This is probably the best advice from my original thread and this one too. I don`t care how hot she is or about mind bending sex either. I believe you would always be totally on edge, like being around a 100 year old live artillery shell..you never know... What really concerns me is the very real possibility of a false accusation of domestic violence or sexual assault. You do not want to be tagged with one of those. As I mentioned she called herself crazy numerous times and not in a self deprecating funny way either. The man hating talk was far too alarming to let slide also. The final straw was the no money situation, never a wise idea to be with a woman who has no money. Lastly...has any man ever been with a woman who felt threatened and defensive when you were an absolute gentleman and treated her like Royalty?... I have now.
A couple of things.
Everything you said about no money, man-hating talk, self-loathing talk, are all good reasons to not date someone. As for fear of accusation, that is with any woman as well. None that has anything to do with Bi-Polar. That could be said for quite a few of my neighbours who are classified as "normal". So you didn't actually decline to date this woman because of her disorder. I feell that is important.
Second, and I am not trying to be rude but we only have your word that you are an absolute gentleman. My ex would say the same thing to everyone. He had a job, a better house, car, way more money then I had. No past abuse in life, he was the poster child for the good white man. Yet behind closed doors, he was a monster. Drunk, physically, emotional and yes sexually abusive. The cycle of DV was very hard to get out of and even though I am out, every day I worry about his retaliation, of him showing up at my door, using some text app to send me messages in the middle of the night calling me a cunt. This man was so sick, he would be fighting with me while being a perfect gentleman on text with another woman. I'm begging, screaming for him to leave my house, not our shared house, MY house. He plants his ass on the couch and says call the cops while doing this texting. The woman on the other end of the texts thinks she is getting to know a great guy, who is a gentleman, with a good job, good looking, funny, etc.
So while you say you are what you are, and I'm not saying you are anything like my ex, we only have your word and for me at least, that is not enough to answer your last question. Hope that makes sense.