Did she ask me out? Advice?

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Like a lot of guys, I am pretty clueless about picking up hints of interest from women. I met a women today from another division of the company I work for at a professional development event. We seemed to have good chemistry although a lot of the conversation was with other people in the mix as well. She has a job on the side where she's an instructor for an aquafit class, and she invited me to come over to her class next week and join the class.

I'm fairly surprised that she would invite me to a swimming pool environment:confused: since I certainly wouldn't be wearing a shirt since I'm in the water. Like I said, we had good chemistry and she wasn't wearing any rings. Do you think she was asking me out, or just being friendly...or maybe I should just forget the whole thing because I don't want to dip in the company ink? I wish women could be more direct. I'm considering going, but since I have a bit of gut, I might be making a fool of myself.
 
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doggee_01 said:
go -what have you got to lose??
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Mainly my self respect..its one thing to be confident in a coffee shop or bar, but I think a swimming pool, with just my trunks on might not work out so well. If I had six pack abs I guess it would be different.
 
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There's a world of difference between self-respect and ego.

Sure, if you go you'll run the risk of damaging your ego if it doesn't work out, but your self-respect will remain intact because you took the chance.

Actually, no matter how it turns out, asking her out will do your self-respect a world of good. 50% chance of bruised ego. 100% chance of maximum self-respect.

All that said... dude, do you need someone to draw a picture for ya? Will a bright, blinking neon light help?

Hey, I'm just yanking your chain... but from where I sit it looks pretty clear that she's interested in more than a working relationship.

Go for it. And let us know how it works out.
 
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danmand said:
lol .
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Who's joking? If you are at least 3 or 4 inches taller than her, then it is quite possible that she is attracted to you. However, if she is 5'3" or shorter, this 3-4 inch rule does not apply and she will suddenly want a 6 foot man. So I ask again: how tall is she and how tall are you?
 
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syn said:
Female perspective? She may just want more people in her class. Were you the only one she invited?

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I was the only one, she invited when we were speaking privately...and reminded me afterwards...and she made sure I knew the exact address.
 
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hyperdog said:
Who's joking? If you are at least 3 or 4 inches taller than her, then it is quite possible that she is attracted to you. However, if she is 5'3" or shorter, this 3-4 inch rule does not apply and she will suddenly want a 6 foot man. So I ask again: how tall is she and how tall are you?
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lol dude, I'm taller than her by 2-3 inches
 
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Isn't aquafit mostly for seniors? Never mind. Go anyway, wear a Speedo, and ask her out for coffee afterwards.
 
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Get to know her socially: use this event to do so. You can suggest other fun things you'd like to do together (non-sexual things only!), and gauge her reaction. Laugh, have some fun. If there's going to be anything more, what's the rush?
 
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If she teaches aquafit, then it's certainly one of her interests outside of work. MAybe she's trying to see if you and she could possibly share a common interest. Or if you're at least willing to try something she likes.
I think you should go for it.
One poster asked "What have you got to lose?". Well, for one thing, you may actually lose the gut you're self concious about. Not in one session obviously, but a workout won't hurt.
And I also have a gut that I'm working on losing so I do understand where you're coming from.
Your willingness to try her class will go a long way in showing her you're not afraid to venture out of your comfort zone. If she is interested in you, that will be big time brownie points in your favour.
 
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Plan B said:
Like a lot of guys, I am pretty clueless about picking up hints of interest from women. I met a women today from another division of the company I work for at a professional development event. We seemed to have good chemistry although a lot of the conversation was with other people in the mix as well. She has a job on the side where she's an instructor for an aquafit class, and she invited me to come over to her class next week and join the class.

I'm fairly surprised that she would invite me to a swimming pool environment:confused: since I certainly wouldn't be wearing a shirt since I'm in the water. Like I said, we had good chemistry and she wasn't wearing any rings. Do you think she was asking me out, or just being friendly...or maybe I should just forget the whole thing because I don't want to dip in the company ink? I wish women could be more direct. I'm considering going, but since I have a bit of gut, I might be making a fool of myself.
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I say go there naked and see what happens...
 
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Plan B said:
I was the only one, she invited when we were speaking privately...and reminded me afterwards...and she made sure I knew the exact address.
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Dude - she asked you out - to her aqua fit class. Gut or no gut, you should go if you want to see her again. Buy a new bathing suit. Have fun. If you need to, pretend you have a 6 pack. It's really no big deal. You probably need a new bathing suit anyway.
 
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