole.

But I feel since then, all the "new" girls coming in..
They are coming in at like 200 to 300hh, as an unknown..
So not a lot of people may want to take a chance especially since the percentage of fake/scammers has drastically increased.

Then if you do go take a chance eon said new person once you get there.. it's like I don't do that, even though in texts it was agreed..
Or they offer super terrible service that it's like... I should of just looked at some porn.

I have heard there are some other reviews platforms, the only one I know of is the blue form, but it's deader then dead. So I don't know, but I feel a lot don't share the really good girl, because they don't want them to get too busy, again just speculation there.

I haven't seen anyone new for a while, it's... Just hard to justify it now a days so such a high probability of the unknown, bad service factor.

I am have seen them is one girl for like 4 years on and off.. she doesn't post much of at all, so can't really review her.

I feel it's the cost to service factor that is here in Durham region.

 

[Jack_attack]

I personally feel the same since 2019, it's a wasteland as w whole.

But I feel since then, all the "new" girls coming in..
They are coming in at like 200 to 300hh, as an unknown..
So not a lot of people may want to take a chance especially since the percentage of fake/scammers has drastically increased.

Then if you do go take a chance eon said new person once you get there.. it's like I don't do that, even though in texts it was agreed..
Or they offer super terrible service that it's like... I should of just looked at some porn.

I have heard there are some other reviews platforms, the only one I know of is the blue form, but it's deader then dead. So I don't know, but I feel a lot don't share the really good girl, because they don't want them to get too busy, again just speculation there.

I haven't seen anyone new for a while, it's... Just hard to justify it now a days so such a high probability of the unknown, bad service factor.

I am have seen them is one girl for like 4 years on and off.. she doesn't post much of at all, so can't really review her.

I feel it's the cost to service factor that is here in Durham region.

This is good insight, since I’m somewhat out of touch with today’s prices.

Pre-Covid the prices were a little more risk averse. $100-120 for a hh was easier money to put down on a TOFTT. Even an $80 BNG could give you the measure of things. Not sure prices like that exist in Durham anymore

 

[jerbear15]

This is good insight, since I’m somewhat out of touch with today’s prices.

Pre-Covid the prices were a little more risk averse. $100-120 for a hh was easier money to put down on a TOFTT. Even an $80 BNG could give you the measure of things. Not sure prices like that exist in Durham anymore

With the way rates have gone and Leolist I only see well reviewed providers. If I'm going to spend 350 plus today I want to be safe and have a good time. Seeing someone new is a gamble that I don't want to take.

 

[Jack_attack]

With the way rates have gone and Leolist I only see well reviewed providers. If I'm going to spend 350 plus today I want to be safe and have a good time. Seeing someone new is a gamble that I don't want to take.

$350 holy shit! I totally feel you on this and why reviews are so valuable. If they’re charging $350 you want peers to tell you it’s worth it and that you won’t get screwed. Hell I’ve always wanted that when it cost $120 too

 

[ashlee.]

Lots of girls don’t have ties here and won’t stay for the low rates and lack of luxury hotels and amenities. Toronto is so much more appealing to them, I think. If I was in Toronto I could get a nice condo and a pro photoshoot and charge near double, edited to add, so why wouldn’t the younger girls? And social media is ruining the game. Too many people know too much and they use it to scam. It was kinda better in some ways to be more underground.

 

[RebelinBed]

This is all really accurate. @ashlee. provides a good point as well.

We do have our number of stellar providers. There are some good providers that have been reviewed once or twice but by the looks of it, they fall just a little short of being part of the greats. It looks like @Blairxoxo is on her way up there though! She's wonderful!

Personally, I have had a lot of good experiences more than bad recently but maybe that is just my luck.

 

[bob.man]

Lots of girls don’t have ties here and won’t stay for the low rates and lack of luxury hotels and amenities. Toronto is so much more appealing to them, I think. If I was in Toronto I could get a nice condo and a pro photoshoot and charge near double, edited to add, so why wouldn’t the younger girls? And social media is ruining the game. Too many people know too much and they use it to scam. It was kinda better in some ways to be more underground.

It's not the lower rates that's the problem I feel, it's the quality of service, why would I spend 200+ for a half hour..
When I could stay home and just masterbate, and it feels 10 times better then going to see them, that's the problem I have, and I feel a lot of others have.

We have seen that there are some high rates on a few of the regulars we see reviews, but they are know entities.

Agreed social media, has messed up a lot, namely super entitled girls getting 50k dms and this king they are hot shit..
Really messes up the dating world to for someone that's not a 10, but I digress.

 

[jerbear15]

Lots of girls don’t have ties here and won’t stay for the low rates and lack of luxury hotels and amenities. Toronto is so much more appealing to them, I think. If I was in Toronto I could get a nice condo and a pro photoshoot and charge near double, edited to add, so why wouldn’t the younger girls? And social media is ruining the game. Too many people know too much and they use it to scam. It was kinda better in some ways to be more underground.

With the way rates have gone I wouldn't see any Indies that have no reviews. As I mentioned I want to have a good time and be safe. The only way I would see someone with no reviews is threw an agency. The rates are way better but prefer the circle of Indies i see.

 

[boomboom]

Thanks for the thread topic
Yes things have changed drastically in the last 5-8 years & not for the better IMHO.
Formally from S/W Ontario but retired to north of Peterborough. Before, driving 30-60 mins to see my favorite SP was a none issue. Now it's 2-3hrs, that's a day trip. Durham is blest with some fine SPs. Kingsway is a great clean MP. Peterborough is very quiet, but kinda expected giving it's population size. SP who used to tour got ticked as some who wanted to haggle or negotiate. Hotel rates have skyrocketed. There are a couple of nicer hotels in Peterborough but the others are low to low-middle that i would not want to go see a SP at.
The invisibility on social media & fake posts hurt us all.
Personally I only see SP who advt on Terb or have on & off. I've never trusted LL. The blue board became like social media & I've not logged on in 9yrs or more.
I trust terb & do my research looking for someone I can connect with. I much prefer 1-2 regulars over a bunch of 1 & done. I can count on 1 hand in over 20yrs I did not enjoy myself or walked out thinking what a waste.
Today's prices have reduced the # of visits + elderly family needing extra help or my own health issues.
I hope to be active & posting reviews again real soon.
Thanks again to the SP advts & those who hobby + post reviews good & bad visits.