....oh, thanks for the laugh!!
You weren't trying to get her pants because you were lookign for a "long, meaningful relationship" of celibacy?
You WERE trying to get in her pants, and you thought being Mr. Nice Guy would do it.
You would have been more successful had you just said to her "I want to get in your pants". You'd be surprised at how often it works if you you act like a gentleman, treat the girl like a lady, and and be plain about what you want.
I am not suggesting that you can pick up women in bars at the drop of a hat (though it happens...but I am not claiming to have magical pick up artist skills or anything). I am saying that an amazing number of women will have no problem with you being straight forward that you are interested in an intimate relationship.
Works for me...I've been getting laid very regularly since my separation telling chick who I connect with (online, meet in a grocery store, whatever) that what I am looking for is a FWB situation. Not a booty call...I won't show up after calling at 1:00am drunk and looking to get fucked (though a couple of them are perfectly kewl with that now)...but a FWB whereby you take them out, treat them like a lady, you fuck, and then you move on until you meet again. In other words, they are your GF when they are with you, but when they are not, they are not.
No lie I've had about 6 to 8 of these arrangements in the last year until I actually did get attached to one of them, so now she is my GF. I try to stick to just her but...hey...boys just want to have fun.
Now I will say that these are all WOMEN...over the age of 35....not 20 something stuck on themselves types. And none of them could be models, though about half are about equal to most of the strippers I have seen in my day, just older.
But yeah...many women will tell you that you'd be amazed at what you can get if you just ask for it without making the girl feel cheap or like a tramp...