Ok, so, have been to an MP about 6 times in my life, all before I was married. Never get extras, just massage and release, usually Lucy. So, heres the dilema, now married, alone for weekend. Should I go? As a male, I dont consider it to bad, theres no real sexuality to the place, Im merely getting another part of my body massaged. However I realize this is not how my wife would see it. So, do I or dont I? I have such a strong desire to go, almost consuming. I know others have been in this predicament, just curious how you dealt with it, and any advice. My worst fear is being caught by LE and having family find out.
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IMO if you can't control yourself for ONE weekend dude, you definitely have a problem......
As for whether or not you go, and this will cause some debate, but if you don't mind cheating on your wife, then by all means go, go get your rocks off.
Just think of one thing before you go: while your wife is away for the weekend would you want some guy getting her off? If you say no, then you have your answer.....
As for whether or not you go, and this will cause some debate, but if you don't mind cheating on your wife, then by all means go, go get your rocks off.
Just think of one thing before you go: while your wife is away for the weekend would you want some guy getting her off? If you say no, then you have your answer.....
bigtimedude said:
You know that you'll feel like a piece of shit afterwards.
Just hang in there until the wife gets home -- make her a romantic dinner -- tell her how much you missed her -- then jump her bones and fuck her so hard that she can't stand up for a week.
If she turns you down, then go to the MP
Lets face it men and women are different. If you really think about it Im having a certain part of my body massaged. It isnt a sexual thing in the classic sense. If its something that is only done once in a blue moon, where is the harm?
bigtimedude said:
So explain it that way to your wife. I'm sure she will just pat you on the ass and say:
"Yes dear, I agree with you, you just trot off and have your massage".
NOT!!
Nah, not judgemental. I just know it would break my heart if my partner was doing the same thing. That being said, go for it. I probably will tonight myself.
bigtimedude said:
If you dont like the answer, dont ask the question.
You can rationalize it anyway you want, but any interaction that has the intent or result of a sexual act that your wife wouldnt approve of is cheating. And yes, there are degrees of cheating I suppose - having your dick massaged is probably not going to as difficult to explain as being caught with an escort. ("But honey, it was really only a massage. I swear that I didnt know she was going to use her pussy to massage my penis, that wasnt in the brochure.")
Its not about the right/wrong argument - if you cant handle the guilt, do yourself a favor and just whack off. Trust me, 2 minutes later this wont seem like such a great idea.
for me its not the guilt. Its the risk of getting caught. Are most people who go to these things single?
the only way of getting caught is ny le and I think the chances of that are quite low, especially at a place like that
bigtimedude said:
You still haven't answered the questions: would you mind if your WIFE had some guy getting her off this weekend while she's away?
I think the odds of getting caught by le at a MP are fairly low if that's all you're worried about.
That said, you have to ask yourself why you want to go to the MP. Is it because your wife gives you sex every day, and now she is away for a weekend and you can't make it through 2 days without sexual gratification? If so, your excuse if she finds out can be "Honey, I love having sex with you so much that I was going crazy when you went away for the weekend, so I went to an MP and closed my eyes and thought of you. I knew you wouldn't want me to suffer all weekend, so I did it for you, honestly. Now that you're back, I won't go to the MP - until you go away again and I'm alone." Yes, that was supposed to be funny.
If, however, your desire to go to the MP is that you want to try a new girl for some variety in your sex life, and your wife going away just gives you the opportunity to dabble, then go for it and either A) get it out of your system or B) welcome to the hobby - you'll be in the Hotel California (Strongbeau's metaphor - and a good one), probably for life. If you get hooked you'll need to find a way to set aside some cash to pay for the ongoing secret life.
