Dating an Sp, MPA........

[DaisyDoesAmerica]

hmm...

Interesting comment. I heard tell from hobbyiests wjho have dated Sp's as well as by some Sp's that the last thing an Sp wants to do on her time off is to spend time having alot of sex.

I guess that makes sense when you figure that a top Sp is having sex with upwards of fifteen or more guys a week. One lady told me she needed her time off just to rest up and relax and away from the physical and emotional toll that this profession brings with it.

i never really thought of it like that but honestly if im gunna date someone and work as an SP...its two different things..its a job...then its a boyfriend..when i get home from any job sure im gunna be tired but when i see my man im not just gunna cuddle into him lol...save that for later! But i do have to agree that it can defintely be hard to seperate the two...sometimes the emotional aspect takes over and you might just wanna go home cuddle up and (after a hard day) know that you're respected and loved (aww...muffin..i kno pass u the bucket right??!!...(but again..that goes along with any profession!...sometiems you go home and need a little assurance before you can turn into a roaring lioness!!)

 

[CaptainCharisma]

I've dated 2 dancers before, never dated an SP or MPA.

Someone indicated that it is a roller coaster ride. Saying that is still quite the understatement. The sex industry is a different world.

I would never be able to handle the fact that my "girlfriend" has sex with other guys for a living, so I'd never date an SP or an MPA unless they've quit for good.

JMO.

 

[DaisyDoesAmerica]

I've dated 2 dancers before, never dated an SP or MPA.

Someone indicated that it is a roller coaster ride. Saying that is still quite the understatement. The sex industry is a different world.

I would never be able to handle the fact that my "girlfriend" has sex with other guys for a living, so I'd never date an SP or an MPA unless they've quit for good.

JMO.

i completely agree with you...how far can the relationship go unless eventually the industry is taken out of the equation? thats gotta b one hell of a trust issue!
on second thought..even if the "industry" was in the beginning of the equation...wouldn't you guys always have that second little thought in your mind? can you guys seperate the two? (i've always been kinda curious about this too musk!) i know if i dated a guy that was even a hobbyist...id probably drive myself nuts w/ "what if's" (especially since i kno the hobby doesn't stop..for anything really...lol *thinks back to thread about sp's in japan!*)
*Daisy

 

[skyalr]

my 2cents

Well, this is a very interesting thread that is on the "top" right now, funny how some things interest you and others dont.

I guess this thread just hits close to home and I thought I'd add my thoughts to it aswell.........

The old saying always sticks and that is " what you dont know, doesnt hurt you"

If you are married for 40 plus years and your spouse, male or female, had been unfaithful for 39 of thouse 40 years and you knew nothing of it , would it hurt you?

Of course not, the same saying that if a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to see it , does it make a sound ?

Well whos to say it even fell?

Sometimes in life you do what you feel is best for you and no one is going to stay "completly" comited to some one for ever, if you dont act on you thoughts, you still have them and isnt the thought of sleeping with someone eles just as "bad" as doing it?

Another note that I wanted to add is that MOST SP's , MP's or Dancers live completly different lifes then you would think.

A "roller coaster ride" is not for me, I want the simple life and as long as we are safe, warm and not hungry, Im happy.

I dont need a 2006 BMW or a $300,000.00 house so that 75% of it collects dust 90% of the time.

I know ALOT of women in this biz and they are people that you can call and vent to untill your blue in the face and they still lisen, and when you done your phone call, they remind you of how much they love you and you feel uplifted.

Thats not to say that some of the women are not messed because there are a few that are, but most a great women, who know that this biz is a steping stone and they are bettering their lives.

I wish that more people would look at these women as people , and not as , how many clients they saw in that day or week. What cup size they are and do they have any tattos........ lol they are beautiful women inside and out.

Anyways might just be pregnancy hormones acting up tonight, but I just wanted to vent................. take care everyone.

Sky

 

[DaisyDoesAmerica]

Sky, I agree with you....as you said a lot of things that I feel the same about, and I had stated in my earlier post. Does that mean I am pregnant also!? People are people, they all have feelings, some are pleasant (Eeyore for instance), and some are not. In the end, if you treat people as people ... then many will touch your heart and soul. I have always felt it was more than just sex ... as humans we crave to be liked, to be loved, to be treated well, as individuals ... now matter who you are or what you do.

i understand where you guys are coming from... personally i have had one too many experiences finding out what i wasn't supposed to know, and it hurts in the end...while i can't say anything against anyone for having a relationship or keeping one (i had a bf for the first bit, and will probably again at some point have a bf..so im definitely not innocent in this situation and am a bit of a hippocrit) i can't help but think about if the shoe was on the other foot and i had a man sleeping with 20 other people a week...like i said i had a relationship and had this job and the relationship was still completely normal..but i thought about it a lot and personally found the stress of him "finding out" wasn't worth the money! i found that more difficult on my head then any aspect of the work!!
again this is just me and as you all kno im ...shall we say..."unique" lol..everyone is different and everyone has their own opinions (and god bless canada - the right to have them!) so i guess ill leave this one at to each their own and everyones different..!

