This sounds like she knows about some of your straying? If so, it explains a lot, and I verrrrry seriously doubt sex clubs will fix anything. She obviously does not see your sexual activities as making you a stud and I am not sure you are sensitive enough to understand how to include her or what she may need emotionally while you do it. You fucking 10s in front of her is most certainly not going to be it.
I know have a high sex drive. I've had sex in front of people, performed and clearly loved it... I think seeing SPs has hurt us in terms of me being able to complete. She's good looking, no doubt about it. That's not enough obviously as there is resentment combined with me being with others (younger and/or sex-driven women). My hope is that voyeurism will be a spark... Maybe she'll feel better about herself, see me in a better light sexually in comparison. I don't know...
I want to hit 10's across the board as I'm hoping things will take off.
Seeing SPs is fun but not enough to really get me going. Seeing civilians is where things will truly fall apart.