Delayed Ejaculation... Anyone have this problem?
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...decided to take a break after the split because I felt this place contributed to the problem (not blaming anyone but me) and also I wanted to make sure I got hooked up with "real" women instead of falling into the habit of pay for play. But...something happened today that just left me in need of some self medication type therapy...so here I am...old habits die hard.
great bear said:
...decided to take a break after the split because I felt this place contributed to the problem (not blaming anyone but me) and also I wanted to make sure I got hooked up with "real" women instead of falling into the habit of pay for play. But...something happened today that just left me in need of some self medication type therapy...so here I am...old habits die hard.
i didn't read the entire thread, but delayed male ejaculation is a sign of an enlarged or abnormal prostate.
I know some of you quick-shot-off guys on here are thinking "man, i wish I had that problem, I blow in a matter of seconds". The truth is it can sometimes be a curse. I have been with women who after about 30min are tired fully pleasured and just want to go to sleep but since I have the curse i'm still pounding away at her with no end in sight. Usually they tell me that they're done and for me to hurry up and blow but I can't so I just pull out and lay there. Secondly the female thinks that since I can't blow after her oral+fs she now thinks that she's not good enough and doesnt turn me on which isnt the case. So now I have to convince her the (It's not you it's me) thang all with a rock hard member.
Several dates didnt give me the "call back date/screw" cause they felt I took wayy too long to finish.
This might sound fun for some but It is a real curse.
I have been told by some women that I should go into porn cause of this.
Several dates didnt give me the "call back date/screw" cause they felt I took wayy too long to finish.
This might sound fun for some but It is a real curse.
I have been told by some women that I should go into porn cause of this.
I've had the problem in the past. First it helps to not jerk off so much, but not a month for pete's sake. Second, start jerking off with something softer, instead of the tight male grip. Try a rolled up towel with a lubed-up condom. My dick was just getting insensitive from the rought pounding. This was at a time when I was drinking a lot. Oh and third, don't be drunk and stoned. Shakespeare said something like ' it provokes the desire, but unprovokes the performance'.
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a 1 player said:
The anti-depressant effect of Citalopram (aka Celexa), Effexor, and other SSRIs, depends on the amount of the drug in your brain (longer term). The anti-orgasm effect depends on the amount in your blood (shorter term).
Skipping a day or two in anticiaption of sex (would take a little planning) should not have an overall effect on the anti-depressant aspect, but will decrease the delayed orgasm effect.
(Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. Check with yours before trying this.)
The only problem being, if one does not take the meds for a couple of days, there can be some serious withdrawl side effects. These are drugs that one has to be weaned off. Missing just one day and I already start to feel shaky, anxious and funky.
I am determined to overcome this. I recently took matters into my own hands, watched the dirtiest porn I could find, and two hours later.... Nothing. FUCK!!!Esco! said:
Yeah....
...it is a problem.
Fortunately for me, I know it is not a health or overarching concern because I have no problem with one particular woman.
Unfortunately, that woman is my soon 2BX. Also unfortunately, this means the problem could be in my head. I am VERY worried about this...
I am very much in need of a "test case" sample besides the three women I am sleeping with regularly now. Lucky for me I picked up a phone number this weekend with someone at the other end of it who agreed we should go out this week...I need to prove that it "ain't me"...
John_E_Depth said:
...it is a problem.
Fortunately for me, I know it is not a health or overarching concern because I have no problem with one particular woman.
Unfortunately, that woman is my soon 2BX. Also unfortunately, this means the problem could be in my head. I am VERY worried about this...
I am very much in need of a "test case" sample besides the three women I am sleeping with regularly now. Lucky for me I picked up a phone number this weekend with someone at the other end of it who agreed we should go out this week...I need to prove that it "ain't me"...
C Dick said:
lol... mine was from those late night soft porn movies in the 80's, from those high channels..
Emmanuel does everyone I think?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0071464/posters
Oh yeah, in the 80's those Italian movies on Sat afternoon ch47 I think also assisted in my beat off career.lol
it was all my fault thoughI occasionally have this problem. These are the factors I've identified.
1. Alcohol, definitely a factor every time this happened. Not fall down drunk, just a little buzzed, that combined with the factors below- lead to too much staminia.
2. Trying to hold out. When trying to give my partner extra pleasure by not coming too quick - I think i miss the magic moment and once it has passed I can go on until I'm exhausted. A HJ will usually finish me, but as others have said, the ladies often say "you're not attracted to me" which aint true.
3. Stress / pressure. The more you want to cum at this point, the more you can't. Here I think (though I cant always get my partner to oblige) the best thing is to slow down a bit. Go back to foreplay to relax and then rebuild the excitement. Just a bit of kissing, pettting maybe oral. The problem with my so is that by this point she is satisfied, and all she wants to do is go to sleep - thus increasing the pressure to finish.
4. Frequency of self love. Obvious.
1. Alcohol, definitely a factor every time this happened. Not fall down drunk, just a little buzzed, that combined with the factors below- lead to too much staminia.
2. Trying to hold out. When trying to give my partner extra pleasure by not coming too quick - I think i miss the magic moment and once it has passed I can go on until I'm exhausted. A HJ will usually finish me, but as others have said, the ladies often say "you're not attracted to me" which aint true.
3. Stress / pressure. The more you want to cum at this point, the more you can't. Here I think (though I cant always get my partner to oblige) the best thing is to slow down a bit. Go back to foreplay to relax and then rebuild the excitement. Just a bit of kissing, pettting maybe oral. The problem with my so is that by this point she is satisfied, and all she wants to do is go to sleep - thus increasing the pressure to finish.
4. Frequency of self love. Obvious.
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Travelaholic
Could it be a gradual mental desensitization to stimuli. I mean, there is so much porn around us, women are skankier than ever, I've seen so much pussy, I've done it so many times, I think the forbidden fruit is part of the whole thing. There is nothing that really tantalizes anymore.
I have friends that have a better chance of getting hit by lightening than getting boned and they all say that they would fuck their wives all the time if they could. They only think that because they are deprived. Leaving aside the exceptions, I think that is the rule.
I have friends that have a better chance of getting hit by lightening than getting boned and they all say that they would fuck their wives all the time if they could. They only think that because they are deprived. Leaving aside the exceptions, I think that is the rule.
John_E_Depth said:
FUUUUUCk... you just described my last 2 nights with my GF. Ugh. But I chalk it up to her not giving me head. I got no problems getting off in exactly the perfect time with SP's and my previous GF's, because I think head had contributed a lot to the arousal.
But seriously man.. that was EXACTLY how it goes for me and my GF. Surreal.
And guys who are thinking, damn I wish I had this... he's right bros. You don't want this. Imagine you all pent up and hard and pumping away until the lube on the condom has pretty much dried up and the fucking thing feels like a plastic baggie on your cock (ultra-thin condoms don't feel very good after a little while). Plus she's probably going to be sore the next day, she's gonna feel like shit because she thinks its her fault, all for NO SOG.
Plus you can't even jerk off to relieve yourself because its so desensitized by then you just need a break. And the entire thing repeats itself in your head the next time you sleep with her, so that psychs you out, and causes it to happen again.