 

[Musketeer]

i understand where you guys are coming from... personally i have had one too many experiences finding out what i wasn't supposed to know, and it hurts in the end...while i can't say anything against anyone for having a relationship or keeping one (i had a bf for the first bit, and will probably again at some point have a bf..so im definitely not innocent in this situation and am a bit of a hippocrit) i can't help but think about if the shoe was on the other foot and i had a man sleeping with 20 other people a week...like i said i had a relationship and had this job and the relationship was still completely normal..but i thought about it a lot and personally found the stress of him "finding out" wasn't worth the money! i found that more difficult on my head then any aspect of the work!!
again this is just me and as you all kno im ...shall we say..."unique" lol..everyone is different and everyone has their own opinions (and god bless canada - the right to have them!) so i guess ill leave this one at to each their own and everyones different..!

Yes, you are very much entitled to your opinion and I do appreciate your sincerity and honesty.

You are a very 'unique' young lady and I'm glad you've given your us your perspective from an Sp's point of view.

I'm also happy that this post has generated some honest discussion on the subject.

 

[magicmanofmassage]

I hesitated to respond to this post, as it brings up good and at the same time sad memories. I had dated someone who was an ex-SP for some time. She was an SP prior to my dating her, and she had quit the industry, however we continued to stay in contact (no, it is not Jersey in case any of you are wondering, although I consider Jersey to be a true friend). We met, had dinners, and enjoyed each other's company. She was incredible, warm, and kind. Far be it for me to ever judge her past. She often said to me that I never treated her as an SP. I never really understood what she meant, as I always treat everyone I meet as how they are as a person, regardless of what they do for a living. Perhaps she said this as others in the past did not. I had very strong feelings for her, as she made me feel wonderful, whether I was just with her, having dinner, breakfast or our nights together. It ended abrubtly, to my regret, however I realize that it was probably for the better. She is pursuing studies for her future, and I feared that I might in some way jeopardize this, and that is something I would never ever want. I have learned that there are a lot of incredible people I have met over the years in this industry...and if you just open your heart and treat them the way you want to be treated, they too open up, and you make some incredible friends. Life is too short to live it any other way...

Well said, my friend. I may have to start calling you "brother". I'm glad I got back before this thread slide down the list. If you hadn't written what you did, my response would have been almost identical. Thanks for taking the words out of my mouth.

This industry has some of the most amazing women that exist and that does NOT include the sex!

 

[Loner113]

Agree

I totally agree...

Like any other businesses, once you mix between personal and professional lives, you are screwed.

I guess the same thing with this business. Umm, but don;t know how it feels??
Sometimes I would like to have a sp girlfriend myself.
Nobody perfect anyway!!

Well said, my friend. I may have to start calling you "brother". I'm glad I got back before this thread slide down the list. If you hadn't written what you did, my response would have been almost identical. Thanks for taking the words out of my mouth.

This industry has some of the most amazing women that exist and that does NOT include the sex!

 

[Aloha]

I think it takes some really "special" people to love you for who you really are. I have to agree with Sky. What some people don't know, won't hurt them. These are the choices we make in life and Only "we" have to live with them. Everything else should be acceptance. Accept people for who they are and love them for who they are.

 

[magicmanofmassage]

I think it takes some really "special" people to love you for who you really are. I have to agree with Sky. What some people don't know, won't hurt them. These are the choices we make in life and Only "we" have to live with them. Everything else should be acceptance. Accept people for who they are and love them for who they are.

Careful there gorgeous, you're showing that intelligence again. That will just totally screw up the "blonde joke thread" that's running right now.

I will agree with you and Sky, but only to a point. If someone loves you for who you are, then there is no choice that has to be made and therefore no one will get hurt.

Make your life simple, you'll live longer and happier!

 

[CaptainCharisma]

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=109631

Read the post above and lets discuss whether the same applies to SPs and MPAs - I also posted in that thread that sometimes dating someone in the sex industry is just a complete NIGHTMARE depending on who you`re dating.

 

[Yarmon]

I think it takes some really "special" people to love you for who you really are. I have to agree with Sky. What some people don't know, won't hurt them. These are the choices we make in life and Only "we" have to live with them. Everything else should be acceptance. Accept people for who they are and love them for who they are.

Shanna
Well said.
But then you are pretty easly to like and to love.
I find that the local ladies seem to be different than others I have meet in other places. Many of the local girls are smart, funny, friendly, and very easy to get addicted to!
Yarmon

 

[Musketeer]

Shanna
Well said.
But then you are pretty easly to like and to love.
I find that the local ladies seem to be different than others I have meet in other places. Many of the local girls are smart, funny, friendly, and very easy to get addicted to!
Yarmon

Amen to that. Truer words were never spoken.

There should an SP Addiction Foundation set-up in KW. I'm sure they would have alot of members. Lol!