here's the thing...
I've been thinking about this lately,
The thing that makes the SJ experience enjoyable is that when you get dances from a good dancer she spends that time trying to turn you on. Teasing you. With each passing song she ups the ante. In fact it’s in her best interest to do this since she is paid per song. If the pace is too slow the customer might decide to leave and find someone else. If the pace is too fast she won’t get as much money as she could have. So, she has to find a pace that keeps the customer engaged and anticipating the next tickle of excitement.
Add to that;
a) The fact that there is no guarantee she has any
intention of “getting you over the finish line”
b) There is a bouncer patrolling to make sure no one is doing
something they shouldn’t be.
c) You’re doing this in a public/semi public place
d) It’s a little naughty
If all these things come into play and you do “cross the finish line” It can be a very satisfying experience. In fact a good dance is the male equivalent of foreplay. It’s definitely a good thing.
So why then would a guy, if given the option simply skip to the end and cross the finish line in record time? I don’t have a simple answer to that question except that they can. It’s ultimately where they want to get to, where the most intense pleasure is. Still getting there in record time is never as satisfying as getting there slowly.
It kind of like the reasoning people use when they buy a new video game because they want the challenge of playing it and then go to the internet, get the cheat codes, and take all the fun out of beating the game fairly.
Maybe spock said it best ( although I’m sure he was talking about something else)
"Having a thing is not nearly so pleasurable as wanting a thing."
Twiz