Did I handle this right?

[A.J. Raven]

I had an appointment with a first-time client today. When he arrived we chatted for a bit -actually I tried to initiate conversation numerous times while he only replied with one-word answers. Deciding this was going nowhere, I decided to move on to the "main event". I asked that we take care of "business" first. He hesitated, then told me he only had 60% of my rate, asking if he could stay and would bring the difference next time. I said no, but smiled and told him it was okay and we could reschedule for another time. He persisted at length, to the point where I had to be quite firm letting him know that it wasn't cool, he could have said something during our telephone conversation while he was getting directions about 15 minutes earlier, etc... I was a little nervous during this exchange and remained calm, but direct. I've managed to stay safe so far, but you never know how someone is going to react to being told "no" in this situation.

Normally I never take care of business until I am saying "good-bye" to a client. This is the first time I have ever made a point to address it at the beginning of an appointment. So, on the one hand I feel my instincts were on point today, and obviously for good reason. But on the other hand, I am curious how other SP's handle this sort of thing; and I wouldn't mind some feedback from hobbiests as well. Did I handle this right?

Thanks for any & all input.

 

[LancsLad]

I think so. If you were firm and tactful so as not to escalate things while getting your point across, you did well.

 

[Love Technician]

I think you handled everything appropriatley...my only sugesstion would be that in the future you ask for your "donation" to be left in an envelope in the restroom so you can check that the amount is in full prior to starting the session. That way you don't have to mix "finance and romance" when with a client. I have read that some sp's handle things this way.

 

[S.C. Joe]

Um, yep..don't see what else you could have done.

Maybe he was hoping 60% was enough and you say OK, maybe hes done this before with other SP's

I don't think you would have seen him again if you would have agree to let him bring you the 40% later.

 

[Noir]

Well, I think that you handled it properly. Imagine how upset you would have been if you had only received 60% of the rate, after services were rendered. I think that is somewhat disrespectful on the client's end, because he managed to say nothing about it in the first place. (I guess he was hoping that you'd go through with the appointment, seeing as he was already there.) Considering the fact that you also called him a first time client - I may not have been as relaxed about the money exchange. (I honestly prefer when the clients don't make you ask for it - leave it on a table before you shower etc. )

 

[plunker]

Do you ever watch Diary of a Call Girl on Showcase? Its a good show about the industry from the SP's point of view. Anyway, a similar situation came up with one of her clients at her incall where she got the creepy feeling about a client just by the way he acted. She politely gave him the boot out the door but it shook her up and she was worried about negative reviews. The moral of the story is trust your inner voice and get out of a creepy situation as politely as you can. You did the right thing.

 

[hunter001]

One other thing. There is a bad client list. You might want to talk to the others ladies and find out how to get the guy's contact info added to the list.

 

[a 1 player]

You done good.

 

[Aardvark154]

You handled the situation entirely appropriately. It was déclassé for him not to have handled financial matters and any negotiations regarding the same beforehand. I’m not talking about the appropriateness of negotiation (about which there is disagreement) but the timing was, I think we would all agree with you, inappropriate.

 

[stang]

You should have given him 60% of his orgasm and told him you'd give him the rest next time.


(Just kidding! You are in a risky business afterall.)

 

[hawkeye69]

Come on guys does no one cheer for the underdog

You should have said, that's ok, keep the 60% you obviously don't have enough money to hobby, here have a free one for the road. Now go to the food bank before it closes and get your groceries.

Just teasing. You did the right thing. I have never had an SP collect at the end, even ones that I have seen many times. Of course I show up with money in an envelope out of habit.

 

[A.J. Raven]

Thanks

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply. I am feel completely fine in my decision now. All the best!

AJ *smile

 

[cypherpunk]

If you're well reviewed, you should always collect up front and be clear about this when booking.

 

[A.J. Raven]

If you're well reviewed, you should always collect up front and be clear about this when booking.

I have a no review policy & I do not advertise on TERB. I participate here in the forums only. Thanks for the advise anyway.