Dear new client...

[Ophelia Black]

If it ever crosses your mind that the best way to impress an SP is to start telling her that "I know I can make you fall for me/go bareback/do Greek", and then get in a big huff when, after she tells you eight times that something you were doing was hurting her, she finally pushes your hand away and say "Hey! That hurts!" - and then you start pushing her to rearrange her schedule and bump an established regular so you can see her, and then say "All I need to know is when the guy's flight is, and what city he's flying out of, then I'll just phone in a bomb threat so I can have you all to myself", ha ha ha...

And you do this while also complaining that she "spent some of the time sleeping" (it was an overnight), well, it's going to waste a whole lot less of her time and your money if you just tell yourself to fuck off, rather than waiting for her to do it.

Just thought I'd share.

 

[Ophelia Black]

Cooled off a bit now...I was starting to think I was in a really crazy-ass reality show "Joe Schmo"- style...like, ok bud, you can stop being so whacked any second now - I think they got enough on tape.

Now it's just starting to be pretty damn funny, in a relieved way. Life's a riot, complete with rubber bullets and molotov cocktails.

 

[shack]

Maybe the title should have been "Dear FORMER new client".

Somebody sounds a tad possessive.

 

[zog]

Giving us all a bad name...

There are always a few guys out there that don't understand that Escorts are "Service Providers" who perform a professional function and deserve to be treated with respect.

Everyone seems to understand that a lawyer, accountant, auto-mechanic, or any other mainstream professional is entitled to be treated with professional courtesy. You don't often hear about clients who get too possessive over their golf instructor or personal trainer. We all seem to understand that we don't own our cleaning lady or taxi driver, just because we hire and pay them to provide a specific service.

Yet when it comes to Escorts, there are always a few who seem to feel that the fee they pay entitles them to treat the SP as though she were a personal possession.

These people give the rest of us who hobby responsibly and with respect a bad name. Unfortunately, we can't stop these losers from acting in this way. All we can do is to continue to behave ourselves properly when we do hobby.

To Ophelia Black, I extend my sympathy for the fact that you came across one of these disrespectful and inappropriate clients. I think that your mini-rant above was well done and I agree with the sentiment. If this guy is reading this thread, I hope he begins to realize that his behaviour is just not acceptable.

Zog.

 

[Marshall Stack]

Ophelia, my sympathies.

Kudos to Zog for telling it like it is. You aught to be commended for coming on the board and delineating your clear grasp of reality! Personally, IMHO, I believe that there are more than just the odd jerk who tends to believe that paying for services equals carte blanche with respects to a client's demands.

Unfortunately, many have stated their negativity towards this sort of disrespectful behavior yet it appears that the only ones who listen are the individuals who have a solid grasp on reality. Those who need to have the message inculcated with a heavy setting maul have this uncanny ability to tune out words of wisdom.

The only way to stop it is to shame them by outing the jerks publicly. They only act this way because they believe that they can get away with it. Drop flyers in his neighborhood and inform those within his community. If he's harrassed more than one girl, he'll have one hell of a time trying to finger the person!

 

[Ophelia Black]

Thankfully this charmer was just visiting our city for the weekend (lives in the US), so he can bloody stay on his side of the border.

This guy throws money around like it's confetti, and comes off fine in email, so no doubt he'll find somebody else to be utterly obnoxious to - he's also one of those guys who physically "try" to go bareback on you - I practically had to throw him off me. According to him, it's because "I'm so in the moment, I can't control myself".

I know he's looking for a Thursday to Sunday gig this coming weekend, and I'm not sure what I should do here. He hasn't done anything really harmful, he's just a serious jerk. He's going to be emailing around this week to other girls.

Should I warn people, or what? I do respect the idea that Bad Client warnings should be reserved for only the most serious offenders out there.

But then again, this was after just one night in what was supposed to be a two night gig (I told him why I was walking out, then did it) so I'm a little concerned what this guy might be like (in the possessive sense) after 4 nights, if anyone can actually put up with him for that long.

And thanks for the support - I'd like to add that in the time I've been escorting (10 months) this is only the second real idiot I've run into - you sweet guys usually treat me with the utmost respect and courtesy, and I think you all are fabulous.

Hey Aphrodite...no kidding, eh? I mean how do you deal with this stuff - with these kind of guys, the better and more comfortable they feel (us doing our job well) the worse they feel entitled to treat us... Arrrrggghhhhh!

But I still love my work! I'm just never doing another overnight with a client I don't know

 

[Ophelia Black]

Very good advice, thank you! I've put buddy's details and a link back to this post on a Vancouver Bad Guy list, so that should slow him down.

 

[zog]

What about Toronto?

I've put buddy's details and a link back to this post on a Vancouver Bad Guy list, so that should slow him down.

Forgive my ignorance, but shouldn't the Toronto SP community be warned as well? Especially since, as you said, he's known to travel here.

I'm not asking you to put his information on TERB (as this would not be the appropriate place) but isn't there a Toronto resource that you can use?

Zog.

 

[Ophelia Black]

Wires crossed somewhere

I think there must be a misunderstanding somewhere - my experience with the guy was strictly in Vancouver - he drove up here from Washington state, so I know nothing about him going to Toronto...but I should probably tell the Seattle folk.

 

[Ophelia Black]

Done and done! Thanks, Kiarra, for providing a place to post stuff like this. Very much appreciated!

Also put into Seattle BD Client Review.

 

[zog]

Re: Wires crossed somewhere

I think there must be a misunderstanding somewhere - my experience with the guy was strictly in Vancouver

Sorry Ophelia. For whatever reason I assumed you were writing from Toronto. It was my mistake; I didn't mean to confuse the matter.

Zog.

 

[Ophelia Black]

It's an easy one to make, given I'm a Vancouver girl posting on a Toronto board.

 

[fernie]

Maybe it's just me, but the big, bold "Shag me retarded" line on your page doesn't seem designed to reel in classy men who respect SP's. Just a thought.

Fernie

 

[Ophelia Black]

It reels in film editors, tv producers, BBC 2 actors, CEO's of all descriptions, high profile philanthropists, high tech guys and record label folk, and all manner of creative types who get irony.

Damn lowlifes.

 

[Ophelia Black]

*blush*

You said 'modo'. You are a God.

Love,
Ophelia

 

[Ophelia Black]

Kev rules

Aw Kev...you are the bestest! And may I add, you're no slouch in the movies, literature, "anything" category either; plus you not only know way more about hockey than me, but I bet you also don't pee on your socks trying to take a leak in the great outdoors.

Or maybe you do, but you'd have to be really drunk.

 

[Ophelia Black]

I've bumped this because this guy is in town again (Vancouver) and keeps paging me about another overnight. I am going to ignore his weirdo ass, but he will be calling around today.

He's calling from the Marriot Pinnacle. Vancouver girls, check BC Darlings and Kiarra's site for more details.

 

[fernie]

I still say that your "shag me retarded" line may very well attract those who get irony, but will also attract neanderthals who don't bother to read the fine print then treat you with disrespect. Your call.

Fernie

 

[Ophelia Black]

And I disagree. As I stated before, only two weirdos in one year is a pretty positive stat, and tells me my site works very well - most people I've spoken with have had many more problems with creeps than I have.

My call is simple - this particular guy was simply an asshole, and it has nothing to do with my site. He was an asshole before he saw it, and I'm sure he's an asshole now.

 

[fernie]

What can I say? Your web page appeals to some, while it may turn off others. Of course it's your call. It's not my cup of tea.

Fernie