As far as it goes, some people believe in the sliding scale whereas such and such counts as sex and this other thing doesn't. Bill Clinton is an example: BBBJ-COD (cum on dress lol) doesn't count, digits with a cigar doesn't count, etc. Only FS with the 'sword in the sheath' so to speak "counts". I myself believe that anything involving a girl physically giving you a happy ending counts as sex. I don't care if it is a HJ, bodyslide, CBJ, BBBJ (CIM, SW), Russian, FS, Greek...if you both are naked and she gives you release, it counts as sex imho. I think most women outside the biz (esp. a wife) would agree with this definition of what counts as their husband having sex.
Still, a poll I read said that women would rather find out their husband was seeing an SP then find out he was having an affair with a girl at the office. Probably due to the fact that she knows the SP isn't going to run off with him and it is just sex for cash, whereas an affair would indicate he was looking to replace her.
Get the massage if you want it. If found out say you went to a holistic health centre spa to find your inner self, and you did (all over the MPA's stomach and the towel, but don't say that) and you are happy to be in Zen like state of total relaxation. Say you would never dream of leaving her, and learned new ways to pleasure her, which was the main reason for you going. Girls go to spas, so you went to a spa. It is true - my dates always compliment me on my massage skills - skills I picked up by going to high-end MPs for years.
That said, you have to ask yourself why you want to go to the MP. Is it because your wife gives you sex every day, and now she is away for a weekend and you can't make it through 2 days without sexual gratification? If so, your excuse if she finds out can be "Honey, I love having sex with you so much that I was going crazy when you went away for the weekend, so I went to an MP and closed my eyes and thought of you. I knew you wouldn't want me to suffer all weekend, so I did it for you, honestly. Now that you're back, I won't go to the MP - until you go away again and I'm alone." Yes, that was supposed to be funny.
If, however, your desire to go to the MP is that you want to try a new girl for some variety in your sex life, and your wife going away just gives you the opportunity to dabble, then go for it and either A) get it out of your system or B) welcome to the hobby - you'll be in the Hotel California (Strongbeau's metaphor - and a good one), probably for life. If you get hooked you'll need to find a way to set aside some cash to pay for the ongoing secret life.
As far as it goes, some people believe in the sliding scale whereas such and such counts as sex and this other thing doesn't. Bill Clinton is an example: BBBJ-COD (cum on dress lol) doesn't count, digits with a cigar doesn't count, etc. Only FS with the 'sword in the sheath' so to speak "counts". I myself believe that anything involving a girl physically giving you a happy ending counts as sex. I don't care if it is a HJ, bodyslide, CBJ, BBBJ (CIM, SW), Russian, FS, Greek...if you both are naked and she gives you release, it counts as sex imho. I think most women outside the biz (esp. a wife) would agree with this definition of what counts as their husband having sex.
Still, a poll I read said that women would rather find out their husband was seeing an SP then find out he was having an affair with a girl at the office. Probably due to the fact that she knows the SP isn't going to run off with him and it is just sex for cash, whereas an affair would indicate he was looking to replace her.
Get the massage if you want it. If found out say you went to a holistic health centre spa to find your inner self, and you did (all over the MPA's stomach and the towel, but don't say that) and you are happy to be in Zen like state of total relaxation. Say you would never dream of leaving her, and learned new ways to pleasure her, which was the main reason for you going. Girls go to spas, so you went to a spa. It is true - my dates always compliment me on my massage skills - skills I picked up by going to high-end MPs for years.
OP, who are we kidding here?
You already know you're going to go. So go, have fun.
Then live the rest of your life in the secret, guilt ridden, pursuit of the next great encounter. For which, you will have to get a secret, untraceable cell phone and a phony hobby like gambling that can explain the large amounts of cash that you keep using up every month.
alexmst, I've always wanted to learn how to give a great massage. This is perfect.
You already know you're going to go. So go, have fun.
Then live the rest of your life in the secret, guilt ridden, pursuit of the next great encounter. For which, you will have to get a secret, untraceable cell phone and a phony hobby like gambling that can explain the large amounts of cash that you keep using up every month.
alexmst said:
alexmst, I've always wanted to learn how to give a great massage. This is perfect.
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