I don't know if any person here has experience this but about 2 years ago I was rejected by a girl that I really care about and had strong feeling for. Even thought I have told my friends that I gotten over her deep down inside I still have lingering feeling for her. The feeling seem to come and go about 5 months ago I fell into a great depression over her. I'm better now but still struggle every day.
Dealing with rejection
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You're wrong that's not the cure.Sex is never a cure for your feelings toward someone. It can be a diversion, very deep personal feelings for someone may fade over a long time but the re occurring pain and depression could go on for years.If you are depressed and unable to deal on a daily base then seek professional help. I speak from experience.
i guess it didn't work for you, which is too bad. but for me, getting back on the horse is the best cure.
well if after 2 years you are still not moving on. and go into a deep depression then you should seek profesional help.. not in the form of a escort either.. a doctor my dear..
I disagree about deploying on a punani fest. Rejection isn't about finding a substitute (a paid one at that!).
What has worked for me is getting it into my head that it wasn't worth stressing over someone who obviously didn't feel the same about me. It is a waste of time when I could be living my life.
What has worked for me is getting it into my head that it wasn't worth stressing over someone who obviously didn't feel the same about me. It is a waste of time when I could be living my life.
I agree that there's more to dealing with rejection than simply fucking someone else. However, I think your brain is a multi-layered thing, and you have to address all layers. The animal layer of your brain is the part that makes rejection viscerally painful and definitely responds well to fucking someone else. Your longer term cognitive notions about how your life was going to go, which may be related to chronic depression arising from a negative outlook, etc., are better dealt with through reflection.
So I think it's a matter of all of the above, but for me, it was a lot easier to get on with the cool, rational business of reflection after I fucked the shit out of another woman.
So I think it's a matter of all of the above, but for me, it was a lot easier to get on with the cool, rational business of reflection after I fucked the shit out of another woman.
Sex with others is not a cure, it's a coping strategy ... and it's a better coping strategy than many others (booze, drugs, arguing with strangers on the internet). Consider red's suggestion not because it will help you get over your depression/feelings of loss, but because it will keep you going until enough time has passed that the hurt fades.
Meeting someone you feel as strongly about (or more strongly) who does not reject you is the only lasting cure.
Meeting someone you feel as strongly about (or more strongly) who does not reject you is the only lasting cure.
Sure Dr. Fuji, chronic depression is well known to respond well to "reflection." Right....
Been there myself...took years but probably the best thing to do is move on, there are lots of women out there.
Even when girls compliment me, I treat everything with a grain of salt and don't take it seriously. However, just this afternoon this very young looking (probably 17 or 18) sexy mulatto girl was walking her dog and she tapped my shoulder and smiled "Hello sweetie". I was dumb-founded and smiled back and just continued walking. I'm 41 and over twice her age and old enough to be her father. Was waiting to find somebody show me the hidden camera for the gag. LOL
My point is we forget about rejection almost immediately once a hot piece of ass shows you some affection and attention. How soon we forget about being dissed and just get back on the saddle. Just wait for the next hand of poker to be dealt your way.
My point is we forget about rejection almost immediately once a hot piece of ass shows you some affection and attention. How soon we forget about being dissed and just get back on the saddle. Just wait for the next hand of poker to be dealt your way.
It depends on the cause. There's chronic depression arising from an ongoing, real life setback, which is a healthy, normal response that is actually productive--saps you of energy and causes you to abandon a lost cause. Then there's unexplained/chemical/whatever chronic depression that has no good cause and is simply counter productive in your life.
If you're depressed for a good reason (loss of a girl, loss of a job) then certainly reflection can help.
If you have the other kind of depression then yes you need to seek medical/psychological help to figure out why, as it may have a chemical rather than a life-experience basis.
But it's wrong to assert that depression is always a bad thing, or that reflection never helps. It really depends on the cause of the depression.
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Thanks for the advices guys/gals
I gave up hobbying after I met her I thought she was the one then after she rejected me I went back to it again just wasn't the same felt every time I when am kissing a SP I thought of her. I try going on vacation alone and with friends didn't help the pain it was just too much. I've been rejected before in the past but this one hurts the most. I really thought she was the ONE
I gave up hobbying after I met her I thought she was the one then after she rejected me I went back to it again just wasn't the same felt every time I when am kissing a SP I thought of her. I try going on vacation alone and with friends didn't help the pain it was just too much. I've been rejected before in the past but this one hurts the most. I really thought she was the ONE
It is no cure. It is only a treatment. Like diabetes and insulin, you have to accept that you might need fuck someone else once a day for the rest of your life.
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