Did she ask me out? Advice?

[Questor]

OP hasn't really given enough information. He is in a better position than any of us to know because he was there. However, I think there is a distinct possibility that Syn is right and she just wants an extra person in her class. Its also possible that she wants to see you again and this was the easiest way without taking the chance of asking to go on a date.

OP needs to consider the whole situation, including:

- how much much attraction was there in the original encounter?

- how much embarrassment is involved in going to this swimfit class and getting in a pool with a bunch of seniors?

- are there other opportunities to see this woman and ask her out, or is this swimfit class the only way?

- if she works for the same company and his motives are just a free boink, then book an escort for an hour instead.

- if his motives are a little more "serious" then what are the potential pitfalls of dating a woman in the same company?

Personally, I'd avoid the swimfit class if at all possible and find a way to bump into her somewhere else to ask her out.

 

[whobee]

I think you have to ask yourself a couple of questions.

Can you swim? If not, explain that you can't and plan something else.
Do you like her? You mention chemistry but don't actually come out and say you're interested in knowing her better.

I think you're way ahead of yourself putting boinking someone at the company as a reason not to go. Might as well add "what if she wants kids and I don't" to your reasons. Your gut? If you ever move past aquafit your shirt will come off at some point.
Don't mean to sound harsh but I don't see the point of your mental gymnastics. I used to tell women friends that they thought about this stuff way too much but then I realized (sadly) that men do as well.
I would go and not let your brain think you out of it.

 

[simon482]

if she invited you to a fitness class, she thinks your fat and need to exercise.

 

[simon482]

Female perspective? She may just want more people in her class. Were you the only one she invited?

Syn

you the same syn from craigs list rants and raves section ?

 

[keepmovingforward]

i would go. build a relationship and sure ask her out. what do you really have to lose? if you get rejected...so what...life goes on.

but one thing that is important. don't let her get to your head and put her on a pedestal. it's just going to get you emotional and salt your game. good luck buddy.

 

[wazup]

Say you're busy and see if she still persues you.